At what ages did you feel it got easier as a parent, when you have babies and toddlers?
I have two kids, boy just turned 1 and girl is almost 4. The girl is awesome but can throw the worst of tantrums. Still, I feel like I can deal with that well, because I can actually talk to her. I can trust her to play by herself a lot, which lets me be able to keep the house clean.
It's so much harder when the other kid is so young and needs my attention much more. I try to let him play as independently as possible. He loves to push anything he can around the house and will go through boxes of toys, all the while I supervise him and do some quick tidying in the room we are in.
I just feel like a whirlwind of a person and it's every day. I knew it would be, nothing about this surprises me. Maybe I just need some reassurance and I love my kids, they are funny and awesome little people
Unfortunately, I think the only honest answer anyone can give you is, "it depends."
Our 14 (going on 25) year-old son was a freaking demon when he didn't get his way. Massive, uncontrollable tantrums until he was 5 or 6, and even then, he was a trouble-maker at school.
Obviously, he was the only kid in the house, so with my wife and I always able to tag-team, I never felt 'overwhelmed.' It was trying at times, but we quickly learned to be a united front, and that seemed to work well.
The kid is now going to be a sophomore, has a 4.0, plays sports, has a job, and has the most reserved, mild-mannered disposition. I honestly can't justify my memory of him with the man he's become/becoming.
Our 2-year-old, on the other hand, is quiet, reserved, and thoughtful. Much more in line with my wife and I's personalties. He won't sleep through the night, but otherwise, he's been a joy. Of course, with us in our mid-forties, I think we are savoring this a bit more this time around, so that definitely helps.
I am all too aware of how fast it's going by, so I am trying my best to treasure everything, even the mild hiccups.
Again, my story would be WAY different without my wife. I mean, to be honest, she does all of the heavy lifting with these kids. I mean, I'm there, but I am definitely Myung to her Petrucci.