Hypothetical question. If this has happened to any of you - maybe you can share what you did.
If I was with someone and I found out they'd been unfaithful - that would be the end of that right there and then. I've seen couples go through it and decide to stay together and it took a very long time for them to reach a point where they were both happy again...
Has anyone here been through it ?
For me - If I found out that it had happened - i'd end it right there and then. Surely it would be more trouble than it was worth...
For anyone who hasn't been through it - what would you do ??
You make me laugh sometimes. I mean that in the nicest way possible.
There are many things in life, like touching a hot stove, or having your heart broken, that cannot possibly be communicated adequately without experiencing it. This is one of those things.
I was you, once. Big shot, tough guy, "I'll lay down the goddamn law". Then I got married, had a reasonably good marriage, had a beautiful daughter, and... then it all went south.
Lost my job temporarily (real estate crash) and the ex went through some concurrent health issues that really screwed up her system. Had to take a job six hours from my home, which meant traveling every Sunday and Friday to and from. Wasn't even a month of that, and I find out she's stepping out. We talk. Pressure, hormones, etc. etc., yadda yadda. She breaks it off with the other guy, and I stay. We reconnect. I'm still working out the year away, and I notice the texts go from about 300 a month to about 5,000 a month. Confront. Denial. "Work friends. I would NEVER jeopardize my work with that nonsense". Well, turns out she would. But then, personal tragedy (a loss in her family). We reconnect. "He's insensitive... as a friend, of course!" Couple months later, I come back to work remotely out of the house, and I notice the texts haven't abated. She finally files. In the time since, I find out about at least one, possibly two others.
Would I do the same again? Well, I just got remarried, and I hope to God it isn't a reality for me any time soon, but honestly, I wouldn't do it EXACTLY the same, but I don't think I would just up and leave. It would depend. My ex wasn't cheating out of dissatisfaction with our marriage - that can be fixed - she was cheating out of dissatisfaction, profound dissatisfaction, with herself. She is now engaged to the "work friend" (apparently, the scandal is ok if you marry as a result) but I have reason to believe she's stepping out on HIM too.