Lonely Hearts Club Thread v. The Strong Grip

[bout to crash]

, true that.

So I hadn't heard from him last night, but the partner actually sent me a Facebook request... and I'm not even frinds with him on there. I accepted her request and sent a hey message, and we exchanged a couple of casual messages this morning. So no, I don't think it has anything to do with her.
He finally replied to my message this afternoon, said he had a good but busy weekend, and asked how mine was. I was busy with work and kinda forgot about it until later on, when I sent him a response but still haven't heard back. I'm wondering if maybe he just doesn't have a lot of energy to give. Which is fine, because I sorta feel the same way, but I would have liked him to give me something

On another note, I had a lady date with somebody from OKC tonight, which went well. We talked nonstop for about three hours and basically had to force ourselves to leave. She drove me home (we met at a place maybe half a mile from me so I walked there). She told me this was her first date with a woman! She's fucked women before, but never actually gone on a date. So I realized after all the awkward silence that I was going to have to make the move. I asked if she would be offended (why the fuck did I use that word? ) if I kissed her. She said no, and I came inside with lipstick on my face

[TioJorge]

 

Good to hear, playa!

And yeah, my half cent on the metal yoga guy (throw is ass away if he isn't a Colossus yogi, the fuck you doin!?) is time will tell if he's Jackie worthy...sounds like you answered you own question about the temporary lack of intimacy before what with the lack of his energy and him probably just being a bit absent-minded, libido worn out. Which is good cause that means you can spray your pheromones all over him and get him into your cock cave (TM) some other time.

Sooo tonight I had this insane revelation that I'm not sure why never occurred to me before and Facetime'd my traveling ladyfriend whilst I had a sudowoodo and she was totally into it. Except about halfway through our (admittedly awesome, hot) Sextime (TM...actually that's probably already TM'd) session, I had the amazing insight to say aloud:

*fapfapfap dirtytalk dirtytalk*
Penis: "Ey....hhmm.."
Vagina: "WHAT!? PAN BACK DOWN"
Penis: "Do...do you think it's possible that someone intercepted this Facetime and is watching us and/or recording or that somehow the government is getting off to our awesome sexiness?"
Vagina: "..."  "............" *Pans up to face* 
*Ends Facetime*
Penis: "FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF-WHY DO YOU HAVE TO BE SO GOD DAMN CREATIVE, GEORGE!?!?!?"

She texted me later that for such an offense I shall have to repent somehow. Which I'm guessing means pay for an outing and then go down on her for a very long time and then not get release myself afterwards. Actually I'm almost entirely positive that's what's going to happen. Which I'm still pretty much okay with because I'm an abomination of a man. But for the most part joked afterwards and admitted that she was too tipsy to think on if my comment was insane or insanely plausible and ended the call in a panic and laughed about it afterwards. Still. God damn it. It was pretty damn fun. I cannot believe I hadn't ever thought of that before or done that before.

[cramx3]

Tio, there is a website out there that has hacked many webcams that haven't had their passwords changed.  It is very possible for someone to hack a webcam and watch what's going on although highly unlikely.

Just booked a work trip to Denver next week, want to go on a date Jackie? 

[TioJorge]

Well I mean, it was on our iPhones, but even so, I'm sure that's still totally doable. Maybe even more so. I'm not sure how the hacking of phones would work. But yeah as far as webcams, I don't even use mine anymore because a former friend of mine all but lives in the digital world, whom I wouldn't doubt for a second is watched in some form by big brother and has shown me in person a couple times that he's hacked webcams.  We don't talk anymore... Shit is nuts and all too easy if you're already in the know about such things, apparently. Or he's a lot freakier and better at that than I thought... Yeesh.

[cramx3]

I'd imagine it's possible with phones, but the webcames are the easy target.

If interested, from Shark Tank, some dude tried to pitch the idea of a piece of plastic to cover your webcam.  Product is stupid, but the discussion between this guy and the sharks is not only relevant to this discussion, it's also somewhat funny.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X_GBx9v8c5A

[Chino]

I keep a piece of tape over my work computer's webcam.

[TioJorge]

I don't think that's paranoid or anything close to it at all, Chino. Probably a pretty good idea, especially for a work computer given how many companies (even the multi-billion dollar worldwide ones) have the absolute worst security on the fucking planet.

I didn't watch the cilp but yeah that product and idea sounds dumb as all fuck for precisely what Chino just mentioned. 

[cramx3]

I don't think that's paranoid or anything close to it at all, Chino. Probably a pretty good idea, especially for a work computer given how many companies (even the multi-billion dollar worldwide ones) have the absolute worst security on the fucking planet.

I didn't watch the cilp but yeah that product and idea sounds dumb as all fuck for precisely what Chino just mentioned. 

Cuban says he wouldnt buy it and use a post-it.  They eat that guy up, but talk a bit about the reality of webcam security.

I also thought the same thing, I guess Chino's company doesn't have a trustworthy network.

[TioJorge]

Ah, nice.  Yeah post-it is probably the best option.

Man, my dad works for one of those multi-billion dollar worldwide companies, they're in the oil business; not directly, but more that they sell biological 'bugs' that clean up and eat the oil and such in refineries, spills, maintenance, balance of the tanks materials, etc. And holy fucking shit...their security department is run by half-wits and dipshits. They're using technology that was outdated half a decade or more ago. It's kind of like they're this big badass army and just randomly decide to give their soldiers BB guns here and there. It's ridiculous. Tons of companies out there like that...I can't fathom it.

[Stadler]

I could see at work, even the company itself wanting a glimpse into the secret life of it's employees (and I would imagine they are within their rights to do so if it is their hardware).

But - and of course I don't mean YOU, specifically, Tio, because I think I speak for all of us when I say that I'm sure it would be worth being a fly on the wall for you and your lady friend's freaky shit - I can't see there being huge demand to have the half-assed, poorly lit, shaky, grainy, and otherwise wholly unerotic cellphone-cam homemade kink videos.   I mean, after all, it takes seven characters to enter the world of unlimited free, some professionally shot, erotic videos. 

[sylvan]

So I realized after all the awkward silence that I was going to have to make the move. I asked if she would be offended (why the fuck did I use that word? ) if I kissed her.

I find this so ironically funny. In a cute way . It's like it's always on the guy to man up and make the first move. (I know some women are totally willing to make the first move) But what if there's no guy? I just never considered the situation where a woman would have the same thoughts and also ask that question. For some reason you don't think until after you already say it.

[cramx3]

So I realized after all the awkward silence that I was going to have to make the move. I asked if she would be offended (why the fuck did I use that word? ) if I kissed her.

I find this so ironically funny. In a cute way . It's like it's always on the guy to man up and make the first move. (I know some women are totally willing to make the first move) But what if there's no guy? I just never considered the situation where a woman would have the same thoughts and also ask that question. For some reason you don't think until after you already say it.

Makes for a memorable first kiss and you can always laugh about it later if things work out.

[TioJorge]

I could see at work, even the company itself wanting a glimpse into the secret life of it's employees (and I would imagine they are within their rights to do so if it is their hardware).

But - and of course I don't mean YOU, specifically, Tio, because I think I speak for all of us when I say that I'm sure it would be worth being a fly on the wall for you and your lady friend's freaky shit - I can't see there being huge demand to have the half-assed, poorly lit, shaky, grainy, and otherwise wholly unerotic cellphone-cam homemade kink videos.   I mean, after all, it takes seven characters to enter the world of unlimited free, some professionally shot, erotic videos.

Oh absolutely, I'm not in any serious way worried about that at all, I found it funny she ended the call and took it seriously given my proclivity to spout off random thoughts at all times of the day.

I would however like to mention that that shit is HIGH DEF AS FUUUUCK now. I mean really, we both have an iPhone 6 and I was amazed. I haven't used Facetime for years...I think since iPhone 4, and even then it was fairly nice, though looked like ancient relics compared to now.

But yeah there are still plenty of oldschool-camera-phone users out there who I'm sure do the same except it looks like they're watching a grainy Minecraft porn video. No way that unless you're a celebrity or an already watched hacker who just so happens to have boobs and be smoking (which, come on now...come ooonnnn), no one is gonna be tapping into that kind of stank.

[bout to crash]

Just booked a work trip to Denver next week, want to go on a date Jackie? 

Oh man, that would make the Lonely Hearts Club thread realllllly awkward. But seriously, when are you here?? We should at least try to get a beer and take a photo of us flipping the bird.

So I realized after all the awkward silence that I was going to have to make the move. I asked if she would be offended (why the fuck did I use that word? ) if I kissed her.

I find this so ironically funny. In a cute way . It's like it's always on the guy to man up and make the first move. (I know some women are totally willing to make the first move) But what if there's no guy? I just never considered the situation where a woman would have the same thoughts and also ask that question. For some reason you don't think until after you already say it.

Makes for a memorable first kiss and you can always laugh about it later if things work out.

True that..  and yeah, I'm so used to the dude being the aggressor so it makes it weird uncharted territory. The other gal I've been seeing is pretty forward so wasn't an issue with her.

And as usual, George. Your stories are the best.

[sylvan]

Well I mean, it was on our iPhones, but even so, I'm sure that's still totally doable. Maybe even more so. I'm not sure how the hacking of phones would work.

I knew this sounded familiar. I watched the Entourage movie again last night and Drama is having iPhone sex with some hottie when her boyfriend walks in. After a little antagonizing from Drama, TMZ later breaks with a celeb sex tape, "Johnny's Banana," him beating it on a deck chair .

[cramx3]

Well I mean, it was on our iPhones, but even so, I'm sure that's still totally doable. Maybe even more so. I'm not sure how the hacking of phones would work.

I knew this sounded familiar. I watched the Entourage movie again last night and Drama is having iPhone sex with some hottie when her boyfriend walks in. After a little antagonizing from Drama, TMZ later breaks with a celeb sex tape, "Johnny's Banana," him beating it on a deck chair .

  that was pretty funny

Just booked a work trip to Denver next week, want to go on a date Jackie? 

Oh man, that would make the Lonely Hearts Club thread realllllly awkward. But seriously, when are you here?? We should at least try to get a beer and take a photo of us flipping the bird.

We both post here after with our reflections 

[Chino]

Just booked a work trip to Denver next week, want to go on a date Jackie? 

Oh man, that would make the Lonely Hearts Club thread realllllly awkward. But seriously, when are you here?? We should at least try to get a beer and take a photo of us flipping the bird.

We both post here after with our reflections 

Any chance of a live stream?

[TioJorge]

Next thing you know there's a DTF "DTF thread" and we're having DTF DTF-condoms made.

[Stadler]

Well, this thread took a turn, dinnit?

[cramx3]

Just booked a work trip to Denver next week, want to go on a date Jackie? 

Oh man, that would make the Lonely Hearts Club thread realllllly awkward. But seriously, when are you here?? We should at least try to get a beer and take a photo of us flipping the bird.

We both post here after with our reflections 

Any chance of a live stream?

I think that would require Tio.  He has experience with camera skills.

[TioJorge]

Come to moi for all your ass and balls needs!

Tio's: We Get Up In There.

[bout to crash]

 

So I was too tired to post about this last night, but I had a date with this OKC guy that went really well. The funny thing is, I almost wanted to cancel it because I was so tired and he seemed cool but I wasn't super attracted to his pictures or anything, but I am glad I stuck with it! He was way cuter in person- he has a great smile and very charming disposition. Like he's just very happy and enthusiastic, and his energy is good. We seem to have a lot in common, including a love for fancy beer and cheese. He is from Vermont and has an Italian background, so we had a lot to talk about there. He paid for our dinner at this Belgian beer place and then we decided to go to a brewery nearby (where I paid, but not nearly as much ). We had really good conversation that went from PG rated to X rated when we switched venues for some reason, and both agreed that we should have a "play" date. We made out heavily in the car and he said some shit that made me blush . I drove him to the bus station (he lives in Boulder, which is the only bummer, and didn't want to deal with parking in the hood we met in) and we made a date for next weekend.

Of course, once I got home (and got off ) I started to ask myself questions like "Oh god, is this too good to be true?" Because the energy we had sorta reminded me of the really shitty relationship I had a few years ago (with the guy who didn't tell me he was engaged, started doing meth, and so on). So I was thinking shit,  is he just a sociopath that has sucked me in with his manipulative energy and now he's going to suck the life out of me??

I know it's mostly irrational and I'm trying not to bring my baggage too much into it, but thanks to David the Douche I'm now much more leery of charming people. Like, just because my gut says all systems go doesn't mean I should trust it, unfortunately.
BUT I'm just going to go with the flow and enjoy it. If I see any actual red flags that's one thing, but this is more just me being a bit gun shy.

[TioJorge]

Nice! Actual nice guys who are also nice to look at are the best them.  I really don't think it's bad at all to be super cautious, it's far better than the alternative. You pretty much said it perfectly though: Enjoy it but don't be blinded by the bliss.

[King Postwhore]

Stop over thinking this and enjoy Jackie. You'll get more of a sense over time. Think of it as a test drive.

[TioJorge]

A TEST DRIVE WHERE THE CAR TURNS SENTIENT AND TRIES TO RUN YOU OFF A CLIFF.

Sorry I'm about to watch a cheesy horror movie. Done.

[King Postwhore]

Or Robin Williams with a huge stach oggles you.

[cramx3]

Nice! Actual nice guys who are also nice to look at are the best them.  I really don't think it's bad at all to be super cautious, it's far better than the alternative. You pretty much said it perfectly though: Enjoy it but don't be blinded by the bliss.

This.  Nothing wrong about being safe to protect yourself and your feelings, but try not to let your past relationship get in the way from enjoying what you have in front of you.  Easier said than done I know.

[bout to crash]

A TEST DRIVE WHERE THE CAR TURNS SENTIENT AND TRIES TO RUN YOU OFF A CLIFF.

Sorry I'm about to watch a cheesy horror movie. Done.

Never stop

And yeah, I know, I'm trying to be cautious but not too cautious. I'm honestly too busy and exhausted to invest that much in somebody right now, especially a guy who lives 40 minutes away, so the chance of it getting crazy like with David is very slim anyway.

[Stadler]

A TEST DRIVE WHERE THE CAR TURNS SENTIENT AND TRIES TO RUN YOU OFF A CLIFF.

Sorry I'm about to watch a cheesy horror movie. Done.

Never stop

And yeah, I know, I'm trying to be cautious but not too cautious. I'm honestly too busy and exhausted to invest that much in somebody right now, especially a guy who lives 40 minutes away, so the chance of it getting crazy like with David is very slim anyway.

Take it from someone who spends an hour every week talking with a professional about his Olympic-worthy skill on over-analyzing...

Just let it happen.   You'll know the signs if they're there.  DO trust your gut.   I have a saying:  "Man plans, God laughs".    After my divorce, I said I wasn't going to ever remarry, and while I don't have the constitution to "fuck my way across Connecticut" literally, that was sort of the mindset.  Here I am two and a half years later, married, and as happy as a clam. 

I'm not suggesting that this is "The Guy", who the fuck knows, certainly not me.  But I can tell you that if you go in with the idea that he's NOT, he won't be.  If that makes sense.   Be kind to yourself, and trust your instincts, bruised though they may be (that actually works to your advantage). 

[bout to crash]

Yeah, I totally hear that. I guess the first step is recognizing you have a problem, right?

I know he's not the same guy or anything, but it just makes me nervous because things started out in a similar way and spiraled into utter insanity very quickly.  And my gut told me I SHOULD have David in my life, which is why I tend to doubt it at times. But yeah, right now my gut is saying good things and  it's just my brain over thinking it. I of course will give him a fair chance until I see bad signs, but hopefully there won't be any of those

[cramx3]

Wow, had my first Tinder success story this weekend. 

[Prog Snob]

I'm using this app called Happn which uses your location to tell you who is in proximity to where you are. Naturally you would need the GPS enabled on your phone for this to work, like Tinder.

[bout to crash]

Wow, had my first Tinder success story this weekend. 

Details plz

Guys, I have a hideous cold sore
Let's hope it clears up before my next date...

[Prog Snob]

Wow, had my first Tinder success story this weekend. 

Details plz

Guys, I have a hideous cold sore
Let's hope it clears up before my next date...

And people say Muslim women don't have an advantage.

[cramx3]

Wow, had my first Tinder success story this weekend. 

Details plz

Guys, I have a hideous cold sore
Let's hope it clears up before my next date...

And people say Muslim women don't have an advantage.

 

as for details, matched with this girl Friday.  Likely I had swiped right on her sometime back awhile ago one night when I was in NYC, since that is where she lives.  We chatted Friday and Saturday very friendly and I pretty much told her Sunday morning that since she lives in NYC and me in Jersey that this probably wouldn't work out and that I was leaving for Denver on Tuesday so I through out the idea that since I wasn't working Monday, today (Sunday) I could actually get into the city and meet up.  She actually agreed.  A couple hours later we were drinking german beers in the upper east side.  We hit things off really well and we had a blast.  I told her I needed to stop drinking so I could drive home and she said no lol I would be sleeping at her place so drink up, so we could plastered and went back to her place for the night.

The thing is, I think I really like this girl.  I kind of set it up to just be a one time thing, but after meeting her and being with her, I wish there could be more.  Maybe there will be, we talked a bunch yesterday as I told her that I really enjoyed our time together, but I don't want to get too worked up over this because the distance thing will still be an issue.