But isn't it one of those things where you can both have what you want? You still get to see one show, and you see that show. Only the cosmos knows whether if there was static setlist if you would have seen a different show. So those of us that only see one show accept the presentation we get. That's our experience. But those that can or do see multiple shows get to have something slightly new for the "effort".
First of all, that's a privileged point of view. "Those that can..." get some sort of reward. For any number of reasons, not everyone can, period, as much as they may wish to put in that "effort". It's not just all about effort, for example the aggrivation and energy it takes to drive through three states to see another show. For some people it's other, more pressing factors such as in my case where I simply could not get that much time off in a year and still have my job (where I am established, but still have to follow certain rules about how much time off I am allowed within certain parameters). Or in the case of someone like my younger brother for example who being quite young is not yet established enough financially to buy that many tickets.
That's why it was in quotes; believe me, I understand that it's not always easy or practical to see the shows we WANT to see. But maybe I'm jaded, here, but that's life. You keep saying "privilege", but I'm starting from a position that we have ZERO entitlement to ANY of this. It's ALL a gift. We're talking setlists here, but by this reckoning, cruises are a rip off for every fan that can't go, Morsefest is a rip off for every fan that can't go, Marillion Weekend is a rip off for every fan that can't go... I get it, I really do. But this is exactly why I say it's "FOMO". It's not Neal's or Marillion's or Dream Theater's responsibility that every single fan gets the exact same "value" or "benefit" by their output.
While I do respect everyone's opinion on this, I would love to understand better all the points of view, and to be honest, I'm really struggling to understand this concept of being "ripped off" because a song or two was played at another show somewhere else that I never had any intention of seeing anyway. I've got over 350 shows under my belt at this point, and I honestly cannot name ONE where I was like "Great show, but Poughkeepsie got 'Bohemian Rhapsody' and I didn't." "FOMO" doesn't seem to me to be a band problem; it seems to me to be a fan problem.
As I explained above, thinking "FOMO" is the issue is also privilege talking. It's not simply about that for many people.
Also, do you really think nobody looks at published setlists? Even ahead of buying tickets? If anything, if the band wants people to buy more tickets to more shows, they'd be better off not rotating setlists each night, but making sure they change up the setlists for each leg/tour. Because otherwise, for example, I'd be less likely to buy a ticket on the second leg for a show in Boston if it's the same exact setlist we got six months ago in Wallingford. In that event, I could probably think of better ways to use up that precious allotted time off (like maybe by supporting another band this time around).
If it's not "FOMO", what is it, then? That's the question I'm asking. And I'm trying not to ask it in a confrontational way, I'm sincerely curious. What does the setlist in Poughkeepsie or Albany or Buffalo have to do with the show I see in Wallingford or Bridgeport?
Look, as a Kiss fan, I hear you on some of this; Kiss has been touring the same setlist since 1996 more or less. And maybe that's informed me here; I know I'm not going to get "She" or some of the deeper tracks and so I make my choices accordingly; I'm never going to a Kiss show with the understanding that "I'm going to hear this". And yes, I understand looking up setlist; I have an account at Setlist.fm and I will sometimes be the guy updating the list at the show (or at intermission, whatever). But there seems to me a difference between that and an EXPECTATION that I hear a certain song. I don't want to get into a back and forth with you here - it's a civil conversation and as I noted, I'm seeking answers - but the real "privilege" seems to me to be this idea that I'm somehow entitled to a certain song. Short of the band not taking the stage, I don't feel the fan has ANY entitlement to what goes on, UNLESS there is something specifically billed. If Gene opts not to fly to the rafters during "God Of Thunder" (has happened twice to me), or Devin decides not to sing the encore with James at my show (didn't happen), I don't have any entitlement to that, nor do I have any expectation of it.