Everest

[cramx3]

Has it occurred to anyone that Mark Lamendola (the guy from the obituary) might not be the same guy as Marc Lamendola (the guy from Facebook)?

In the obituary his name is also spelled Marc, and the same obituary is linked to FB posts surrounding his death. It's him

Looking at the obituary.  The headlines say Mark, but the description says Marc.

As someone also named Marc, id be rolling over in my grave if I knew my obituary called me Mark   

[jammindude]

Not that I navel gaze like this too often, but occassionally...   it's events like these that do make me appreciate what I have in terms of friends, family and community, and how ephemeral it really is.   I would like to think, I would HOPE, that if I pass in an untimely way like this, that those that care would take the effort like some of you did.   I'm proud to call (some of you, hahaha, I'm kidding) friends.

I already have two people tasked with informing this place of my untimely demise should it occur 

Scotty and I are pretty close, so I’m sure he would make a post if anything ever happened to me.  But ya, I sometimes muse over my online presence and sometimes worry about people not being contacted in the event of my death.

[lonestar]

Not that I navel gaze like this too often, but occassionally...   it's events like these that do make me appreciate what I have in terms of friends, family and community, and how ephemeral it really is.   I would like to think, I would HOPE, that if I pass in an untimely way like this, that those that care would take the effort like some of you did.   I'm proud to call (some of you, hahaha, I'm kidding) friends.

I already have two people tasked with informing this place of my untimely demise should it occur 

Is one the same dude that told us about you falling off the balcony with the 'Chino' s dumbass'thread?

[Chino]

Not that I navel gaze like this too often, but occassionally...   it's events like these that do make me appreciate what I have in terms of friends, family and community, and how ephemeral it really is.   I would like to think, I would HOPE, that if I pass in an untimely way like this, that those that care would take the effort like some of you did.   I'm proud to call (some of you, hahaha, I'm kidding) friends.

I already have two people tasked with informing this place of my untimely demise should it occur 

Is one the same dude that told us about you falling off the balcony with the 'Chino' s dumbass'thread?

Lmao. No. But knowing him, he'd take it upon himself to do so.

[TAC]

I probably should do that as well, and make arrangements for a smooth transition in the event Nick has to assume the throne.  (he is second in line, by the way; Borlag is #1)

No way, fuck that. You'll be plugged to a machine into infinity.

[jingle.boy]

As someone also named Marc, id be rolling over in my grave if I knew my obituary called me Mark   

That'd be Kramx3 style!

[cramx3]

 

but seriously, it's one of the few pet peeves I have.  Doesn't bother me when it's someone I don't know, but it PISSES me off when I'm using work chat with someone I regularly work with and it clearly says my name Marc in the chat and the person still calls me Mark. 

[bosk1]

How do you feel about Marque?

[cramx3]

How do you feel about Marque?

  I'd have to see it to have feelings and well, I just laughed a little on the first time seeing it

[vtgrad]

If he was following the standard itinerary, and of course he was, he'd have been well into the climb at the time of his passing. Days 17-50 are where you're well above base camp, and he'd have been 34 days into his expidition. Since he's not listed as an Everest fatality, it's safe to assume something went awry in Nepal but before the climb.

Yep... likely no way he had the time to acclimatize for a summit prior to the assumed date of his passing.  Assuming that the annual death-count on Everest would only include climbers at Base Camp or beyond, he may have had acclimatizing issues on the trek in from Nepal/Kat and had to deal with Cerebral Edema (HACE) and it's side effects; there are a few mini hospitals along the trek for just such emergencies and I'd bet that he may not have made it to base camp (meaning he wouldn't be in the official numbers that we could find).

A shame either way... I hate to hear that he's passed, but if he did pass on the way in, he passed doing something he loved and likely without pain.  There are worse ways to meet God... those mountains would be one of the best I would think, especially for a seasoned mountaineer (sounds like he was).  RIP

[Stadler]

but seriously, it's one of the few pet peeves I have.  Doesn't bother me when it's someone I don't know, but it PISSES me off when I'm using work chat with someone I regularly work with and it clearly says my name Marc in the chat and the person still calls me Mark.

Haha, I hear you.  All my work stuff - email, phone book, HR system - says "William", but I go by "Bill".  NO ONE - not even my mom when she's angry - calls me William.  When I work with someone I will usually let slip "you can call me Bill".   There's a group in one of our manufacturing sites - two guys - that INSIST on calling me "William".  It's a running joke at this time.  I'm not pissed, or anything, but I do sort of look askance at that.  To me it's just... not rude, but oblivious.  I take great care to get people's names right out of respect.

[TAC]

but seriously, it's one of the few pet peeves I have.  Doesn't bother me when it's someone I don't know, but it PISSES me off when I'm using work chat with someone I regularly work with and it clearly says my name Marc in the chat and the person still calls me Mark.

Haha, I hear you.  All my work stuff - email, phone book, HR system - says "William", but I go by "Bill".  NO ONE - not even my mom when she's angry - calls me William.  When I work with someone I will usually let slip "you can call me Bill".   There's a group in one of our manufacturing sites - two guys - that INSIST on calling me "William".  It's a running joke at this time.  I'm not pissed, or anything, but I do sort of look askance at that.  To me it's just... not rude, but oblivious.  I take great care to get people's names right out of respect.

[Anguyen92]

So what do you do to make sure that no one calls you Will?

[bosk1]

That's odd.  I have it on good authority that big, bad Bill really is sweet William now. 

[hunnus2000]

That's odd.  I have it on good authority that big, bad Bill really is sweet William now.

Nice! 

[El Barto]

but seriously, it's one of the few pet peeves I have.  Doesn't bother me when it's someone I don't know, but it PISSES me off when I'm using work chat with someone I regularly work with and it clearly says my name Marc in the chat and the person still calls me Mark.

Haha, I hear you.  All my work stuff - email, phone book, HR system - says "William", but I go by "Bill".  NO ONE - not even my mom when she's angry - calls me William.  When I work with someone I will usually let slip "you can call me Bill".   There's a group in one of our manufacturing sites - two guys - that INSIST on calling me "William".  It's a running joke at this time.  I'm not pissed, or anything, but I do sort of look askance at that.  To me it's just... not rude, but oblivious.  I take great care to get people's names right out of respect.

My problem is when people immediately jump the short form of my name without asking, or even feeling me out about it.

Hi, El Barto, good to meet you. [extends hand]
Hi, Bart. It's a pleasure.

While I do have a preference, I'm not a hardass about Barto or anything. I'll normally tell people Bart is fine. It just seems presumptuous to automatically jump to the informal. If somebody introduces themselves as a Richard or a Matthew I'm not going to just start calling them Rich/k or Matt right off the bat.

[cramx3]

While I do have a preference, I'm not a hardass about Barto or anything. I'll normally tell people Bart is fine. It just seems presumptuous to automatically jump to the informal. If somebody introduces themselves as a Richard or a Matthew I'm not going to just start calling them Rich/k or Matt right off the bat.

Honestly, I go right to Dick.

That's odd.  I have it on good authority that big, bad Bill really is sweet William now. 

You are on a role today 

[TAC]

Honestly, I go right to Dick.

[TAC]

My problem is when people immediately jump the short form of my name without asking, or even feeling me out about it.

Hi, El Barto, good to meet you. [extends hand]
Hi, Bart. It's a pleasure.

While I do have a preference, I'm not a hardass about Barto or anything. I'll normally tell people Bart is fine. It just seems presumptuous to automatically jump to the informal. If somebody introduces themselves as a Richard or a Matthew I'm not going to just start calling them Rich/k or Matt right off the bat.

Do you actually prefer Barto?


I agree about introductions.


I hate when people spell my name Cra.... It's O like the Ozzy song dammit!

[bosk1]

but seriously, it's one of the few pet peeves I have.  Doesn't bother me when it's someone I don't know, but it PISSES me off when I'm using work chat with someone I regularly work with and it clearly says my name Marc in the chat and the person still calls me Mark.

Haha, I hear you.  All my work stuff - email, phone book, HR system - says "William", but I go by "Bill".  NO ONE - not even my mom when she's angry - calls me William.  When I work with someone I will usually let slip "you can call me Bill".   There's a group in one of our manufacturing sites - two guys - that INSIST on calling me "William".  It's a running joke at this time.  I'm not pissed, or anything, but I do sort of look askance at that.  To me it's just... not rude, but oblivious.  I take great care to get people's names right out of respect.

My problem is when people immediately jump the short form of my name without asking, or even feeling me out about it.

Hi, El Barto, good to meet you. [extends hand]
Hi, Bart. It's a pleasure.

While I do have a preference, I'm not a hardass about Barto or anything. I'll normally tell people Bart is fine. It just seems presumptuous to automatically jump to the informal. If somebody introduces themselves as a Richard or a Matthew I'm not going to just start calling them Rich/k or Matt right off the bat.

I completely get what you are saying.  But it is also pretty rare for people to use...the longer version of your name.  I think it's a normal assumption to go right to the short version, isn't it?

[El Barto]

My problem is when people immediately jump the short form of my name without asking, or even feeling me out about it.

Hi, El Barto, good to meet you. [extends hand]
Hi, Bart. It's a pleasure.

While I do have a preference, I'm not a hardass about Barto or anything. I'll normally tell people Bart is fine. It just seems presumptuous to automatically jump to the informal. If somebody introduces themselves as a Richard or a Matthew I'm not going to just start calling them Rich/k or Matt right off the bat.

Do you actually prefer Barto?

That' EL Barto to you, Timothy!

Truth be told, it depends on the person. But often times yes. I'm fine with people calling me either, though, and I'm happy to let them choose their preference.  Unless. . .

I completely get what you are saying.  But it is also pretty rare for people to use...the longer version of your name.  I think it's a normal assumption to go right to the short version, isn't it?

Some people are certainly going to move towards that; I get it. The issue is when I introduce myself with one name and the very next words out of their mouth is a different one. It's not the abbreviating of my name, per se, but rather the disregard for what I just told you. If that makes sense. There's a presumption there that I didn't mean what I said. Or at least an inference that we're close enough for it to not matter. A few sentences later and I don't care, although an "is Bart OK?" is certainly a nice, yet simple gesture.

[TAC]

The only person that calls me Timothy is the receptionist at my Doctor's office.

Although when I sign a check I sign Timothy, as that's what is printed at the top. I actually use it a lot when filling things out.

A lot of people at work call me Timmy. Not that I mind, because I don't, but I would never call another 53 y/o man Timmy.

[bosk1]

I completely get what you are saying.  But it is also pretty rare for people to use...the longer version of your name.  I think it's a normal assumption to go right to the short version, isn't it?

Some people are certainly going to move towards that; I get it. The issue is when I introduce myself with one name and the very next words out of their mouth is a different one. It's not the abbreviating of my name, per se, but rather the disregard for what I just told you. If that makes sense. There's a presumption there that I didn't mean what I said. Or at least an inference that we're close enough for it to not matter. A few sentences later and I don't care, although an "is Bart OK?" is certainly a nice, yet simple gesture.

Gotcha.    I think I initially missed that part. 

...and I'm feeling a bit defensive because I'm pretty sure I jumped right to the short version when I P.M.'d you about something years ago.

[Dream Team]

On a slightly related note, that post from Lady Obscure . . . Frozen came out EIGHT years ago already? Man time flies when you’re old.

[v_clortho]

A lot of people at work call me Timmy. Not that I mind, because I don't, but I would never call another 53 y/o man Timmy.

Do they say it in the South Park "Timmah" voice? I have a friend Tim and someone always ends up saying it like that.

[T-ski]

How do you feel about Marque?

  I'd have to see it to have feelings and well, I just laughed a little on the first time seeing it

I’m a Mark as well, and when I was about 10 I wanted to start spelling my name Marq because I thought it looked cool.

[TheCountOfNYC]

I’m fine with any iteration of Joseph (that’s my actual name btw since I don’t think I’ve ever said it on these forums before) except for Joey, as that’s what my stepmom calls my dad and hearing it makes me sick.

I prefer Joe over Joseph though.

[Spiritus]

Well, that is really sad. RIP. I hoped this wouldn't turn out like it did.

[chknptpie]

Well this is a sad ending to what started as such an exciting thread. Now I'm curious to know if any other members along the way have passed.

[Stadler]

Honestly, I go right to Dick.

That got a full on laugh out loud.   

[Stadler]

but seriously, it's one of the few pet peeves I have.  Doesn't bother me when it's someone I don't know, but it PISSES me off when I'm using work chat with someone I regularly work with and it clearly says my name Marc in the chat and the person still calls me Mark.

Haha, I hear you.  All my work stuff - email, phone book, HR system - says "William", but I go by "Bill".  NO ONE - not even my mom when she's angry - calls me William.  When I work with someone I will usually let slip "you can call me Bill".   There's a group in one of our manufacturing sites - two guys - that INSIST on calling me "William".  It's a running joke at this time.  I'm not pissed, or anything, but I do sort of look askance at that.  To me it's just... not rude, but oblivious.  I take great care to get people's names right out of respect.

My problem is when people immediately jump the short form of my name without asking, or even feeling me out about it.

Hi, El Barto, good to meet you. [extends hand]
Hi, Bart. It's a pleasure.

While I do have a preference, I'm not a hardass about Barto or anything. I'll normally tell people Bart is fine. It just seems presumptuous to automatically jump to the informal. If somebody introduces themselves as a Richard or a Matthew I'm not going to just start calling them Rich/k or Matt right off the bat.

You're my witness:  I actually asked you point blank:  Is Bart ok?   

[jingle.boy]

but seriously, it's one of the few pet peeves I have.  Doesn't bother me when it's someone I don't know, but it PISSES me off when I'm using work chat with someone I regularly work with and it clearly says my name Marc in the chat and the person still calls me Mark.

Haha, I hear you.  All my work stuff - email, phone book, HR system - says "William", but I go by "Bill".  NO ONE - not even my mom when she's angry - calls me William.  When I work with someone I will usually let slip "you can call me Bill".   There's a group in one of our manufacturing sites - two guys - that INSIST on calling me "William".  It's a running joke at this time.  I'm not pissed, or anything, but I do sort of look askance at that.  To me it's just... not rude, but oblivious.  I take great care to get people's names right out of respect.

My problem is when people immediately jump the short form of my name without asking, or even feeling me out about it.

Hi, El Barto, good to meet you. [extends hand]
Hi, Bart. It's a pleasure.

While I do have a preference, I'm not a hardass about Barto or anything. I'll normally tell people Bart is fine. It just seems presumptuous to automatically jump to the informal. If somebody introduces themselves as a Richard or a Matthew I'm not going to just start calling them Rich/k or Matt right off the bat.

You're my witness:  I actually asked you point blank:  Is Bart ok?   

Well, sonofa ... I think I went straight to Bart.  I think my mind was coming from the train of thought that Bosk was spelling out.  I'm usually quite good at this.  I used to have an employee who's LAST name was Matthew, and one time a customer referred to him as "Matt" (because our email nomenclature was lastname, firstname)... and I thought "shit, you don't even know him enough to know that Matthew is his last name, and you went straight ahead to shortening it?!?!?"  I always look to see how people refer to themselves in their email signatures before referring to them by any short-hand.

@ Barto ... sorry bro. 

[Stadler]

but seriously, it's one of the few pet peeves I have.  Doesn't bother me when it's someone I don't know, but it PISSES me off when I'm using work chat with someone I regularly work with and it clearly says my name Marc in the chat and the person still calls me Mark.

Haha, I hear you.  All my work stuff - email, phone book, HR system - says "William", but I go by "Bill".  NO ONE - not even my mom when she's angry - calls me William.  When I work with someone I will usually let slip "you can call me Bill".   There's a group in one of our manufacturing sites - two guys - that INSIST on calling me "William".  It's a running joke at this time.  I'm not pissed, or anything, but I do sort of look askance at that.  To me it's just... not rude, but oblivious.  I take great care to get people's names right out of respect.

My problem is when people immediately jump the short form of my name without asking, or even feeling me out about it.

Hi, El Barto, good to meet you. [extends hand]
Hi, Bart. It's a pleasure.

While I do have a preference, I'm not a hardass about Barto or anything. I'll normally tell people Bart is fine. It just seems presumptuous to automatically jump to the informal. If somebody introduces themselves as a Richard or a Matthew I'm not going to just start calling them Rich/k or Matt right off the bat.

You're my witness:  I actually asked you point blank:  Is Bart ok?   

Well, sonofa ... I think I went straight to Bart.  I think my mind was coming from the train of thought that Bosk was spelling out.  I'm usually quite good at this.  I used to have an employee who's LAST name was Matthew, and one time a customer referred to him as "Matt" (because our email nomenclature was lastname, firstname)... and I thought "shit, you don't even know him enough to know that Matthew is his last name, and you went straight ahead to shortening it?!?!?"  I always look to see how people refer to themselves in their email signatures before referring to them by any short-hand.

@ Barto ... sorry bro. 

For the record Chadford, I didn't say that to be a hero, because I'm not, but only to say that it's something that DOES register with me.   I don't know how or why - I dont' think it has to do with identity politics, but who knows - I do pay attention to that stuff.  I actually had a meeting with someone today; I got her resume and it was "C. Blofeld" and I was told her name was "Karen, with a C".  So I scheduled the meeting and said "Hi Caren, I hope this time works for you" and it turns out her name is "Caryn".  Although I was nominally in the power spot (she's a job candidate) I made sure I acknowledged my mistake.

[Cool Chris]

Did she bring a cat to the interview? And who writes their name on a resume with their first initial?

[El Barto]

but seriously, it's one of the few pet peeves I have.  Doesn't bother me when it's someone I don't know, but it PISSES me off when I'm using work chat with someone I regularly work with and it clearly says my name Marc in the chat and the person still calls me Mark.

Haha, I hear you.  All my work stuff - email, phone book, HR system - says "William", but I go by "Bill".  NO ONE - not even my mom when she's angry - calls me William.  When I work with someone I will usually let slip "you can call me Bill".   There's a group in one of our manufacturing sites - two guys - that INSIST on calling me "William".  It's a running joke at this time.  I'm not pissed, or anything, but I do sort of look askance at that.  To me it's just... not rude, but oblivious.  I take great care to get people's names right out of respect.

My problem is when people immediately jump the short form of my name without asking, or even feeling me out about it.

Hi, El Barto, good to meet you. [extends hand]
Hi, Bart. It's a pleasure.

While I do have a preference, I'm not a hardass about Barto or anything. I'll normally tell people Bart is fine. It just seems presumptuous to automatically jump to the informal. If somebody introduces themselves as a Richard or a Matthew I'm not going to just start calling them Rich/k or Matt right off the bat.

You're my witness:  I actually asked you point blank:  Is Bart ok?   

Well, sonofa ... I think I went straight to Bart.  I think my mind was coming from the train of thought that Bosk was spelling out.  I'm usually quite good at this.  I used to have an employee who's LAST name was Matthew, and one time a customer referred to him as "Matt" (because our email nomenclature was lastname, firstname)... and I thought "shit, you don't even know him enough to know that Matthew is his last name, and you went straight ahead to shortening it?!?!?"  I always look to see how people refer to themselves in their email signatures before referring to them by any short-hand.

@ Barto ... sorry bro. 

Non-issue. It honestly wouldn't have even registered with me. Like I said, it's the

Hi, I'm El Barto
Good to meet you, Bart

thing that bugs me. I meet with plenty of sales reps and vendors and it happens sometimes.