@ Wolf... wasn't expecting too much from my brother, tbh. Though, his 'blast from the past' comments was fully intended sarcastically and in a douchebag way. You'd have to know my brother to get that. The last conversation we had was not pleasant at all, and at one point attacked the character and behaviour of my (then 16 year old) kids, and we hung up the phone on one another.
As for my father, one would thing that a grandfather would at least ask how his grandkids are doing? Even a simple 'how are you guys doing' would be some kind of indicator that there might be some interest on his end to rekindle the relationship. The flat, non-interested replies verify he (and my brother) have no interest. Which is fine. As I said, I mourned the loss of those relationships long ago. My father had abandoned me 3 times in my life (and twice with my wife/kids), and I'm in no hurry to be the one to give him a 4th opportunity.
@ Gary ... Jesus Horatio! That's fucked up. I believe a lot of States consider DP's to be child pornography. Is that the case in MO?