Lonely Hearts Club Thread v. The Strong Grip

[sylvan]

Dude, hikes are fucking awesome. I prefer to RUN trails, but it's nice sometimes to just cruise and smoke a J with nature. I did a "first date" hike once with another trail runner and it was really fun. God damn... that just makes me think about how awesome some things in life are! 

So, I kinda "broke up" with DTGirl. It was fun while it lasted, but the inevitable talk came. She wanted to have more definition to our relationship moving forward. I told her that I still don't wanna be in a committed relationship, and I wanna be able to be open to my future happiness, cuz I don't know what that is yet. I told her how much I like her, and am progressively liking her more as we spend more time together. Shit, I sent her a pic from the movie Brink that said "Whatever brah, let's blade!" Her response was, "Is that Brink? I'm dying. I'm dead." Who the fuck knows Brink? I obviously dig her personality, and the sex is great. She tells me all these things that she likes about me. I just dont have those intangible feelings. That ineffable feeling of having to have someone. The sort of precursor to love. I don't know if my perspective will change, and the both of us are open to that possiblity, but we're both gonna see other people and continue to talk and be friends. I hope it can work out that were friends. I'd be totally okay with that at the least.

[Lynxo]

HEY GAIZ! GAIZ!


GAIZ!














WE'RE ON PAGE 69.

[Prog Snob]

[bout to crash]

, noticed that last night but was too tired to comment.

Dan, that's interesting. Sounds like you don't have to stop seeing each other, if she'd be more open to something less defined. Whatever happens, I hope it works out!

I had an awesome birthday party yesterday, and at one point towards the tail end when the crowd had thinned out a bit, I realized that 3/4 of the people in the room had seen me naked ... I buzzedly announced this in the middle of a card game, and there was much rejoicing.

So Vermont and Russian were both supposed to come to the party. Vermont ended up apparently mixing up his weeks and thinking it was next week, so he didn't come. Russian basically totally flaked- he texted me saying he was driving back from his hike "like a zombie," which I presumed meant he was tired but he didn't say he wasn't coming, then I never heard from him again 

But yknow what? Ginger and her hubby were there, and so were Knuckles and the Dandy (a guy I see occasionally and have never brought up on here because we have a very uncomplicated relationship )... and I realized I have so many awesome people in my life, why should I stress about the flakes? Sure it peeves me, but it's not worth losing sleep over. Fact is I am pretty damn lucky.

[cramx3]

Happy birthday! And would it have been odd for all of your partners to have been at the same place?  I'm just curious. 

[Chino]

, noticed that last night but was too tired to comment.

Dan, that's interesting. Sounds like you don't have to stop seeing each other, if she'd be more open to something less defined. Whatever happens, I hope it works out!

I had an awesome birthday party yesterday, and at one point towards the tail end when the crowd had thinned out a bit, I realized that 3/4 of the people in the room had seen me naked ... I buzzedly announced this in the middle of a card game, and there was much rejoicing.

So Vermont and Russian were both supposed to come to the party. Vermont ended up apparently mixing up his weeks and thinking it was next week, so he didn't come. Russian basically totally flaked- he texted me saying he was driving back from his hike "like a zombie," which I presumed meant he was tired but he didn't say he wasn't coming, then I never heard from him again 

But yknow what? Ginger and her hubby were there, and so were Knuckles and the Dandy (a guy I see occasionally and have never brought up on here because we have a very uncomplicated relationship )... and I realized I have so many awesome people in my life, why should I stress about the flakes? Sure it peeves me, but it's not worth losing sleep over. Fact is I am pretty damn lucky.

Is it weird that I was expecting/hoping for that post to turn into a giant orgy story?

[Stadler]

I say this with the utmost of awe and respect (and an acknowledgement that perhaps I'm not as mature as I would hope) but...

I don't have the constitution to be in the same room with at least four (as I count) of my past partners, with at least another two who could have been but weren't.    I get hives when my wife is in the same room as my ex.   

[bout to crash]

, understandable. I'm on good terms with most of my exes, but only one person in that room was an ex (the rest were people I'm currently involved with to varying degrees)... there are times when those things can be awkward, but not with this particular crowd. And yeah, it easily could have turned into a giant orgy with these folks

[Stadler]

I just threw up in my mouth a little at the thought of me, my wife and my ex-wife in a room that turns into an orgy.

I need to go wash. 

[Adami]

I just threw up in my mouth a little at the thought of me, my wife and my ex-wife in a room that turns into an orgy.

I need to go wash. 

I remember when my ex fiance told me that she went down on my ex girlfriend. (this was all after we broke up, so no cheating involved) It was not a fun feeling.

[cramx3]

 

If I found that out about my ex I'd also throw up at the thought that she was never even close to being that sexually interesting when we were together.

[Chino]

I dated a girl (call her A) I worked with for about a year. The relationship really wasn't that good and we both knew it wasn't going to last. Anyway, prior to A, I had a thing for this other girl (call her J). We never did anything, but she was aware of my feelings. Literally about 2 hours after I broke up with A, I got an unexpected blowjob from J in the basement at work. The day after that, I see a picture come across my FB feed of the two of them at the beach together. They never hung out before and weren't really friends, as far as I knew. Anyway, I felt like I threw up and drank it back down several times over.

[TioJorge]

You guys are fucking nuts. 

I get maybe being a bit uncomfortable or weirded out/surprised but the term 'throwing up in my mouth' wouldn't have been one I'd expect to see so often on such a topic.

Although I haven't had any kind of interaction like that between my ex's, I can only imagine it being either just a "oh, cool" type of deal or a turn on. Closest I've come is having a threesome with a girl I was dating and also working with (fucking dipshit idea) and another girl whom I had been fuck buddies with for a very long time (and still am, I actually just exited her vagina about thirty minutes ago YAAAAAY). Fuck buddy says to me and the chick I'm dating "Let's have a threesome!", girlfriend looks at me like she wants to rip my balls off and shove them down my throat. Two days later fuck buddy is sitting on my face while the girlfriend rides me. It was a grand old time. There was however a bit of jealousy from the girlfriend afterwards because she says I ate out the fuck buddy too much. WHAT? It's a threesome. I'm going to be doing SOMETHING to her. Fucking threesome are shit unless everyone involved knows exactly what will happen and no one is dating each other (OR, and this is the biggest fucking "or" on the planet: the people dating are actually truly okay with fooling around with others, which is about as rare as a god damn unicorn).

If my exes weren't vile, insane, soul sucking cunts, I'd love it if some nastiness went down between them or I found out I was with them at different points without knowing that they knew each other. That's some good spank bank shit right there, tell yoo whut. Well, the former is, the latter isn't even weird/gross to me, it's just kind of funny. I dunno. You guys are too vanilla for me. Jackie is the only one who understands the true beauty of a pansexual frenzy. 

[bout to crash]

Truth   

I think being involved with a poly community where everybody seems to be dating each other makes you much more tolerant of that sort of stuff.
I've never had a threesome that got super weird/awkward, but have heard stories. Usually because somebody involved is really insecure/not actually okay with it.

I had a nice night with Ginger tonight
I'm going to NJ and will see my dude that I have a long history with, but my vag is acting up so we'll see what happens...

[Prog Snob]

I dated a girl (call her A) I worked with for about a year. The relationship really wasn't that good and we both knew it wasn't going to last. Anyway, prior to A, I had a thing for this other girl (call her J). We never did anything, but she was aware of my feelings. Literally about 2 hours after I broke up with A, I got an unexpected blowjob from J in the basement at work. The day after that, I see a picture come across my FB feed of the two of them at the beach together. They never hung out before and weren't really friends, as far as I knew. Anyway, I felt like I threw up and drank it back down several times over.

Vicious. That moment you feel like you're living in a horrible movie plot.

[Lynxo]

There's a big lack of discussion about oral sex on this page. 

[Chino]

There's a big lack of discussion about oral sex on this page. 

I love oral sex. 9/10 times I like it more than regular sex.

[cramx3]

There's a big lack of discussion about oral sex on this page. 

I love oral sex. 9/10 times I like it more than regular sex.

Same here.  Nothing better in life than a good blow job.

I'm going to NJ and will see my dude that I have a long history with, but my vag is acting up so we'll see what happens...

  If you got some time and need the vag to heal, hit me up.

[Stadler]

For as active a sex life as I've had (and I feel somewhat lucky in that department), I have had a surprising lack of oral service done to me.    I had one girlfriend who was okay with it, but not an "offeror", I had one girlfriend who was WAY into it (and so I know it's not me, though I'm aware of the stories, asparagus and whatnot), and mostly women who would say up front "not really my thing". 

I'm okay with that, because except for the one who was "WAY" into it, I haven't seen fireworks.

Now a handjob, when done right...   all day long.

[Chino]

A handjob in conjunction with a good blowjob is pretty much heaven on Earth.

[cramx3]

A handjob in conjunction with a good blowjob is pretty much heaven on Earth.

Once again, this.  A good suckage is awesome,but when you add the hand at the bottom of the shaft going up and down with the mouth....

[TioJorge]

The only actual girlfriend I've had who actively loved giving me blowjobs was also by far and away the most insane woman I've ever dated. And by the by, I'm not talking like a nonchalant, bullshit-y "Haha, oh man that chick is INSANE BRUH". No. I mean. Fucking. Insane. Tried to break in to my house after I broke up with her-insane. "BREAK UP WITH ME!? I'LL BREAK INTO YOUR HOUSE!" I'm guessing was the rationale. I mean it's TOTALLY LOGICAL. But holy shit did she suck a mean dick. Downright porn worthy. But uh...not worth the other half of our relationship which was shit breaking left and right, screaming, and random fights over the most asinine shit (although to be fair, that was a time when I was drinking the most and she was drinking pretty heavily consistently too).

If I was looking for a relationship, first thing on my list would be sanity and sexuality. I really don't give a shit if it's shallow, whatever you wanna call it. I need a woman who loves to go down on me as much as I love going down on her. Haven't found that balance yet. Well, not in an actual partner. Plenty of friends who love to do it. I'm okay with that for now (and since I'm 27 and am reaching a point where I'm not changing much anymore, maybe for good, which I'm also okay with #I'MLIKEABIRD). Speaking in physicality, nothing is a bigger turn off to me than hearing "blowjobs? EW". I'm not looking for a woman who has some oral fixation but damn...hearing that makes me feel like I'm in highschool or some shit.

ALL I'M ASKING FOR IS SOMEONE WHO IS AS NASTY OF A SLUT AS I AM, DAMN IT!

....yeah....yep, I'm fucked.

[bout to crash]

♡
I enjoy giving oral more than receiving, usually. And I prefer a good fingering to oral most days.

[cramx3]

So random date tonight with a new girl from okc.  Didn't think anything of it when she visited my page last week.  I sent her what has become my typical joke message to girls who visit my page "Thanks for visiting, come back soon" or something along those lines.  Usually I get a second visit and no response  but she chatted back and my family plans got cancelled tonight so just threw out the idea of grabbing a drink and she actually agreed.  Im always open to meeting new people so while Im not sure I have interest here, I'm excited to just go out and meet someone.

[bout to crash]

, that's awesome though. Hope it was fun! Also just saw your vag healing comment .... I wish I had more down time but have been busy covering pretty much every square mile of NJ the past couple days.

[KevShmev]

I enjoy giving oral more than receiving, usually. 

  I wish I had more down time but have been busy covering pretty much every square mile of NJ the past couple days.

 

[bout to crash]

[Phoenix87x]

I wish that people that liked me on OK cupid would also visit my page. I have no idea who these people are 

[Adami]

I wish that people that liked me on OK cupid would also visit my page. I have no idea who these people are 

I still have a strong suspicion that OKC sends those "likes" to people who haven't paid for that feature as a means of enticing them to purchase it. 20 bucks says if you purchase it, the amount of likes you get drops significantly.

[cramx3]

I wish that people that liked me on OK cupid would also visit my page. I have no idea who these people are 

I still have a strong suspicion that OKC sends those "likes" to people who haven't paid for that feature as a means of enticing them to purchase it. 20 bucks says if you purchase it, the amount of likes you get drops significantly.

As someone who has purchased, it does not drop.  Essentially the likes from non visits are from the people who swipe I believe, and not someone who actually browsed your profile. 

My date friday night was not really interesting, but part of that was my own fault for choosing a bar that was not very fitting for a first time meeting (it was ridiculously loud for some reason even though it was empty).  It made it hard to talk.  We are supposed to hang out tomorrow night but Im debating internally if I even want to.  She has some cool things in common but she also rubbed me off as being a bit of a bitch and that's a big turn off.  I'm pretty sure she wanted me to kiss her and I didn't after the date, just wasn't feeling it.  Whatever, was still more interesting than sitting home.

Wednesday night Im supposed to see 23yo for the first time in a couple weeks and then Thursday I'm seeing Tennessee.  Should be an interesting week.

[Lynxo]

So...I've written here a few times about a girl I've been seeing.

Well, she was awfully quiet this weekend, so this morning I sent her a message on Facebook and asked how her weekend was and how she was doing.
Well...she responded with that she's gonna take a break from dating guys for a while now, for reasons she doesn't want to discuss. And she then proceeded to block me.

And I'm still a bit in shock and just wondering what I did that provoked such a reaction. But no matter how much I think about it, I can't think of anything. We had a great time, had sex several times.

I'm not really sad, I hadn't yet develop such strong emotions. But I'm upset, maybe even angry. It's okay for her to want to stop dating me but it would be nice to get to know why, or at the very least, get to know if I did something wrong. It's a bit disrespectful.

[cramx3]

And that's the biggest drawback from dating.  The disrespect because someone doesn't want to have a tough conversation.  Not saying she needs to explain herself, but the blocking bothers me especially if all things had seemed to be going well.  Just leaves the other persons wondering wtf and that's not right IMO.

[Chino]

There were several occasions where I reached out to a girl after the fact to discuss just that. One girl I met on Tinder ghosted after weeks of texting and two dates. I think I told this story before, but I was away camping and we were texting back and forth most of the day. We were mid conversation (seamless texting back and forth. Not even 30 seconds between sending and receiving) and she just randomly stopped. I didn't think much of it and let it go. Nightfall came, I sent a goodnight text, and woke up the next morning to nothing. At that point I figured that if she wanted to continue speaking, she'd reach out, any further messages from me would likely be falling on deaf ears at that point. A few more days go by and I never heard back from her.

About a week later I sent her a text along the lines of "Hey Leah. I told myself I wasn't going to send this, but could you please shed some light on why you just stopped texting me? I'm not looking to go out again or anything, but it concerns me when I'm talking to someone on a very regular basis and then they vanish without a trace. Can you be honest and let me know if it's something that I did specifically, or are you just not interested? You're not going to hurt my feelings".

She responded right away letting me know that she started talking to me as soon as she started seeing one of the guys at the hospital she worked at. She got romantically involved with him and that pretty much put the lid on whatever was brewing between the two of us. It was a completely legitimate answer and I was thrilled to hear it. Maybe it was bullshit, I don't know. But it was kind of irritating that she just couldn't be up front about it. She could have at least said goodbye without just leaving me out to dry.

[cramx3]

The first girl I date after 9 years with my x ghosted me after 6 dates including the 6th being one where I slept at her place.  The day after sleeping over was when she ghosted me.  I also called her out on it and she finally did respond, didn't give a reason but did say she didn't know how to end it.  I think she just had decided to stick with another guy personally. 

[Lynxo]

I don't get it. I just don't. If you're gonna end things with someone, you're not gonna see them again so just might as well just be honest about it.

No, I guess I can't demand an explanation. But the lack thereof just leaves me in a state of doubt if I did something to upset her. If she didn't block me, I could at least have asked that, so that I at least could have the opportunity to say I'm sorry and learn something. As it is now, I learned nothing. I feel like Jon Snow.