I identify more with Orberts view than yours H2. In reality, most people's expectations and experience are on a spectrum, and probably include some from both of you (and others not mentioned). (To me) Orberts comes across as more pragmatic and realist, and yours as a bit more overy romantic, and a bit black & white.
Each person is different, and each person will have different goals, plans, expectations, experiences, and reactions. Whatever works for you really.
Orbert can have a more pragmatic approach, and have a massively rewarding marriage. Some can wait for what they want, and can end up with a massive failure of a marriage.
The point is that is is very difficult, if not impossible, to determine if a person is the "right" one unless you give it a go in a relationship. Date people, and if one starts to feel right, pursue it further...until it doesn't feel right. Just don't wait for a "perfect" fit, as perfect doesnt exist. Be aware that ANY relationship will have bumps, and will require work.
Love and life are unpredictable and messy...there are no guarantees either way you approach it. JMO