How do you stop a woman from bullying you?

[AndyDT]

For whatever reason some, and only some, women seem to think I'm a pushover or maybe they're bullies anyway. It gets to the point that they don't respect your "no" and use criticism or manipulation to get around it or bring you down. My answer is to tighten up my standards and values even more, to try to put their behaviour into view. I also was reading 2 Corinthians where Paul says "when I'm weak then I am strong" and talks about "boasting in my weakness". In other words, total honesty and congruence, reducing himself to zero to find truth (as Gandhi said 2000 years later).

Any comments from Christians or serious advice from anybody else?

[wolfandwolfandwolf]

Define "bring you down"?

Toughen up and disregard them.  This is serious advice, others may not be as kind.  You need thicker skin.

[PraXis]

Don't take this the wrong way, but you need to "grow a pair".  I used to be like that in early high school. You're being too nice. Women can easily sense this and will take advantage of you. That's why they are attracted to alpha males and not "nice" guys because they see them as weak. Walk with your head up high and ALWAYS maintain eye contact. Make sure that she is the one that looks away from you, not you first.

[eric42434224]

[theseoafs]

If you're uncomfortable with the way women are treating you, say so. You're a man. You can say what you want.

If they still don't honor your requests, there's no reason to spend time with these people.

[eric42434224]

Mods.  Please.  Really?  PR?   

[wolfandwolfandwolf]

He did say 'Christians'. 

[BlobVanDam]

Mods.  Please.  Really?  PR?   

Uh oh, are we sure Andy has access to GD?

[KevShmev]

Call her fat.

Make fun of her makeup (if she is wearing too much, or insinuate that she is ugly and needs to wear more).

Call her fat again.

[wolfandwolfandwolf]

Call her fat.

Make fun of her makeup (if she is wearing too much, or insinuate that she is ugly and needs to wear more).

Call her fat again.

Ask if she is pregnant or just fat.

[rumborak]

Or, just show her all the threads here on DTF. That should do it methinks.

rumborak

[kirksnosehair]

Call her fat.

Make fun of her makeup (if she is wearing too much, or insinuate that she is ugly and needs to wear more).

Call her fat again.

Ask if she is pregnant or just fat.

No, the best way to do this is to just ask "what's your due date?"   

[Silver Tears]

Jeez remind me never to get on the wrong side of any of you guys, my self-esteem will be in tatters 

[Dr. DTVT]

Jeez remind me never to get on the wrong side of any of you guys, my self-esteem will be in tatters 

I'd only be mean to you as a defense mechanism since I probably wouldn't get a date from a beautiful DT fan.  Pre-emptive strike.

[BlobVanDam]

Jeez remind me never to get on the wrong side of any of you guys, my self-esteem will be in tatters 

Don't worry, nobody here is low enough to insult a pregnant woman. When are you due?

Please don't hurt me. I'm physically weak.

[Silver Tears]

Congratulations blob, you've made it onto my hit list. It's very exclusive, you should be proud.

[antigoon]

[BlobVanDam]

Congratulations blob, you've made it onto my hit list. It's very exclusive, you should be proud.

Congratulations, you've made it onto my list of people whose hit list I am on. I'd like to say it's fairly exclusive, but it's a much longer list than I'd like to admit.

If it makes you feel better, you're positively glowing today.



oh boy......

[Dublagent66]

Andy, the question should be "how to prevent a woman from bullying you in the 1st place."  If it needs to be stopped then it's gone too far already. 

[Silver Tears]

Hmm a long list means more competition for me to get my hands on you first. I'm pretty sure I can do it though, nobody can get in the way of a pissed off pregnant Scot.

[lonestar]

Hmm a long list means more competition for me to get my hands on you first. I'm pretty sure I can do it though, nobody can get in the way of a pissed off pregnant Scot.

[theseoafs]

If you're uncomfortable with the way women are treating you, say so. You're a man. You can say what you want.

If they still don't honor your requests, there's no reason to spend time with these people.

I should also mention that women, in general, like to be pushed around a little bit. So you may get some action out of the deal.

[jammindude]

.....nobody can get in the way of a pissed off <snip> Scot.

The new tagline for Pixar's Brave....

[snapple]

Lube up your fist and make it easy for her to shit. That'll show 'em.

[True Death of Life]

Cmon guys, he should just shit in her cereal.

[Tick]

If you find the right partner for you, you won't experience such issues. You are obviously a passive guy. Their are women out there that will connect with you. You and aggresive woman are not a good match.
Simple as that.

[lonestar]

Tick has a good point, I know because I am very similar in nature, but tend to find myself attracted to aggressive woman.  For me, I need to find one that's aggressive in a positive way, instead of one who is aggressive out of insecurity.


On a sidenote, we need an AndyDT subforum.

[King Postwhore]

Yup. Tick is dead on.  She's not your type.  Move on.   Tick is Obi Wan Kenobi


"These aren't the aggressive girls your looking for."

[LieLowTheWantedMan]

On a sidenote, we need an AndyDT subforum.

Yes.

[comment]

Andy, the question should be "how to prevent a woman from bullying you in the 1st place."  If it needs to be stopped then it's gone too far already. 

Tick has a good point, I know because I am very similar in nature, but tend to find myself attracted to aggressive woman.  For me, I need to find one that's aggressive in a positive way, instead of one who is aggressive out of insecurity.

If you're uncomfortable with the way women are treating you, say so. You're a man. You can say what you want.

If they still don't honor your requests, there's no reason to spend time with these people.

Prayer, Counsel in your faith community, Matthew 6:33, Proverbs, Don't hold on to offenses, Pray for them.

[AcidLameLTE]

Maybe this thread will help:

https://www.dreamtheaterforums.org/boards/index.php?topic=32010.0

[senecadawg2]

"These aren't the aggressive girls your looking for."

Don't know why, but this really sent me over the edge! 

As for Andy, if she is bullying you.... just tease her a bit.

My girlfriend asked me to tease her last night. I said, "alright fatty".

[jcmistat]

Take her to your kitchen she will make you a delicious sandwich.

[ZBomber]

Maybe this thread will help:

https://www.dreamtheaterforums.org/boards/index.php?topic=32010.0

[Gadough]

Shove your tits in her face. That should shudderup.