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Title: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: AndyDT on April 27, 2012, 09:18:16 AM
For whatever reason some, and only some, women seem to think I'm a pushover or maybe they're bullies anyway. It gets to the point that they don't respect your "no" and use criticism or manipulation to get around it or bring you down. My answer is to tighten up my standards and values even more, to try to put their behaviour into view. I also was reading 2 Corinthians where Paul says "when I'm weak then I am strong" and talks about "boasting in my weakness". In other words, total honesty and congruence, reducing himself to zero to find truth (as Gandhi said 2000 years later).

Any comments from Christians or serious advice from anybody else?
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: wolfandwolfandwolf on April 27, 2012, 09:26:47 AM
Define "bring you down"?

Toughen up and disregard them.  This is serious advice, others may not be as kind.  You need thicker skin.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: PraXis on April 27, 2012, 09:27:50 AM
Don't take this the wrong way, but you need to "grow a pair".  :tup I used to be like that in early high school. You're being too nice. Women can easily sense this and will take advantage of you. That's why they are attracted to alpha males and not "nice" guys because they see them as weak. Walk with your head up high and ALWAYS maintain eye contact. Make sure that she is the one that looks away from you, not you first.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: eric42434224 on April 27, 2012, 09:37:06 AM
(https://verydemotivational.files.wordpress.com/2011/01/demotivational-posters-grow-a-pear.jpg)
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: theseoafs on April 27, 2012, 09:37:51 AM
If you're uncomfortable with the way women are treating you, say so. You're a man. You can say what you want.

If they still don't honor your requests, there's no reason to spend time with these people.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: eric42434224 on April 27, 2012, 09:46:12 AM
Mods.  Please.  Really?  PR?   ???
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: wolfandwolfandwolf on April 27, 2012, 10:10:04 AM
He did say 'Christians'.  ;)
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: BlobVanDam on April 27, 2012, 10:10:18 AM
Mods.  Please.  Really?  PR?   ???


Uh oh, are we sure Andy has access to GD?
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: KevShmev on April 27, 2012, 10:18:55 AM
Call her fat.

Make fun of her makeup (if she is wearing too much, or insinuate that she is ugly and needs to wear more).

Call her fat again.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: wolfandwolfandwolf on April 27, 2012, 10:50:10 AM
Call her fat.

Make fun of her makeup (if she is wearing too much, or insinuate that she is ugly and needs to wear more).

Call her fat again.
Ask if she is pregnant or just fat.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: rumborak on April 27, 2012, 10:55:16 AM
Or, just show her all the threads here on DTF. That should do it methinks.

rumborak
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: kirksnosehair on April 27, 2012, 11:07:40 AM
Call her fat.

Make fun of her makeup (if she is wearing too much, or insinuate that she is ugly and needs to wear more).

Call her fat again.
Ask if she is pregnant or just fat.

No, the best way to do this is to just ask "what's your due date?"   :corn
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: Silver Tears on April 27, 2012, 11:08:43 AM
Jeez remind me never to get on the wrong side of any of you guys, my self-esteem will be in tatters  :P
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: Dr. DTVT on April 27, 2012, 11:27:11 AM
Jeez remind me never to get on the wrong side of any of you guys, my self-esteem will be in tatters  :P

I'd only be mean to you as a defense mechanism since I probably wouldn't get a date from a beautiful DT fan.  Pre-emptive strike.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: BlobVanDam on April 27, 2012, 11:29:35 AM
Jeez remind me never to get on the wrong side of any of you guys, my self-esteem will be in tatters  :P

Don't worry, nobody here is low enough to insult a pregnant woman. When are you due? :neverusethis:

Please don't hurt me. I'm physically weak.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: Silver Tears on April 27, 2012, 11:36:25 AM
Congratulations blob, you've made it onto my hit list. It's very exclusive, you should be proud.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: antigoon on April 27, 2012, 11:37:07 AM
:lol
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: BlobVanDam on April 27, 2012, 11:39:29 AM
Congratulations blob, you've made it onto my hit list. It's very exclusive, you should be proud.

Congratulations, you've made it onto my list of people whose hit list I am on. I'd like to say it's fairly exclusive, but it's a much longer list than I'd like to admit.

If it makes you feel better, you're positively glowing today.



oh boy......
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: Dublagent66 on April 27, 2012, 11:42:31 AM
Andy, the question should be "how to prevent a woman from bullying you in the 1st place."  If it needs to be stopped then it's gone too far already.  :hat
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: Silver Tears on April 27, 2012, 11:46:11 AM
Hmm a long list means more competition for me to get my hands on you first. I'm pretty sure I can do it though, nobody can get in the way of a pissed off pregnant Scot.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: lonestar on April 27, 2012, 12:13:04 PM
Hmm a long list means more competition for me to get my hands on you first. I'm pretty sure I can do it though, nobody can get in the way of a pissed off pregnant Scot.
  :rollin
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: theseoafs on April 27, 2012, 12:18:01 PM
If you're uncomfortable with the way women are treating you, say so. You're a man. You can say what you want.

If they still don't honor your requests, there's no reason to spend time with these people.
I should also mention that women, in general, like to be pushed around a little bit. So you may get some action out of the deal.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: jammindude on April 27, 2012, 12:20:48 PM
.....nobody can get in the way of a pissed off <snip> Scot.


The new tagline for Pixar's Brave....

 ;D
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: snapple on April 27, 2012, 02:24:13 PM
Lube up your fist and make it easy for her to shit. That'll show 'em.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: True Death of Life on April 27, 2012, 03:14:52 PM
Cmon guys, he should just shit in her cereal.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: Tick on April 27, 2012, 03:22:56 PM
If you find the right partner for you, you won't experience such issues. You are obviously a passive guy. Their are women out there that will connect with you. You and aggresive woman are not a good match.
Simple as that.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: lonestar on April 27, 2012, 03:56:01 PM
Tick has a good point, I know because I am very similar in nature, but tend to find myself attracted to aggressive woman.  For me, I need to find one that's aggressive in a positive way, instead of one who is aggressive out of insecurity.


On a sidenote, we need an AndyDT subforum.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: kingshmegland on April 27, 2012, 03:59:55 PM
Yup. Tick is dead on.  She's not your type.  Move on.   Tick is Obi Wan Kenobi


"These aren't the aggressive girls your looking for."


Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: LieLowTheWantedMan on April 27, 2012, 06:39:50 PM
On a sidenote, we need an AndyDT subforum.
Yes. :lol
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: comment on April 27, 2012, 08:00:50 PM
Andy, the question should be "how to prevent a woman from bullying you in the 1st place."  If it needs to be stopped then it's gone too far already.  :hat

Tick has a good point, I know because I am very similar in nature, but tend to find myself attracted to aggressive woman.  For me, I need to find one that's aggressive in a positive way, instead of one who is aggressive out of insecurity.

If you're uncomfortable with the way women are treating you, say so. You're a man. You can say what you want.

If they still don't honor your requests, there's no reason to spend time with these people.

Prayer, Counsel in your faith community, Matthew 6:33, Proverbs, Don't hold on to offenses, Pray for them.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: AcidLameLTE on April 27, 2012, 08:03:46 PM
Maybe this thread will help:

https://www.dreamtheaterforums.org/boards/index.php?topic=32010.0
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: senecadawg2 on April 27, 2012, 11:18:49 PM
"These aren't the aggressive girls your looking for."

Don't know why, but this really sent me over the edge!  :lol :lol :lol :lol :lol :lol :lol :lol :lol

As for Andy, if she is bullying you.... just tease her a bit.

My girlfriend asked me to tease her last night. I said, "alright fatty".
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: jcmistat on April 27, 2012, 11:40:19 PM
Take her to your kitchen she will make you a delicious sandwich.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: ZBomber on April 28, 2012, 02:14:49 AM
Maybe this thread will help:

https://www.dreamtheaterforums.org/boards/index.php?topic=32010.0

 :lol
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: Gadough on April 28, 2012, 02:42:59 AM
Shove your tits in her face. That should shudderup.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: Super Dude on April 28, 2012, 04:35:57 AM
On a sidenote, we need an AndyDT subforum.
Yes. :lol
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: jcmistat on April 28, 2012, 04:41:20 AM
Shove your tits in her face. That should shudderup.

:rollin Nothing like a good laugh before bed.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: AndyDT on April 28, 2012, 05:26:48 AM
Andy, the question should be "how to prevent a woman from bullying you in the 1st place."  If it needs to be stopped then it's gone too far already.  :hat

Tick has a good point, I know because I am very similar in nature, but tend to find myself attracted to aggressive woman.  For me, I need to find one that's aggressive in a positive way, instead of one who is aggressive out of insecurity.

If you're uncomfortable with the way women are treating you, say so. You're a man. You can say what you want.

If they still don't honor your requests, there's no reason to spend time with these people.

Prayer, Counsel in your faith community, Matthew 6:33, Proverbs, Don't hold on to offenses, Pray for them.
Thank you for that. I'm absolutely and defnitively doing these things or will work on them harder particularly not holding onto offences (which I understand to mean mentally releasing rather than not taking action, setting boundaries etc).
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: Chino on April 28, 2012, 07:05:22 AM
Here you go, Andy. Some words of wisdom.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jEmL8ITrg38
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: senecadawg2 on April 28, 2012, 08:54:03 AM
Maybe this thread will help:

https://www.dreamtheaterforums.org/boards/index.php?topic=32010.0

My favorite response  :hefdaddy  :hefdaddy  :hefdaddy

Also, about the AndyDT subforum... YES! :drool:
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: VioletS16 on April 28, 2012, 11:39:57 AM
I'm not religious, but tell her to knock it off. If she's making you feel bad, just say so. But she's not going to listen to you if you insult, hurt, or yell at her. "Hell hath seen no fury like a woman scorned" and it's true.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: Phoenix87x on April 28, 2012, 01:16:03 PM
How do you stop a woman from bullying you?

    Well, here's a tip,

(https://gifsoup.com/imager.php?id=2114548&t=o) (https://gifsoup.com/view/2114548/you-can-act-like-a-man.html) GIFSoup (https://gifsoup.com/)
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: kingshmegland on April 28, 2012, 01:19:08 PM
How do you stop a girl from bullying you.  Conk her on the head.


Serious answer,  Andy,  it seems to me that you are passive in relationships, so the are trying two things,

1. Get a rise out of you
2.  Trying to motivate you

But if these girls are not right for you,   (and that's true for many people looking for relationships)  Opt out.  Tell them in the kindest way that you are not interested.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: senecadawg2 on April 28, 2012, 06:36:53 PM
Ironically, I just found this picture of Andy online...
(https://allwomenstalk.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/12/50sexiestMen2009/Josh-Holloway-sexiest-men-celebrities.jpg)
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: hefdaddy42 on April 28, 2012, 08:30:56 PM
(https://i73.photobucket.com/albums/i238/hefdaddy42/funny/bitcheslovesonnets.jpg)
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: senecadawg2 on April 28, 2012, 09:36:04 PM
 :lol
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: wolfandwolfandwolf on April 28, 2012, 09:46:13 PM
Best thread?

best thread.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: Silver Tears on April 29, 2012, 03:08:34 AM
Ironically, I just found this picture of Andy online...
(https://allwomenstalk.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/12/50sexiestMen2009/Josh-Holloway-sexiest-men-celebrities.jpg)

My god he's hot.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: wolfking on April 29, 2012, 04:18:20 AM
For whatever reason some, and only some, women seem to think I'm a pushover or maybe they're bullies anyway. It gets to the point that they don't respect your "no" and use criticism or manipulation to get around it or bring you down. My answer is to tighten up my standards and values even more, to try to put their behaviour into view. I also was reading 2 Corinthians where Paul says "when I'm weak then I am strong" and talks about "boasting in my weakness". In other words, total honesty and congruence, reducing himself to zero to find truth (as Gandhi said 2000 years later).

Any comments from Christians or serious advice from anybody else?

It's great you always come to us for advice Andy.  Here's my contribution to your delimma and what you should do;

(https://edge.ebaumsworld.com/mediaFiles/picture/616382/981157.jpg)
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: theseoafs on April 29, 2012, 11:43:26 AM
It's humorous to me how unhelpful this thread became as soon as it was switched to GD.

Imagine what Andy's other threads would look like had they been switched as well.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: 7StringedBeast on April 29, 2012, 11:49:55 AM
Maybe this thread will help:

https://www.dreamtheaterforums.org/boards/index.php?topic=32010.0

Just noticed your avatar.  Love it!
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: Dr. DTVT on April 29, 2012, 01:22:31 PM
It's humorous to me how unhelpful this thread became as soon as it was switched to GD.

Imagine what Andy's other threads would look like had they been switched as well.

The location isn't the key, it's just that more people are willing to chime in outside of P/R, which is probably the big reason Andy posts non P/R topics in P/R anyway, it's like keeping it in the family.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: senecadawg2 on April 29, 2012, 05:42:10 PM
Ironically, I just found this picture of Andy online...
(https://allwomenstalk.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/12/50sexiestMen2009/Josh-Holloway-sexiest-men-celebrities.jpg)

My god he's hot.

Aye. I feel perfectly secure in my sexual orientation of being straight, yet still find myself oddly attracted to him. Yet unfortunately, he has no self-esteem and is constantly being bullied by women.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: wolfking on April 29, 2012, 06:19:47 PM
Seriously, who is that guy?
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: True Death of Life on April 29, 2012, 06:40:59 PM
Seriously, who is that guy?

 :corn
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: Super Dude on April 29, 2012, 07:13:16 PM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9V9v2IRYqpU
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: wolfking on April 29, 2012, 07:22:28 PM
Never got into that show.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: VioletS16 on April 30, 2012, 12:05:52 PM
Sawyer from Lost, oh gawd  :lol my grandmother has a SERIOUS crush on him, to the point where she stuck pictures of him all over her work place and set him as her desktop background on her PC. She has a picture of him in a picture frame, like he's her son or something, and even has an action figure of him.  :lol Never have found him very attractive though.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: Silver Tears on May 01, 2012, 03:09:02 AM
Ahahaha that sounds like a pretty big crush  :lol Yeah he's not my usual type but I most definitely wouldn't say no.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: MetalJunkie on May 01, 2012, 03:14:05 AM
Seriously, who is that guy?

 :corn
He played Sawyer in Lost. He was also in Mission Impossible: Ghost Protocol.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: lonestar on May 01, 2012, 07:53:07 AM
Ahahaha that sounds like a pretty big crush  :lol Yeah he's not my usual type but I most definitely wouldn't say no.

You can say no? :biggrin:
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: Silver Tears on May 01, 2012, 09:59:42 AM
Well not to you :eyebrows:
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: lonestar on May 02, 2012, 03:30:11 PM
Not many can.  :hat
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: kingshmegland on May 02, 2012, 05:25:25 PM
To quote a DT reference.,

Chunk and Balls.  That's my answer.
Title: Re: How do you stop a woman from bullying you?
Post by: senecadawg2 on May 02, 2012, 05:39:31 PM
Sawyer.