Lonely Hearts Club Thread v. The Strong Grip

[Chino]

Did she touch your penis?

[bout to crash]

, my guess is yes.

And yeah, distance stuff blows buuut if you really end up liking someone you find a way to make it work.

[Chino]

, my guess is yes.

And yeah, distance stuff blows buuut if you really end up liking someone you find a way to make it work.

 

And if you don't really end up liking them, it's really easy to cut it off.


P.S.
I hope you guy's don't mind me hanging out in this thread even though I'm not single. You're good people and good discussion goes on in this thread.

[bout to crash]

Oh yeah, I used to hang here all the time when I was more attached.

[cramx3]

P.S.
I hope you guy's don't mind me hanging out in this thread even though I'm not single. You're good people and good discussion goes on in this thread.

GTFO

 

Yea, it's not so much a distance, but also cost since getting into the city is really expensive.  I was pretty honest about not being serious due to the distance issue, but after discovering how awesome she is, I was also honest yesterday in telling her that as well.  We'll see what happens.  What is cool is she only lives a couple blocks from my sister.  I'm trying really hard not to put much thought into this, but I can't help but think about her.   

[TioJorge]

It fits. Most people in dedicated relationships are the loneliest motherfuckers I know.














































 

[carl320]

An update to my situation i detailed in a previous post (a couple of pages ago).

I talked to my friend and we chatted a for a bit.  I told him I had something to tell him and I explained what's been going on and why I felt I needed to tell him.  He appreciated that I told him and he "gave his blessing" with a chuckle.  He then voiced his concerns but things changed after I told him.  I've messaged him a few times on unrelated things but never got a response.  I just found out that he unfriended me on FB.  It sucks since we've been bandmates and friends for 11 years.

On the other hand, I've been out and hung out with my girlfriend   (It's a long distance thing, she lives an hour and a half away).  We still text a lot and are planning on hanging out this weekend.

[sylvan]

That's the world we live in now. People apparently have a problem saying what they mean. If he had enough of a problem with it, why not say so instead of saying it was cool? People are funny .

[cramx3]

For someone who said he was your friend, you'd expect a friend to say how he really feels about that situation, not be cool with it and just ditch you like that.  I complain about a date who ghosts you, but a friend who does that is way worse.

[sylvan]

I complain about a date who ghosts you, but a friend who does that is way worse.

I had a best friend that essentially ghosted me, twice! Fool me once .

On yeah, way to go cram . Is Tinder worthwhile? I might give it a shot. I'm gonna be in NYC in a month and it might be fun .

[cramx3]

I complain about a date who ghosts you, but a friend who does that is way worse.

I had a best friend that essentially ghosted me, twice! Fool me once .

On yeah, way to go cram . Is Tinder worthwhile? I might give it a shot. I'm gonna be in NYC in a month and it might be fun .

I've been on tinder for a year and a half and finally had something positive from it.  Everyone has thier own experience.  It's worth it just for the swiping alone, but don't put all your hopes into it.  NYC is a great place though for tinder since you'll get thousands of people within 1 mile.

As for the Tinder girl, we are still talking and may try to meet up in Connecticut this weekend (long story of why there).

[Phoenix87x]

Whoever said "its better to have loved and lost than never loved at all" knows nothing about pain.

What you don't know about can't hurt you.

The relationship that was the first thing to bring me happiness in this life is breathing its last breaths and I don't think its going to make it. Its not been a good day and I feel like I am falling apart.

[cramx3]

Sorry, but honestly I agree with that thought.  I'd imagine you had plenty of good times before that have lead you to this point.  The pain is only there because the pleasure was so good before, or the love was there.  The pain will go away.  Once again, sorry because it is really tough and difficult, but you will overcome.

[Prog Snob]

Whoever said "its better to have loved and lost than never loved at all" knows nothing about pain.

The relationship that was the first thing to bring me happiness in this life is breathing its last breaths and I don't think its going to make it. Its not been a good day and I feel like I am falling apart.

Firstly, it was Tennyson.

Secondly, you're taking it too literal. This is going to sound like Illumination Theory but you can't know pain without love. You need one to understand the other. You can't have light without dark or love without hate.

I empathize with how you feel right now. I've been an emotional train wreck the last couple of years because of unstable relationships. Last summer was fucking torturous. I lost over fifty pounds in the last year or so. I spent all of my free time on my couch desperately trying to find some joy.  I must have rewatched Dream Theater videos on YouTube hundreds of  times because I just did not know where to turn for a smile or some reminder of who I used to be. I'm still jaded. I still feel insecure. You will go through the same thing, but you will get better. To paraphrase Marillion, you will see the blue sky above the rain. I wish I had some magic advice to make it easier for you but there isn't any. That's the reality of it. It'll pass though. In time it will pass.

[DebraKadabra]

(((Phoenix)))

I know exactly where you are, man. My sympathies. It DOES get better, trust me.

[bout to crash]

Sorry, but honestly I agree with that thought.  I'd imagine you had plenty of good times before that have lead you to this point.  The pain is only there because the pleasure was so good before, or the love was there.  The pain will go away.  Once again, sorry because it is really tough and difficult, but you will overcome.

Amen.

That reminds me! Hey guys, look at this creep I went out with tonight:

[cramx3]

Definitely looks like a creep

[Adami]

Definitely looks like a creep

Very true, but she means well.

[sylvan]

Definitely looks like a creep

Very true, but she means well.

On snap!

I started chatting with this woman that lives nowhere near me, several states away. She seems like fun . Very flirty and sexual. But she told me some of the things online guys have asked her to do. Offered a LOT of money to have some guys baby. Some guy wanted to pay her to fuck his BIG dog! Several thousand for a month's worth of unlimited sex. 

[cramx3]

I don't have the link anymore, but I read an online article yesterday about a moderator for a popular online dating site and the things he/she saw.  That type of stuff is quite normal apparently, as well as the nigerian prince scam which apparently people still fall for.

[Stadler]

Sorry, but honestly I agree with that thought.  I'd imagine you had plenty of good times before that have lead you to this point.  The pain is only there because the pleasure was so good before, or the love was there.  The pain will go away.  Once again, sorry because it is really tough and difficult, but you will overcome.

Amen.

That reminds me! Hey guys, look at this creep I went out with tonight:

Isn't that the international symbol for "SOMEONE CALL MY CELL, QUICK AND SAVE ME FROM THIS BAD DATE!!"?  I think it is....

[cramx3]

 

[bout to crash]

Definitely looks like a creep

Very true, but she means well.

On snap!

I started chatting with this woman that lives nowhere near me, several states away. She seems like fun . Very flirty and sexual. But she told me some of the things online guys have asked her to do. Offered a LOT of money to have some guys baby. Some guy wanted to pay her to fuck his BIG dog! Several thousand for a month's worth of unlimited sex. 

Jaysis! I've never gotten any offers that good 

[TioJorge]

Oh right, sure Jackie, REAL COY. Fine. Two foot massages for ONE sexy time.





Final offer.

[Adami]

Definitely looks like a creep

Very true, but she means well.

On snap!

I started chatting with this woman that lives nowhere near me, several states away. She seems like fun . Very flirty and sexual. But she told me some of the things online guys have asked her to do. Offered a LOT of money to have some guys baby. Some guy wanted to pay her to fuck his BIG dog! Several thousand for a month's worth of unlimited sex. 

Jaysis! I've never gotten any offers that good 

I have proof to the contrary.

[bout to crash]

Nah, I washed it off.

[Prog Snob]

After seeing this girl on the ferry and subway every day for weeks and just exchanging smiles and hellos, I finally decided to start up a conversation with her. She's a bit younger than me, but she speaks intelligently, and that's a major selling point for me, so we'll see what happens. I didn't get her number yet, but we did have a nice conversation.

[cramx3]

After seeing this girl on the ferry and subway every day for weeks and just exchanging smiles and hellos, I finally decided to start up a conversation with her. She's a bit younger than me, but she speaks intelligently, and that's a major selling point for me, so we'll see what happens. I didn't get her number yet, but we did have a nice conversation.

Awesome, I never have the balls to do something like that.

Looks like the Tinder girl and I might have a date set up on Sunday afternoon in New Haven Connecticut.  I'm going up to Hartford Saturday night for the Nightwish concert and tossed the idea of stopping in the city on my way home for lunch, but turns out she will also be in Connecticut and our ride homes might time out perfectly to meet up in New Haven.  I'm very excited for this.  I threw the idea out there and she ran with it, planning the whole thing to meet up.  I really like that, she is doing something all of the girls I have dated never do, actually show some desire to plan something and not just be like "whatever, you decide".   I guess that's why she is professionally an event planner.

[Chino]

After seeing this girl on the ferry and subway every day for weeks and just exchanging smiles and hellos, I finally decided to start up a conversation with her. She's a bit younger than me, but she speaks intelligently, and that's a major selling point for me, so we'll see what happens. I didn't get her number yet, but we did have a nice conversation.

Awesome, I never have the balls to do something like that.

Looks like the Tinder girl and I might have a date set up on Sunday afternoon in New Haven Connecticut.  I'm going up to Hartford Saturday night for the Nightwish concert and tossed the idea of stopping in the city on my way home for lunch, but turns out she will also be in Connecticut and our ride homes might time out perfectly to meet up in New Haven.  I'm very excited for this.  I threw the idea out there and she ran with it, planning the whole thing to meet up.  I really like that, she is doing something all of the girls I have dated never do, actually show some desire to plan something and not just be like "whatever, you decide".   I guess that's why she is professionally an event planner.

Do you have plans yet? Take her to Bar (that's the name of the place) in New Haven. Great beers brewed there, awesome atmosphere, and pizzas that make the top 25 list nationally every year.

[cramx3]

After seeing this girl on the ferry and subway every day for weeks and just exchanging smiles and hellos, I finally decided to start up a conversation with her. She's a bit younger than me, but she speaks intelligently, and that's a major selling point for me, so we'll see what happens. I didn't get her number yet, but we did have a nice conversation.

Awesome, I never have the balls to do something like that.

Looks like the Tinder girl and I might have a date set up on Sunday afternoon in New Haven Connecticut.  I'm going up to Hartford Saturday night for the Nightwish concert and tossed the idea of stopping in the city on my way home for lunch, but turns out she will also be in Connecticut and our ride homes might time out perfectly to meet up in New Haven.  I'm very excited for this.  I threw the idea out there and she ran with it, planning the whole thing to meet up.  I really like that, she is doing something all of the girls I have dated never do, actually show some desire to plan something and not just be like "whatever, you decide".   I guess that's why she is professionally an event planner.

Do you have plans yet? Take her to Bar (that's the name of the place) in New Haven. Great beers brewed there, awesome atmosphere, and pizzas that make the top 25 list nationally every year.

She sent me a list of some of New Haven's famous pizza places, I haven't had a chance to go through it.  Honestly not looking to drink since I expect to be beyond exhausted by the time it is Sunday afternoon and I'll still have a few hours drive home.

BTW, since I reached out to you before.... ONE ticket finally went on sale on stubhub for that concert and it cost me about 100 over face value 

[Chino]

Damnnn. That's crazy.

[Prog Snob]

After seeing this girl on the ferry and subway every day for weeks and just exchanging smiles and hellos, I finally decided to start up a conversation with her. She's a bit younger than me, but she speaks intelligently, and that's a major selling point for me, so we'll see what happens. I didn't get her number yet, but we did have a nice conversation.

Awesome, I never have the balls to do something like that.

Looks like the Tinder girl and I might have a date set up on Sunday afternoon in New Haven Connecticut.  I'm going up to Hartford Saturday night for the Nightwish concert and tossed the idea of stopping in the city on my way home for lunch, but turns out she will also be in Connecticut and our ride homes might time out perfectly to meet up in New Haven.  I'm very excited for this.  I threw the idea out there and she ran with it, planning the whole thing to meet up.  I really like that, she is doing something all of the girls I have dated never do, actually show some desire to plan something and not just be like "whatever, you decide".   I guess that's why she is professionally an event planner.

Nice. I hope it works out. I haven't been to New Haven since the Petrucci/Portnoy clinic at Toad's Place.

[Stadler]

After seeing this girl on the ferry and subway every day for weeks and just exchanging smiles and hellos, I finally decided to start up a conversation with her. She's a bit younger than me, but she speaks intelligently, and that's a major selling point for me, so we'll see what happens. I didn't get her number yet, but we did have a nice conversation.

Awesome, I never have the balls to do something like that.

Looks like the Tinder girl and I might have a date set up on Sunday afternoon in New Haven Connecticut.  I'm going up to Hartford Saturday night for the Nightwish concert and tossed the idea of stopping in the city on my way home for lunch, but turns out she will also be in Connecticut and our ride homes might time out perfectly to meet up in New Haven.  I'm very excited for this.  I threw the idea out there and she ran with it, planning the whole thing to meet up.  I really like that, she is doing something all of the girls I have dated never do, actually show some desire to plan something and not just be like "whatever, you decide".   I guess that's why she is professionally an event planner.

Do you have plans yet? Take her to Bar (that's the name of the place) in New Haven. Great beers brewed there, awesome atmosphere, and pizzas that make the top 25 list nationally every year.

This is an outstanding suggestion.  When it comes to pizza, you'll likely get pointed to Pepe's and Sally's, both great, but Moderne is the way to go, it's not far from Pepe's and Sally's (which are right next to each other).   All three have the advantage of some of the best Italian pastries and desserts you'll ever have right down the street (though I can't remember the name of the place; i'll look it up if you need me to). 

[Chino]

Can Stadler and I come as third and fourth wheels? It shouldn't be hard to explain to your lady friend.... "Yeah, uh, these are two dudes I also met on the internet. Is it okay if they come eat pizza with us?"

[cramx3]

Can Stadler and I come as third and fourth wheels? It shouldn't be hard to explain to your lady friend.... "Yeah, uh, these are two dudes I also met on the internet. Is it okay if they come eat pizza with us?"

  why not go for a 2nd DTF lonely hearts meet up this week