Physical attractiveness may serve as a gatekeeper directing us toward partners who are healthy, age appropriate, and able to reproduce, but research shows it's equally important to men and women; straight, or gay.
Attractiveness tends to be a more important factor in our dating decisions than traits like personality, education, and intelligence- initially. Physical attractiveness may be so important to us because we associate other positive qualities with a pleasing appearance. For example, attractive individuals are expected to be happier and to have more rewarding life experiences than unattractive individuals.
But there are also certain aspects of personality that also get blended into what people deem as attractive, For example, "Sense of Humor' is often important to women, and that can help them see physical traits as more enhanced.
But beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Different people are turned on by different things.
I don't want to call out WildRanger, but this thread reads like he may have been spurned by a woman who is with some dude that HE thinks that be may be less attractive than he is, and is projecting his displeasure of her not choosing him.
Just a guess.