I grew up with bees and wasps, but I have no idea why they conjure up so much hate. Sure, they sting occasionally, but not even remotely as much as people make it out to be. In fact, I always suspect that it's the inevitable thrashing by people that makes them sting (witnessed just that yesterday in fact. The kid went completely berserk, flailing arm everywhere). If left alone they usually do nothing.
This is my sentiment. It's sort of like living in the ghetto. No one really messes with you unless you mess with them.
I did see an interesting fight between a Black Widow spider and a wasp once. The spider won.