It was a very deep conversation since I was basically asking about my father and why he abandoned me. My uncle was 17 when I was born so he was there to witness my mom dating my dad. And he's always been honest with me and I knew that he would give me the truth of what happened.
My mom always told me that my dad was a piece of shit and he just left before I was born. I had heard a little bit of this from my grandmother, but it was confirmed today by my uncle that my father tried to marry my mom, tried to create a family but was told to fuck off by my mom since he didn't make enough money to satisfy her and his job as a truck driver also did not have enough status to satisfy her. After months of trying to see me, he eventually just gave up. My grandmother did tell me this 10 years ago and at age 20 I did track my dad down so I could meet him, since I was now under the impression that it wasn't all his fault and that one and only day I spent with my father was the worst day of my life, and I will leave it at that.
My mother was 20 when she had me and she is a selfish, bi-polar, narcissistic, schizophrenic, pathological liar with a victim complex who acts like a spoiled 50 year old teenager. I haven't said a word to her since I was 18, but anyway my grandfather was a drunk, degenerate gambler who used to beat the shit out of my grandmother to the point where she tried to kill herself multiple times and I found out today actual spent time in a psychiatric hospital stemming from a nervous breakdown due to the abuse. Now, I saw my my grandparents have some nasty fights, but I never once saw things on the level of before I was born, but I believe my grandmother and uncle regarding what went down. My grandfather by the point of my birth was not drinking anymore and was pretty much not coming home anymore anyway. But after today, I know that the lead up to my birth, my grandfather was lobbying for the abortion, but my grandmother was able to convince him otherwise and pretty much saved my life.
Cut to present day and basically why this all came up is that my grandmother is dying in my living room on hospice which is why my uncle is up and staying with us and we just had a long conversation about the past and he just gave me full disclosure, which I ultimately appreciate, despite it being some heavy duty shit.
So yeah...
TL:DR This aint no fairy tale world