The tournament is ran by my GF's Dad's GF. My GF's dad was my partner.
The only way it would be fixed would be putting in an inaccurate average, which would give someone more handicap (or less, depending on how you do it.) Our averages are slightly lower than they were 4 years ago (last time I actively bowled with a lot of these people), but if you look at our official book averages (which are updated annually via the USBC- the governing body, and it's based on the average of our averages for that year. I've only been bowling 1 sanctioned league a year, and my average has been consistently low for 3 years now. It's all information that they all have access to. And our actual scores were witnessed and verified by people bowling around us who have no reason to lie to help us.
They're just being assholes. I tried making conversation with my ex's mother earlier in the evening (she was a mother figure to me at one time) and she blew me off.
One note though- my ex looks just like her mother now. She wears her hair the same way. She wears the same clothes. Hell, her figure has gone to hell as well. I find that amusing.