Ben, unless you have children and watched them struggle to breathe, being completely helpless in the moment, you cannot comprehend the sheer terror of that experience. Im not even going to read any more of your bullshit post above.
When presented with the possibility that my child is sick with covid, that is exactly where my thoughts go. If you think that's wrong, you can just ___ off. Just yesterday in a neighboring suburb was a "medical freedom rally." Jackass parents in other suburbs are protesting covid mask mandates in schools ON SCHOOL WALKING ROUTES. Kids walking to school have to thread their way through parents with signs and shouting. That is not cool.
Yes, he is ok, despite being sick as hell. But to come down on me so hard is awful and shows me just what kind of person you really are.
I was going to back you up but you beat me to it. We parents just love it when a non-parent can possibly ever try and comprehend what being a parent is like and then have the gall to question our behavior when worried about our kids.
I would have been exactly like Grapp. No question.
So just to be clear on this point, I'm on Grappler's side here. And I suppose by extension, yours as well. I think Ben's remark was somewhat incorrect, but not in the way y'all think. I mostly think it just wasn't really worth saying under the circumstances. Grappler's concerned about his kid, and I'm damn sure not going to knock him for that. Hope things turn out well.
That said, much like we non-parents can't comprehend this and that and the other, parents seem to have an equally rough go at trying to see things from the non-parent perspective, which, believe it or not, is every bit as valid. Where I think Ben was wrong was that
all parents "jump to those assumptions and start to become emotional to where they affect their overall thought process." As I've said before, parenthood makes people lose their fucking minds. Reason is quickly replaced by emotionalism. This is not a bad thing, per se.
Parents become what they need to be. Just don't be so quick to dismiss what those of us looking in from the outside have to say. The dispassionate, alternative perspective is just as important, and just as valid.
In this case, it probably wasn't. Grappler's emotional response was quite valid. At the same time, sometimes people like us need to remind parents that maybe $400 on a bulletproof backpack for you kid isn't as wise as dropping the same 4 bills into an investment account for him.