So I'm taking a leap by opening up about this this, but...I think my wife and I will start trying for a kid this spring. Since I'm 43 and she's 40 (and because I got snipped about ten years ago!), it will be IVF.
For a long time, neither of us wanted to be parents, and I don't think necessarily even trusted ourselves to be parents. Between the two of us, we were on the receiving end of: religious abuse*, financial abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, sexual abuse, emotional incest...basically, everything but substance abuse. Needless to say, our lives as individuals and as a couple have been quite challenging. We have both cut off one parent and are barely in contact with the other, and things with siblings are...a little awkward? But as we've both been healing and building up what was systemically thwarted and stolen from us by our "caregivers", we are both feeling like not only can we do this, but it seems increasingly weird not to.
We'll see how things go, and we are prepared for the possibility that it might not work, are ok with that, and won't take heroic measures. But yeah, we might be taking the leap after all...
*This is why I pretty much stay out of P/R anymore, my enmity for evangelicals/fundamentalists makes it rather easy to boil over in any discussion, so I just stay out