Wow, Orbert, I've been on the edge of that conversation but never tipped over into the abyss. So far, Mrs. P has been willing to logic out with me how long it will take to drive to said event, and then work back from arrival time. At least if it's her event. If it's an event that I planned or is with my family or friends, I better damn well know when she needs to be ready to leave.
That's what it eventually got to. Eventually.
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Me: Where exactly is this thing we're going to?
She: It's right by the Woodman's on Half Day Road.
Me: Okay, so 15 minutes away?
She: You said 20.
Me: I did? When?
She: Last time we went to Woodman's, you said to allow 20 minutes. But it only took us 15.
Me: Okay, so 15 minutes.
She: Yes.
Me: But we have to stop at <boring place> first, right?
She: I told you that already!
Me: Right. Sorry. So... how long do you think that will take?
She: I don't know... maybe ten minutes.
Me: So if we leave by 3:30, we should have time to stop and still get there on time?
She: Maybe 3:20? Just in case.
Me: Okay. I will be ready to leave by 3:20.
Epilogue: She was ready about 3:30, because she remembered me saying 3:30, and forgot that she'd suggested 3:20.
You want to go somewhere, cool. Presumably you've figured out the logistics, because I haven't, because I'm not the one who wants to go.
Obvious spoiler: she didn't.
Point this out to her.
That won’t end well.
Correct. This is from multiple past instances, which I have learned to (sometimes) avoid. We have to work through the logistics every time, one step at a time. This is something that most adults are capable of doing, but somehow, this is my "job", even if I have none of the variables and have to extract every one of them from her, one at a time.
But... at least I know this, and ask a few hours in advance, in case the actual process takes a few hours.
I honestly don't remember what the boring thing was now. We had to stop at some store for something, and I just threw it in there for flavor, as it was another variable, and apparently two variables is one too many for some people.