Had a catch up this morning. He is very set in his ways. He wasn't agressive and listened to everything we had to say but could tell he was looking at me at times like he didn't like what I was saying. It was civil and hopefully a good outcome at the end. We recommended that learning the job first is important before wanting to change. We are all up for change but there's time, and we are in a busy period so now is not really the best time.
I told him, I'm not a controlling person but I'm here for support and we are to work together. I did tell him I've dedicated my life to this job for a long long time so while I'm happy for him to take charge once he's confortable, I'm still going to be involved.
Staff rang me about an issue on Saturday and he said he didn't understand why they didn't ring him. I looked at him and said, 'you've been here 4 days mate.' So by looking at past history he's been in a lot of job for short periods of time so I think building rapports and working and developing staff may be something he hasn't had a lot of dealing with. But to expect staff to ring him after 4 days as opposed to myself who is a piece of old antique furniture was strange to me. I don't think he really knows what he's in for, but I'm taking upon myself to take charge and guide hiim that way if things don't work out he can never say he didn't get trained or support. He was also asking staff about verious operations which is fine to a degree, but I said don't avoid me, I'm pretty easy going and will help you if you show respect and work with me. There's no 'me' or 'my staff' we are a team, and that's the way I work. He did say with some things he's very black and white and by the book. We will clash there, I'm hands on and deal with things in front of me and realise while yes guidelines are black and white, sometimes things just don't work like that. I like bending the rules and doing what I need to do at times to operate and get shit done when I need to. Unless it's totally unsafe or unreasonable, I'm not going to sacrifice service or my staff. He disagreed with that, but we'll see, maybe a balance will work out.
At least I tackled this head on within 2 days. happy I didn't stew and get more bitter. I take my job seriously but not enough now to make myself sick with stress and anger. it seems his communication and language is a bit slack and my boss said it comes across a little harsh and he needs to tone it down and format and write emails a bit more eloquently and formally. I thought email writing was quite a common sense thing in a corporation until at least you've got familiar relationships.
Time will tell now. One day at a time.