I took a few days away from here because honestly, I felt demoralized and angry after posting this.
My intent was to try to learn about parents and their reaction, levels of support, etc., for children who identify this way. And to understand why a parent might get irate when special accommodations are not agreed to. As I understand it there are some things, like a litter box for instance, that are...emotional props that enable the individual to immerse themselves deeper into an alternate reality that provides comfort. The litter box is not used to deficate in. There are other things, like saucer bowls of milk that are actually used. I figured that someone here would identify this way or have kids that do and they could shed some light on this for me.
Moreover, I wanted insight on how far should parents go when providing this alternate reality setting, before actual harm might be done. It feels to me as if our society and it's love of animals - humanizing them in many ways - combined with cosplay and virtual reality, gaming...etc, is taking us into uncharted territory.
To reiterate. These private meetings happened. They are not news stories to be found on the internet. My wife's friend was troubled by how angry the last meeting went. As such, she called her best friend, my wife, and I listened to the call. It troubled her so much, especially having occurred three times ( the last meeting being the worst) that she said she wanted to retire because things were getting so crazy.
I also admitted in my first sentence that I didn't know anything about this until the phone call. So obviously I was not aware that this was some political hot button topic - hence, why people came at me so hard. I felt assaulted and confused.
I greatly appreciate the people who tried to show support and also for those who shared personal experiences. This helps me to understand how complicated this situation can be for parents.
Peace out....