I'm in a situation that isn't entirely dissimilar from Chad...I haven't spoken with my dad in approaching three years, and have only exchanged a handful of texts in that time. I told my narcissistic, manipulative, abusive mother to fuck off into the sun, and despite him agreeing with me that "she's a real fucking bitch" (his words), it was just easier for him to keep the status quo with her and let any relationship with me lapse, despite me reaching out to him about it. So when the time inevitably comes (they'll both be 75 this year), it's going to be...weird. I'm accepting that, if something happens quickly rather than slowly, I might never speak to him again. And the only real shot at reestablishing anything with him is if my mother kicks off first. Sigh.