Okay Stads, but if your ex wife put out a Facebook status saying "I understand Stads' decision to go back to his ex-girlfriend at this time", that would in fact not be saying it was an act of attrition too complicated to put into words, and any nosy second cousin snooping on her Facebook could have the right to assume the decision to divorce was yours. Whatever happened in the run up to your decision to reunite with your ex girlfriend could be complicated and difficult to put into a little box of responsibility, but the decision itself to divorce and the direct reason for it is publicly assigned to you by your ex wife.
No, you are again assuming one position and ignoring other possibilities. The ONLY thing that is being said in that scenario is that she understands
one decision. That says nothing about when the two decisions were made in relation to one another and whether there was any causal connection between the two. The above comment fits perfectly with either of these two situations:
1. Stadler intended to get back with his ex and decided to divorce
because of that decision. OR
2. Stadler made the decision to divorce first, and
then independently decided to get back with his ex.
Scenario #2 fits perfectly with the comment. If asked to elaborate rather than make a short social media post, she might say, "Well, he's no longer with me, so chances are that he would get together with someone. And I understand that he and his ex had re-opened lines of communication over the last few years and things were amicable again. So since he was no longer with me, and both of them were available, I totally understand his decision to get back together with her."
And as with the actual scenario at hand, there are plenty of other scenarios that could fit as well. We just don't know.
No one says "I understand the decision" instead of "we made a decision" if something was done mutually.
Sure they do. Why wouldn't they?