Feeling a little down lately because it's dawned on me that I am graduating in college and there are so many ways my future could go. Just a little scared and worried I guess that they won't go the way I want them to. If anyone here has ever felt like this before, a PM or reply would mean a great deal right now.
All you kids out there...here's what I tell my college students when they start worrying about this kind of stuff.
You DON'T have to know what you want to do when you graduate college - or even before that. Changing careers is somewhat common nowadays because people tend to get bored with things faster since we have access to and are exposed to an exponentially greater amount of information than previous generations. If you know what you want to do, great. But if you don't just keep looking for your calling and hold down the fort until you find it, or it finds you. Becoming a university professor wasn't really an idea I had for myself until I was 25 and passed my prelim. Before that I was just doing chemistry I liked with no real thought of where it would take me.
Life is NOT going to follow you script you try to write, so don't try to script too much, or you're just going to be dissapointed. I didn't marry my college gf, my football coaching career got curtailed by chemistry and school work, and the wealth I accumulated didn't come from some grand idea overnight, I earned it grinding away at work, poker tables, and over backgammon boards. My friend's wife died of cancer at the age of 25. Shit happens that you can't possibly prepare for, so just keep loose plans like, "find a job I like", or "pay down student debt early". Is where I am and what I'm doing what I imagined for myself when I was in college? No. Am I enjoying the unexpected ride? By and large yes.
You're not that special. Don't worry, neither am I. Prepare to accept that your life will by and large...be average. The upside to that is that the people you see that you think are successful aren't that much further from you - usually only separated by years of experience you will eventually gain. Your generation has by and large been shielded from failure, and the bid bad real world is going be an ice cold pitcher of water dumped on you. It's not lethal though, its just water. Dry yourself off and continue on with life. Shake it off and carve out your little niche. The world probably won't know your name, but if you do things right you'll permanently etch it into the hearts and minds a few people. Do them wrong and you end up on youtube or reality TV
Don't try to micromanage your life. You only get one chance to live. While we all have to work and take care of our responsibilities, but make sure you take at least a few minutes everyday to do something you enjoy, no matter how frivolous it may seem - it will keep you sane.
You can dissavow all this now - I know I would have...but in 10 years you'll be making this same post to the next batch of kids, and I'll be right here to say with a wink, "I told you so."