It seems like women who dare mention it on Twitter are getting threatened. Because of course they fucking are. There are some outlets that are broaching it head-on, some that glancingly acknowledge it (in such a way to downplay it), and some engaged in full-on hagiography. That whole shitshow was a significant contributor to why women don't report (especially when a rich/famous/powerful man is involved). Redemption is a weird thing in all of this...he has done a lot of good since then, but what he did (and what his lawyers did on his behalf) was horrifying. I think we just have to hold both thoughts at the same time...he did some great things, some terrible things, he was a complex human being. Neither side can or should be erased, and both should be fully acknowledged. Every time an outlet glosses over or ignores the sexual assault, it's further erasure of victims, and a further entrenchment of the idea that a rich/powerful man can make anything go away, even in death.
While I agree in spirit, it hasn't even been 24 hours. I don't think it's the right time to bring it up. Heck, I was never a fan of his at all, but it just feels like having that conversation while his body is still warm is a bit unseemly, especially since 8 others lost their lives as well. Maybe I am wrong.
Besides, Twitter is a sewer.
I sort of understand the reflex to say it's not the right time, but that raises the question of when the right time is?
The right time has already come and gone. Prior to the crash, you had 17 years to talk about it. Don't dredge up dirt on a guy who's just been tragically killed.
That's a hard no. By your logic, we had years to discuss his basketball prowess, and it shouldn't be discussed now.
What he did was monstrous, both the (admitted) rape and the aftermath in smearing the victim, which was so bad that Colorado changed their fucking laws to make sure it could never happen again.
The erasure of what he did, the hagiography & knob-slobbering, is an affront to the victim, and all victims of sexual assault who have been intimidated and erased by our culture. It's all about the man's (whether Kobe, Louis CK, or Matt Lauer, or Charlie Rose, or...) feelings and legacy, his bullshit redemption arc, never mind the damage left in his wake that so many try to ignore because it's messy. It's that man's story arc that seems to matter. And it's fundamentally misogynist. Dredging up dirt? Give me a fucking break...god forbid anyone mention reality on Kobe's path to canonization.
Kobe gets redemption credit for the gay slur thing, he put in the work, realized what he did was horrible, made amends, and became a part of correcting that aspect of the NBA culture. But there was never even a nod in the direction of sexual assault. All of that philanthropy? That's all well and good, but it has fuck-all to do with sexual assault or destroying a victim's life. A has nothing to do with B.