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Stadler · « **on:** June 17, 2022, 08:47:30 AM »

I debated a long posts, honoring him, I debated nothing at all except a few PMs, but since I write about him often, and he's a towering figure in my life, I thought I would share.

I lost my Dad to cancer Wednesday afternoon. He was 83, and is survived by his wife of 58 years, and his two sons, Stadler and Waldorf (not really). I'm in Florida; my brother and I had to break the news to my mom, who has Alzheimer's and was in the hospital for her heart. All she could say was "I lost my buddy."

I thought telling him - a couple three, four weeks ago - that his cancer had returned was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. It was not. My consolation is that my hero, my idol, my mentor is at peace and is no longer suffering. I know for a fact he wouldn't have wanted to live that way.

emtee · « **Reply #1 on:** June 17, 2022, 08:50:21 AM »

So sorry, Stads. Very sad news.

Lonk · « **Reply #2 on:** June 17, 2022, 08:50:31 AM »

My condolences Bill, really sorry to hear that.

Adami · « **Reply #3 on:** June 17, 2022, 08:50:36 AM »

My man, there just aren't enough words to express my feelings here. If you were nearby, I'd give you a big uncomfortable hug and sit with you. I know you've gone through a lot with your parents recently, and I am so god damn sorry that the end took the form it did. I am not sure how much suffering was involved, but I'm glad it's over for him at least. I know your suffering is no where near done and there's a long road ahead of you. You know I'm here for you, and I'm sure most of DTF is right there with me. Anytime you need anything, you got my number.

Grappler · « **Reply #4 on:** June 17, 2022, 08:51:37 AM »

I'm so sorry to hear that. My dad means the same to me and I dread the day in the future where he's no longer around our family. Take care!

cramx3 · « **Reply #5 on:** June 17, 2022, 08:56:51 AM »

Very sorry for your loss Bill. I know you've talked about him a lot on this board and your love and care for him showed in those posts.

Harmony · « **Reply #6 on:** June 17, 2022, 08:57:41 AM »

You have my condolences. Grief is a long, hard road. Time to lean on family and friends and give yourself a lot of grace to get through each day.

May his memory be a blessing and may you find peace in your heart with the realization that he loved you and knew that you loved him.

((((big hug))))

SwedishGoose · « **Reply #7 on:** June 17, 2022, 09:05:05 AM »

Sorry for your loss. Some consolation that he is free from suffering at least.

XJDenton · « **Reply #8 on:** June 17, 2022, 09:13:12 AM »

I'm so sorry. Thoughts are with you and the family.

King Postwhore · « **Reply #9 on:** June 17, 2022, 09:14:53 AM »

I am so sorry Bill. Thoughts are with you and your family.

Zydar · « **Reply #10 on:** June 17, 2022, 09:21:54 AM »

My condolenses, Bill

v_clortho · « **Reply #11 on:** June 17, 2022, 09:28:37 AM »

Sorry for your loss. Cherish the memories you have of him.

hunnus2000 · « **Reply #12 on:** June 17, 2022, 09:42:05 AM »

My condolences dude.

It's never easy.

hefdaddy42 · « **Reply #13 on:** June 17, 2022, 10:10:03 AM »

Stads, I am so sorry for your loss. I know it doesn't help (believe me, I know), but my Dad was also my hero, and I lost him to cancer 12 years ago, so I know what you are going through and feeling right now.

There is nothing that anyone will be able to say to make you feel better, at least over the next couple of days or maybe weeks. But eventually, bearing the loss becomes a weight that isn't as heavy.

Anyway, I'm here for you, anytime you need. If you'd like to chat for real, let me know and I'll get you my phone number.

jingle.boy · « **Reply #14 on:** June 17, 2022, 11:12:16 AM »

I'm legitimately sitting here holding back tears. Hef and Adami took some of my words and thoughts. Not the news anyone wants to have to read, much less see their friend have to go through that pain.

I'll join that long awkward hug.

I hope the passage through grief is neither too prolonged, or painful. By all accounts that you've given of him, he was an amazing man. I'll tip a glass to Papa Stadler tonight.

lonestar · « **Reply #15 on:** June 17, 2022, 11:25:03 AM »

Damn man... I'm so sorry bro. Sending much love and condolences to you and yours ❤️

jammindude · « **Reply #16 on:** June 17, 2022, 11:41:37 AM »

I’m speechless. I’m so sorry for your loss, Bill.

I kind of wish I was down in Florida with you. My son and his wife just gave birth to my first grandchild and they are in Orlando. I would’ve definitely taken the time out to come over and see you and give you a big hug in person.

Setlist Scotty · « **Reply #17 on:** June 17, 2022, 11:50:04 AM »

Wow. I don't know what to say. Words cannot convey how bad I feel for you right now. Fortunately I still have both of my parents, but they're both very close in age to your father and they're really starting to show their age. I am dreading the day that I lose either one of them. My heart goes out to you.

senecadawg2 · « **Reply #18 on:** June 17, 2022, 11:51:19 AM »

I'm so, so sorry to hear that. You and your family are in my thoughts. Sending you all the positive energy I can muster.

romdrums · « **Reply #19 on:** June 17, 2022, 11:51:36 AM »

Damn Stads, so sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family!

faizoff · « **Reply #20 on:** June 17, 2022, 12:44:04 PM »

My sincere condolences, must have been tough to share. Hope it helps in the healing process.

Dream Team · « **Reply #21 on:** June 17, 2022, 12:48:31 PM »

Very sorry

Sounds like he was a great guy. My dad is 83 also.

gmillerdrake · « **Reply #22 on:** June 17, 2022, 12:57:00 PM »

Bill….heartbroken for you and your family. Praying that peace and comfort find your family in this time of need.

TAC · « **Reply #23 on:** June 17, 2022, 01:02:42 PM »

Obviously, Bill. Thinking of you.

WilliamMunny · « **Reply #24 on:** June 17, 2022, 01:41:10 PM »

Wow.....this really hit me today for some reason.

I know you'll probably hear a ton of "he lived a long life" type platitudes, but regardless, it's never easy, and it certainly doesn't change how it feels.

My heart goes out to you and yours.

axeman90210 · « **Reply #25 on:** June 17, 2022, 01:55:06 PM »

So sorry to hear Bill.

crazy climber dude · « **Reply #26 on:** June 17, 2022, 03:21:35 PM »

I lost my dad to cancer as well. So I feel ya. My condolences and then some.

wolfking · « **Reply #27 on:** June 17, 2022, 03:30:09 PM »

I'm so sorry for your loss Bill.

Zoom E · « **Reply #28 on:** June 17, 2022, 03:30:48 PM »

So sorry for the loss of your dad. It’s tough to lose a parent no matter their age.

Elite · « **Reply #29 on:** June 17, 2022, 03:32:00 PM »

I'm sorry for your loss, my condolences. Take care of yourself and your loved ones!

Stadler · « **Reply #30 on:** June 17, 2022, 04:23:23 PM »

Thank you all for the kind words and for taking the time to post. It really DOES mean a lot to me, and you've all in your own way made this a little easier to bear.

Yeah, I knew his time was measured but I never ever thought it would be measured in days/hours, not months/weeks. He was literally at the hospice home for an hour and a half. An hour and a half. Man plans and God laughs.

One bright spot, though; I've strengthened my relationship with my brother through all this, and it's a wonderful thing.

ProfessorPeart · « **Reply #31 on:** June 17, 2022, 04:24:52 PM »

So sorry, man. I can't imagine what I will be like when I lose my Dad.

My wife's Mom died unexpectedly last Saturday so she is an absolute wreck right now so we share your grief.

Stadler · « **Reply #32 on:** June 17, 2022, 04:42:28 PM »

Quote from: ProfessorPeart on June 17, 2022, 04:24:52 PM

So sorry, man. I can't imagine what I will be like when I lose my Dad.

My wife's Mom died unexpectedly last Saturday so she is an absolute wreck right now so we share your grief.

Give her my condolences as well; I've experienced a lot of things in this world, but this is a new one for me. I can only imagine it's the same for her as well.

ariich · « **Reply #33 on:** June 17, 2022, 04:45:02 PM »

So sorry for your loss Bill, my thoughts are with you.

TAC · « **Reply #34 on:** June 17, 2022, 04:47:15 PM »

Quote from: Stadler on June 17, 2022, 04:23:23 PM

One bright spot, though; I've strengthened my relationship with my brother through all this, and it's a wonderful thing.

That's wonderful to hear. My brother and I are going through a similar thing.

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