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Re: Why are most women/mothers defensive towards their kids?
« Reply #35 on: January 22, 2020, 03:36:35 PM »
Mothers will LOVE their sons even if they're murderers, criminals, rapists, fascists, etc.

I have to ask, did you come from another planet? Are you unfamiliar with the concept of a mother's unconditional love for their children? Motherly love isn't dictated by laws or morality. Mothers love their children because the child is literally a part of them.

And because they love them they have to try to defend them and justify their bad deeds? So they are very biased?
I would just like to point out that at no point in this answer is there a denial of coming from another planet.
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Re: Why are most women/mothers defensive towards their kids?
« Reply #36 on: January 22, 2020, 04:09:29 PM »
That you know of human.
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Re: Why are most women/mothers defensive towards their kids?
« Reply #37 on: January 22, 2020, 06:09:01 PM »
Ugly is one you never hear from a mother and I'm OK with that.
Ooooh, I'm glad you haven't met them. Luckily, my mom is normal. But yes, some moms (and dads) have no boundaries when it comes to disparaging their children, and "ugly" is not as low as they go, usually.

Even though I disapprove of parents who stop at nothing to defend their children even when they are despicable criminals, at least I can understand and sympathize, and this is why we have (or try to have) unbiased law enforcement, juries, and so on. But parents that go out of their way to crush their child's spirit, I consider that evil, and I can't understand it.

Yea, sadly I'm sure these people exist.  It's sad if parents are the opposite of what the OP is stating and they are just super offensive towards their kids.  That's also no way to raise a child IMO.  Calling your kid ugly just does nothing IMO.  A little fib about being "beautiful" can really help a kids confidence, even if it's only coming from their parents.  That's my thoughts from a non parent.

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Re: Why are most women/mothers defensive towards their kids?
« Reply #38 on: January 23, 2020, 07:17:22 AM »
I feel like we had a similar conversation at the P/R threat a few months ago.

All I will say is that dealing with low income community in NYC, I've witnessed plenty of mothers insulting their kids in front of me, sometimes asking a 3 year old "Are you F***ing stupid?" because the kid asked for food.

Kattelox: I understand what you mean by motherly love, but that only applies when the mother had the kid because they wanted one. Not because they ended up pregnant by accident and ended up having a child they were not ready for.
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Re: Why are most women/mothers defensive towards their kids?
« Reply #39 on: January 23, 2020, 07:20:06 AM »
Kattelox: I understand what you mean by motherly love, but that only applies when the mother had the kid because they wanted one. Not because they ended up pregnant by accident and ended up having a child they were not ready for.

I dunno about you... but I know a lot of mothers who accidentally got pregnant but still love their child regardless of whether they were ready for them or not. I fiercely disagree that it 'only' applies when they wanted the kid before they got pregnant.
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Re: Why are most women/mothers defensive towards their kids?
« Reply #40 on: January 23, 2020, 07:42:16 AM »
I should've worded that differently. I didn't mean to say that motherly love only applies to woman who are looking to have a kid. Some learn to love the kid during the pregnancy, others the moment the kid is born and others as the kid is growing up.

But some mothers just never get to that point.
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Re: Why are most women/mothers defensive towards their kids?
« Reply #41 on: January 23, 2020, 07:45:53 AM »
If all mothers showed their kids unconditional love and support, I'd be out of a job.
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Re: Why are most women/mothers defensive towards their kids?
« Reply #42 on: January 23, 2020, 08:23:31 AM »
Kattelox: I understand what you mean by motherly love, but that only applies when the mother had the kid because they wanted one. Not because they ended up pregnant by accident and ended up having a child they were not ready for.

I dunno about you... but I know a lot of mothers who accidentally got pregnant but still love their child regardless of whether they were ready for them or not. I fiercely disagree that it 'only' applies when they wanted the kid before they got pregnant.

Yeah...I'm the product of a rainy night at the drive-in and two bored teenagers. Pretty sure I wasn't planned and my mother was/is incredibly loving and supportive.
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Re: Why are most women/mothers defensive towards their kids?
« Reply #43 on: January 23, 2020, 08:30:48 AM »
Kattelox: I understand what you mean by motherly love, but that only applies when the mother had the kid because they wanted one. Not because they ended up pregnant by accident and ended up having a child they were not ready for.

I dunno about you... but I know a lot of mothers who accidentally got pregnant but still love their child regardless of whether they were ready for them or not. I fiercely disagree that it 'only' applies when they wanted the kid before they got pregnant.

Nothing scientific about this, but in my limited, empirical experience, there's little correlation between "unconditional love" and "accidental pregnancies".  I defer to Adami on this, but in my experience, the "unconditionality" of parental love is more tied to the relationship of mom to HER parents. 

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Re: Why are most women/mothers defensive towards their kids?
« Reply #44 on: January 23, 2020, 08:31:24 AM »
There are some parents not equipped to handle children.  I've seen that 1st hand with my niece and nephew.  When a parent is narcissistic  and only think about themselves it can be a bad situation.  It's just in their DNA.
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Re: Why are most women/mothers defensive towards their kids?
« Reply #45 on: January 23, 2020, 08:32:06 AM »
Kattelox: I understand what you mean by motherly love, but that only applies when the mother had the kid because they wanted one. Not because they ended up pregnant by accident and ended up having a child they were not ready for.

I dunno about you... but I know a lot of mothers who accidentally got pregnant but still love their child regardless of whether they were ready for them or not. I fiercely disagree that it 'only' applies when they wanted the kid before they got pregnant.

Nothing scientific about this, but in my limited, empirical experience, there's little correlation between "unconditional love" and "accidental pregnancies".  I defer to Adami on this, but in my experience, the "unconditionality" of parental love is more tied to the relationship of mom to HER parents.

Definitely. That's certainly more Adami's area of expertise than mine, but I can't disagree with that based on my own experience.
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Re: Why are most women/mothers defensive towards their kids?
« Reply #46 on: January 23, 2020, 08:36:26 AM »
Kattelox: I understand what you mean by motherly love, but that only applies when the mother had the kid because they wanted one. Not because they ended up pregnant by accident and ended up having a child they were not ready for.

I dunno about you... but I know a lot of mothers who accidentally got pregnant but still love their child regardless of whether they were ready for them or not. I fiercely disagree that it 'only' applies when they wanted the kid before they got pregnant.

Nothing scientific about this, but in my limited, empirical experience, there's little correlation between "unconditional love" and "accidental pregnancies".  I defer to Adami on this, but in my experience, the "unconditionality" of parental love is more tied to the relationship of mom to HER parents.

Sometimes. Sadly there's no direct scientific correlation. No "if you do XYZ" your kid will be alright and become a great parent themselves. A mom can have the best parents in the world and still turn out to be a horrible mom herself. Or a mom can have cold distant parents and turn out to be the most warm loving mother in the world. There are just endless variables.

But, one constant is whether they agree or disagree with you. Good moms will always disagree with you Stads. Always.
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Re: Why are most women/mothers defensive towards their kids?
« Reply #47 on: January 23, 2020, 08:38:59 AM »
I can live with that.  :) :)

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Re: Why are most women/mothers defensive towards their kids?
« Reply #48 on: January 23, 2020, 06:49:01 PM »
Kattelox: I understand what you mean by motherly love, but that only applies when the mother had the kid because they wanted one. Not because they ended up pregnant by accident and ended up having a child they were not ready for.

I dunno about you... but I know a lot of mothers who accidentally got pregnant but still love their child regardless of whether they were ready for them or not. I fiercely disagree that it 'only' applies when they wanted the kid before they got pregnant.

Nothing scientific about this, but in my limited, empirical experience, there's little correlation between "unconditional love" and "accidental pregnancies".  I defer to Adami on this, but in my experience, the "unconditionality" of parental love is more tied to the relationship of mom to HER parents.

When in the hell were you fucking pregnant?
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Re: Why are most women/mothers defensive towards their kids?
« Reply #49 on: January 24, 2020, 06:52:00 AM »
Kattelox: I understand what you mean by motherly love, but that only applies when the mother had the kid because they wanted one. Not because they ended up pregnant by accident and ended up having a child they were not ready for.

I dunno about you... but I know a lot of mothers who accidentally got pregnant but still love their child regardless of whether they were ready for them or not. I fiercely disagree that it 'only' applies when they wanted the kid before they got pregnant.

Nothing scientific about this, but in my limited, empirical experience, there's little correlation between "unconditional love" and "accidental pregnancies".  I defer to Adami on this, but in my experience, the "unconditionality" of parental love is more tied to the relationship of mom to HER parents.

When in the hell were you fucking pregnant?

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