Lonely Hearts Club Thread v. The Strong Grip

[cramx3]

Just passing by to say this heart isn't lonely anymore 

 

I'm not even trying at this point.  After tindersuccess I just kind of have stopped caring about finding a girl for a little (well it's only been a couple weeks, but I don't feel like I even really want to for the near future).  I need some time to work on myself.  Specifically my look.  I want to lose weight and I need to figure out how to actually style my hair  .  But seriously, my weight is an issue with finding a girl I think, at least it will open up my potential pool. 

I went through this phase over the summer where I just stepped back and spent two months going hardcore and getting into better shape, only to travel a lot, then needed surgery, then my grandpa passed away and just put all the weight back on (excuses, excuses).  I notice so many unnattractive girls I message on okcupid or tinder and they ignore me, and I feel it's 100% due to my weight.  Even my good friend, one of his girls said I have a cute face, but I'm over weight and it'll throw most girls off.  I believe it.  I personally don't mind a little chunkiness on a girl, I like curves, but I know girls don't really like curves on guys.

Anyway, I also kind of had this revelation as well last week.  I was in Denver for work and I noticed how every single person is in amazing shape.  I'd never be able to get with any of these girls.  I went to the Red Rocks Amphitheater and walked to the top, I was so out of breath and looked around at everyone working out and how much easier it was for them than me.  I need to go back and make it to the top more easily on my next trip.  That was some serious motivation right there.

Anyway, enough of my rant against my body fat.  I know what needs to be done, now I just need to commit to it.  Today is day 2.  This was a yearly goal for myself as well, to get back to the way I was over the summer, lose at least 20 lbs and keep it off. 

Having said all that, I actually am talking to a few girls, but I'm not at all seriously interested, mostly just to pass time and converse with people than thinking these are serious options.  Maybe something comes of it, but like I said above, I'm just not in the mindset to find a "partner" right now.

[Adami]

Congrats Sacul!

I've been on a few dates from Okcupid in the past few months. Nice enough girls, but didn't feel anything for them.

Then again, I'm going to Vegas with Bout to Crash in a few days, and who could possibly measure up to that?

[cramx3]

Congrats Sacul!

I've been on a few dates from Okcupid in the past few months. Nice enough girls, but didn't feel anything for them.

Then again, I'm going to Vegas with Bout to Crash in a few days, and who could possibly measure up to that?

Vegas baby!!  I want to go back badly.  That sounds like fun.

[King Postwhore]

You may not be able to keep up with her!   She has so much energy seizing the moment.

[Sacul]

Congrats Sacul!

Thanks! I'll later update you with the situation as I'd really like some advice on certain stuff since it's my (and hers) first time on something like this, and don't want to screw up

[bout to crash]

You may not be able to keep up with her!   She has so much energy seizing the moment.

He better keep up with dis

For the record cram, I've got no beef with some meat on my dudes. I mean, I don't find morbidly obese attractive, but I've dated plenty of larger gentlemen. That said, I wouldn't even have put you into that category, but since you didn't hit me up whIle you were in Denver, I hate you.

I'm also trying to slowly get my ass into better shape- have been working out, joined a gym, paying a bit more attention to my food intake but not "dieting." I've lost 3.6 lbs in the last three weeks, so that's cool.

[sylvan]

It's good to hear that some of you are working on getting healthier, even if it's so you can look better naked  . I'm a fitness professional, so if anybody has any questions, feel free to ask. And it's not about "dieting" Jackie, it's about changing your daily habits and finding something that works for you in the long term. Our little club is gonna be hot yo!

[bout to crash]

Ha, I am so over trying to look better naked. That ain't gonna change too much but I want to feel healthier and lose some of the weight I put on since moving to CO. And yeah, I put "diet" in quotes because it's stupid to do that IMO. It's not sustainable. I just kind of lost track of what I was eating. My mom got me a fitbit which has been cool.
My fitness professional question for you- what kind of exercises would you recommend for strengthening a shitty knee? I've been trying not to overdo the running, use the elliptical when I'm at the gym, and doing lots of yoga and stretches focusing on my leg muscles. Any other ideas would be appreciated

In more on-topic news, the weed guy texted me out of the blue today. Can't remember what his nickname here was, but the one who always wanted me to come to his place, etc. We hadn't talked in over two months since I decided I was done with that shit. He sent me a pic of this "Jackelope" Gin at his liquor store and said it reminded him of me and he hoped I was doing ok. I debated on answering but ended up just sending a lighthearted response about the gin and saying I hoped things were well or whatever.  He replied but I left it there. I don't mind things being friendly between us (because I don't like having bad blood with people, and I can maybe shop in his liquor store without feeling hella awkward ) but didn't really want to open that door very wide.

[cramx3]

Jackie, you are probably one of the most open minded females I have met.  As you know in NJ, the people here aren't quite so open minded, the fact that I am overweight is definitely a problem with getting "access" to a lot of the woman here.  Regardless, I didn't reach out to you last week because I knew you seemed busy, plus I honestly wanted some alone time for the week, do some soul searching in a way since I've been feeling like something is a little off.   I also had twice as much work as last trip so my flexibility was very low (besides Saturday morning before my flight when I made it to the Red Rocks Park).  Anyway, next time I'll hit you up, don't hate me!

I don't mind things being friendly between us (because I don't like having bad blood with people, and I can maybe shop in his liquor store without feeling hella awkward ) but didn't really want to open that door very wide.

This is how I feel with x dates.  I would always want things to end in such a way that if I saw you on the street I would feel comfortable saying hi and not have to result to crossing the street to avoid confrontation.  I was quite annoyed that tindersuccess was against this idea of just being friendly, not friends, but friendly.  Whatever, her choice and that's that.  I would have done the same thing with the weed guy, responded to be friendly, but not continue a conversation that may lead him to believe there was still interest. 

[Chino]

My girlfriend leaves tomorrow for a 10 day trip to Ireland. My heart is going to be super lonely. I think video games, poker, and housework should hold me over till about Sunday afternoon.

[cramx3]

My girlfriend leaves tomorrow for a 10 day trip to Ireland. My heart is going to be super lonely. I think video games, poker, and housework should hold me over till about Sunday afternoon.

I don't think I was ever lonely when my ex would take a trip or be away from home for a few days.  I'd have so much fun 

[Chino]

My girlfriend leaves tomorrow for a 10 day trip to Ireland. My heart is going to be super lonely. I think video games, poker, and housework should hold me over till about Sunday afternoon.

I don't think I was ever lonely when my ex would take a trip or be away from home for a few days.  I'd have so much fun 

If it was just three or four days, I'd be stoked, especially if it was the weekend. But 11 days is a lot, at least to me. I don't go out or do anything during the week because of my work schedule, so having someone else at the house is nice.

[cramx3]

My girlfriend leaves tomorrow for a 10 day trip to Ireland. My heart is going to be super lonely. I think video games, poker, and housework should hold me over till about Sunday afternoon.

I don't think I was ever lonely when my ex would take a trip or be away from home for a few days.  I'd have so much fun 

If it was just three or four days, I'd be stoked, especially if it was the weekend. But 11 days is a lot, at least to me. I don't go out or do anything during the week because of my work schedule, so having someone else at the house is nice.

I guess that is just because I didn't really like my ex  I don't think she was ever away for more than a week though.  I also usually keep it simple on week nights because of work so I know what you mean.  Now I live with my brother who never leaves the house so I really enjoy the rarity when he spends the night out and I can enjoy my own house to myself.

[Stadler]

I'm with Chino; your "partner going away" is kind of like New Orleans or Vegas or a cruise; great for about 2 or 3 days, but by day 4 or so you're almost ready to go home, and by day 11, you're like "what the fuck, this has got to END!".

[axeman90210]

I would not feel that way about 11 days in Vegas... maybe it's better that I just stay single

[cramx3]

I would not feel that way about 11 days in Vegas... maybe it's better that I just stay single

As much as I love Vegas, 11 days would leave me broke or dead or both. 

[Chino]

I would not feel that way about 11 days in Vegas... maybe it's better that I just stay single

As much as I love Vegas, 11 days would leave me broke or dead or both.

I went to the strip for the first time a few weeks ago. I drove down it last year but actually walked around it this most most recent trip. I was ready to go after 15 minutes. Nothing but shopping outlets and chain restaurants. I've been spoiled by Mohegan and found the casinos I went into to be nothing special. I don't have the slightest desire to ever go back to the strip.

[cramx3]

I would not feel that way about 11 days in Vegas... maybe it's better that I just stay single

As much as I love Vegas, 11 days would leave me broke or dead or both.

I went to the strip for the first time a few weeks ago. I drove down it last year but actually walked around it this most most recent trip. I was ready to go after 15 minutes. Nothing but shopping outlets and chain restaurants. I've been spoiled by Mohegan and found the casinos I went into to be nothing special. I don't have the slightest desire to ever go back to the strip.

wat, those casinos nothing special?  They are huge and so nice.  If you aren't a partier or gambler than it makes sense, also the food is awesome, but you need to go inside the casinos to get that good food.  I've gone three times and just got my monthly letter from the Venetian yesterday telling me to come back.. I'm going to bite one day on those free nights they keep offering.  I've never been to the Mohegan so I can't compare to that, but nothing in AC compares to Vegas IMO.

[axeman90210]

I love Vegas. We went out last summer for 5 nights and 6 days and I could have easily stayed for twice as long. Woke up and got breakfast every day, then hit the 11am poker tournament. Whenever that ended for me, lunch by the pool and enjoying the sights there for a while (except for the day I won ). Back up to the hotel room around 4 or 5 to shower and maybe nap. Out to a different hotel/casino each night to walk around and have a great dinner. Back to my hotel for some late night gambling, and maybe a nightcap at the whiskey bar on my way to bed.

[cramx3]

See, I'm not a big enough gambler to do that for so many days.  I eventually run out of money or just get fed up with being inside a casino.

Forgot to mention the shows, that's another reason Vegas is awesome, the entertainment out there.

[Chino]

I would not feel that way about 11 days in Vegas... maybe it's better that I just stay single

As much as I love Vegas, 11 days would leave me broke or dead or both.

I went to the strip for the first time a few weeks ago. I drove down it last year but actually walked around it this most most recent trip. I was ready to go after 15 minutes. Nothing but shopping outlets and chain restaurants. I've been spoiled by Mohegan and found the casinos I went into to be nothing special. I don't have the slightest desire to ever go back to the strip.

wat, those casinos nothing special?  They are huge and so nice.  If you aren't a partier or gambler than it makes sense, also the food is awesome, but you need to go inside the casinos to get that good food.  I've gone three times and just got my monthly letter from the Venetian yesterday telling me to come back.. I'm going to bite one day on those free nights they keep offering.  I've never been to the Mohegan so I can't compare to that, but nothing in AC compares to Vegas IMO.

Yeah. I found them boring. The hotels were really nice, but the Casinos themselves were honestly nothing special. Connecticut's Foxwoods and Mohegan casinos are the two largest casinos in the country. They are no joke. If you don't include the hotel and focus only on the casino portion, I think Mohegan has anything I saw in Vegas beat.

[cramx3]

Out of curiosity I looked those casinos up, holy shit Foxwoods is huge.  Maybe I should make a trip up there to check it out.

[Chino]

Foxwoods is almost too big. I almost never go to that one. Last time I went, I wanted to grab some grub at like 2AM. It was a solid 15-20 minute walk INSIDE to get to Fudruckers. By the time I got back to my hotel room, my breakfast sammich was ice cold 

I'd be more than down to arrange a DTF casino venture.

[Stadler]

You should.  I'm partial to Mohegan because I know a couple tribe members, but either one is spectacular.  I like Vegas for the vibe - goes on in Vegas, stays in Vegas, even if I don't at all take advantage of that, and I get an odd kick out of talking to the escorts from LA that come up on the weeknights - but Chino is right; they don't compare.   

It's gotten to the point that basically any decent act that comes through Connecticut plays either Foxwoods or Mohegan at some point.   One time I was walking around and I heard Vince Neil's screeching caterwaul, and sure enough he was playing the Wolf's Den, which is basically a small club right in the middle of one of the casinos, and free.   So I sat at a machine, got a free drink and listened to him stammer his way through subpar Crue knockoffs and a weak Zeppelin medley for an hour or so.  Big names like Springsteen and Prince and Ken Chesney will do two nights, and basically stay there for the weekend.  When Buffett plays, he pays for a part of the parking lot so the RVs and tailgaters can set up shop for a couple days.   It's fun in a way that Vegas doesn't touch anymore (though I will say that I may go out there to see one of the "residences"; that sounds pretty cool). 

[cramx3]

Foxwoods is almost too big. I almost never go to that one. Last time I went, I wanted to grab some grub at like 2AM. It was a solid 15-20 minute walk INSIDE to get to Fudruckers. By the time I got back to my hotel room, my breakfast sammich was ice cold 

I'd be more than down to arrange a DTF casino venture.

Consider me in

[JayOctavarium]

Lonely hearts casino club

[axeman90210]

That might well be relevant to my interests.

[Chino]

When are we doing this?

Stadler, can your Mohegan tribe buddies comp us rooms? 

[cramx3]

When are we doing this?

Stadler, can your Mohegan tribe buddies comp us rooms? 

Yes please 

I wasn't sure how serious you were, but if this is a legit idea I'd talk some dates. But can't do anything until after April for sure.

[Prog Snob]

No venture to CT would be complete without a tour of THE parking garage.

[Chino]

No venture to CT would be complete without a tour of THE parking garage.

That's a solid hour and a half from Mohegan, if not more 

[cramx3]

No venture to CT would be complete without a tour of THE parking garage.

That's a solid hour and a half from Mohegan, if not more 

 

[Prog Snob]

No venture to CT would be complete without a tour of THE parking garage.

That's a solid hour and a half from Mohegan, if not more 

 

So maybe on a drunken bet we'll wind up there and pee on the cone.   

[Stadler]

Hahaha, I have this mental picture of 8 or 9 guys standing in a parking garage waiting for some woman to park her car.  I see "police" on the horizon. 

[King Postwhore]

Screw that, here's 2 dollars kid, go park my car.