I do think that considering their culture is important and I think Ben brought up some fair points. That said, I would wager that doing this same sort of thing in certain areas of white culture would bring similar reactions, if not more violent responses from men.
Toxic masculinity and homophobia were my first thoughts and I agree that is part of this but I think it goes deeper than just that. I see pain in all of these people. Even with MJ, I mean Kaleed says something like "It's real. All natural." And I wonder do these people never see flowers in their communities?
And I don't know if you caught the man who refused the flower and yet took the petal with him. It just broke my heart.
I'm not going to lie, the anger and hostility of most of those men disturbed me. It would be one thing to just decline and give it back, but to become violent and aggressive makes me fear for women and children in their lives.
Some interesting comments I read on the post I first saw this on (posted by a black woman and most comments appear to be from black people):
"nothing masculine about this, these is just kids who never grown to adulthood psychologically."
"This is in the hood where the men don’t have money, power, or respect. Many look at manhood as to how well a man can provide and protect and when you can do that, they look for other ways to prove their masculinity. That’s where the aggression comes from."
"Maybe if the adult men around them in their youth didn't shame & beat them every instant they showed emotion or interest in something "feminine", they wouldn't be like that."
"I have said it before and I’ll say it again. Our people are suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. These men have no light in them and it demonstrates the manner in which most of them return kindness."
"Such levels of internalized oppression. So painful to watch. I'm guessing those men - like most of us - are so committed to maintaining their place in the dominance hierarchy that an appeal to connection and softness appears to be an existential threat."
I did give it a like so Nick would quit smoking though.
Me too. And yet somehow, I feel in my bones that out there Nick is still smoking.