Lonely Hearts Club Thread v. The Strong Grip

[bout to crash]

What happened? Maybe no post by this hour is good news...

Things are finally feeling sorta normal again in conversation with this guy. I gave him a bit of half-joking attitude earlier when he pulled the whole "you should come over" thing but later in the evening we actually exchanged some good texts. We are supposed to hang Saturday night unto Sunday. 

Meanwhile I got a message on OKC from a very attractive dude asking "Want to commit blasphemy?"
I told him that was an average Tuesday night for me and asked him to define it.

[cramx3]

 

That's good you two are getting along then

So patience has paid off.  Definitely one of the best first dates I have had.  We just met at a local bar and had a few beers for about 3 hours.  Our conversation just flowed really well and we seemed to get along right off the bat.  She is a bit more outgoing than me so that was perfect.  Very attractive too, looked better than her pictures.  So it was starting to get late, we call it a night, as soon as she gets home I get a text saying she had a great time and we immediately scheduled a second date for Friday.  I couldn't sleep at all last night, I came home and was on such a high that I just laid in bed with a big smile on my face.

She seemed very genuine too, exactly like I thought and the reason why I kept trying even going against my own rules of dating.  Trusting my instincts was a good decision in this case.  Well until she cancels Friday 

[Prog Snob]

Excellent! I'm glad to hear it went so well. Lets see what happens Friday. Maybe those cancellations were cold feet.

Things are finally feeling sorta normal again in conversation with this guy. I gave him a bit of half-joking attitude earlier when he pulled the whole "you should come over" thing but later in the evening we actually exchanged some good texts. We are supposed to hang Saturday night unto Sunday. 

Are you still concerned about his actions as of late?

[bout to crash]

I mean, I'm still annoyed by his always trying to get me to go up there, but whatever. And I'll bring up what happened Friday in person if I think it's appropriate, but we shall see. He did come down here Friday so I have no problem going up there Saturday.

And yay cram, awesome news! Maybe she had some anxiety about it, hence the cancelling. Hope Friday happens.

[cramx3]

I mean, I'm still annoyed by his always trying to get me to go up there, but whatever. And I'll bring up what happened Friday in person if I think it's appropriate, but we shall see. He did come down here Friday so I have no problem going up there Saturday.

And yay cram, awesome news! Maybe she had some anxiety about it, hence the cancelling. Hope Friday happens.

That's great and the way it should be, I mean it's not always going to be equal, but to at least put the effort and try to do your part.

[Prog Snob]

I mean, I'm still annoyed by his always trying to get me to go up there, but whatever. And I'll bring up what happened Friday in person if I think it's appropriate, but we shall see. He did come down here Friday so I have no problem going up there Saturday.

Maybe that's something you can get him to ease up on and get him off his ass more often.

[cramx3]

So there was one other girl I've been chatting with and actually went on a date with back a few weeks ago.  It's funny because this girl, the brooklyn girl, and then the girl I finally met the other day all wanted to make plans with me on Friday.  I'm going to be pissed if I get ditched again, but I am feeling more confident this time.  The way she texts me now is completely different (pretty much always happens after I meet a girl) and actually is showing interest.  We set a time and place for dinner and drinks.  Well as for the girl I met a few week ago, a very pretty girl and really nice, I told her after she requested to meet up that I thought we didn't really click and that I was going to move on.  We hardly talk anyway, maybe a text or two a day, so I didn't even think she had that much interest even though I know she really enjoyed our meet up.  Well, I felt really bad after saying that because she actually put up a fight to keep it going.  Saying she would wait for me to find time and that she thought we had something going... I couldn't believe it.  I didn't feel that way at all. It made me feel really bad for her.  Very nice girl, just not for me, had nothing in common and considering I am way more interested in the other two girls, I figured it's best I just let this girl know how I feel.   

[bout to crash]

Yeah, definitely best. Weird that you barely talk but she thought you had something going on. Just goes to show the importance of communication!

I mean, I'm still annoyed by his always trying to get me to go up there, but whatever. And I'll bring up what happened Friday in person if I think it's appropriate, but we shall see. He did come down here Friday so I have no problem going up there Saturday.

Maybe that's something you can get him to ease up on and get him off his ass more often.

I actually lightheartedly told the guy it was annoying when he did that all the time, but we shall see if it changes. We didn't talk much yesterday but he was busy with plant stuff. Still have plans to hang Saturday night.

[Sub Luna Vitrea]

My romantic life is sooo amebic. I wonder what it would be like if it were constant. But I can't envision it being constant with any of my current partners.

[Prog Snob]

I was supposed to meet up with someone from OKCupid last night but she stood me up. So, I'm back down to zero hopefuls. It's unreal how quick you can get a handful of hopefuls, then you blink and they're all gone.

My romantic life is sooo amebic. I wonder what it would be like if it were constant. But I can't envision it being constant with any of my current partners.

Are you happy with the state of it though, Luna?

I actually lightheartedly told the guy it was annoying when he did that all the time, but we shall see if it changes. We didn't talk much yesterday but he was busy with plant stuff. Still have plans to hang Saturday night.

Give it a little more time if you think there's hope. Otherwise, cut him loose, but not before stealing some of those plants. 

[cramx3]

  yes, i'll take a plant too

Sucks Prog, but I'm sure you'll find someone fairly quick, seems like you are always talking to someone. 

[Sub Luna Vitrea]

I was supposed to meet up with someone from OKCupid last night but she stood me up. So, I'm back down to zero hopefuls. It's unreal how quick you can get a handful of hopefuls, then you blink and they're all gone.

Online is so full of flakes

My romantic life is sooo amebic. I wonder what it would be like if it were constant. But I can't envision it being constant with any of my current partners.

Are you happy with the state of it though, Luna?

No, but what I want out of my love life is not even physically or medically possible.

[Prog Snob]

I was supposed to meet up with someone from OKCupid last night but she stood me up. So, I'm back down to zero hopefuls. It's unreal how quick you can get a handful of hopefuls, then you blink and they're all gone.

Online is so full of flakes

My romantic life is sooo amebic. I wonder what it would be like if it were constant. But I can't envision it being constant with any of my current partners.

Are you happy with the state of it though, Luna?

No, but what I want out of my love life is not even physically or medically possible.

I've spoken to many flakes. It's discouraging. I'm the weirdo on these sites that likes Lovecraft and dragons and swing music. That's not something people flee to on Staten Island.

Well, what would you like out of your love life?

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I think most people are too busy fleeing from Staten Island to be that cool. Lame that you got stood up
A very cute dude messaged me on OKC and seems to be looking purely for (potentially kinky) sex. I am intrigued...

[TioJorge]

Okay so basically everyone be cognizant of if Jackie doesn't post for a while. 


Srsly though, be careful! <*has just read a few articles on scary, sick motherfuckers predating on social sites*
(Plus I'm pretty sure I still have yo numah so...well...actually I'm not sure how that'd help but there's that random info anyway! *carefully plans to call upon moment of penetration*)

[cramx3]

Of course be careful, I would imagine Jackie knows enough about meeting people online to be able to play it safe.  But also enjoy, have fun.  I wish I met a girl who just wanted to experiment and have kinky fun without holding each other to some sort of standard.  I mean that from someone who spent their prime years with a single woman who was as kinky as the grass on my front lawn and is currently dating a girl who doesn't kiss with tongue 

[TioJorge]

Definitely mostly jesting. Still doesn't hurt to say.

But yeah, it's nice to have dat nasty. But also don't take for granted what you have! It's always better than your hand. Well, y'know, for the most part. Nobody knows your naughty bits better than Mr. Handy.

I've still got my naughty lady and have fun from time to time. I mean, not like we're dating. All you dating mofos are fucking crazy. But it's nice to just sprawl out on my couch and blast some horribly degrading porn and develop some nice calluses. Y'know, in case you all needed some imagery to masturbate to tonight. YOU'RE WELCOME.

[Prog Snob]

I think most people are too busy fleeing from Staten Island to be that cool. Lame that you got stood up

The problem is that most of the cultured and intelligent females live elsewhere in the city and won't travel to Staten Island because it's an inconvenience that it's not connected to the subway lines.

A very cute dude messaged me on OKC and seems to be looking purely for (potentially kinky) sex. I am intrigued...

Well, that does sound intriguing.    Let us know what happens.

Of course be careful, I would imagine Jackie knows enough about meeting people online to be able to play it safe.  But also enjoy, have fun.  I wish I met a girl who just wanted to experiment and have kinky fun without holding each other to some sort of standard.  I mean that from someone who spent their prime years with a single woman who was as kinky as the grass on my front lawn and is currently dating a girl who doesn't kiss with tongue 

If you're looking for that, go on FetLife.   

[TioJorge]

Psh. It's all BOUT dat list from Craig.


"Horny 60 y.o. F looking to use my new turkey baster"

[cramx3]

Nah, I am not looking just for that, but would be nice to find an awesome girl who was interested in some fun in the bed.

[Stadler]

Psh. It's all BOUT dat list from Craig.


"Horny 60 y.o. F looking to use my new turkey baster"

DEFINITELY showing my age here, but always took the approach that, online, "if it sounded too good to be true, it probably was".  Having said that, with only a modicum of effort, match.com was chock full of 38-45 year old women looking to push boundaries, if you smell what the Stadler is cookin'. 

[Prog Snob]

Nah, I am not looking just for that, but would be nice to find an awesome girl who was interested in some fun in the bed.

I can usually judge that based on the answers to the questions on OKCupid. Or just pay attention to a woman's words and actions. I can usually tell by that if she's sexually curious or a girl scout.

[TioJorge]

It's still true to an extent, Stadler. I smell ya. But I think it's a lot less prominent when it comes to the majority given the way that unless you're a relatively skilled hacker (and let's be for realzies, those guys are not out on the prowl 99% of the time), you're traced very easily and everything is more out in the open. However, there have definitely been cases where there's some sketchy shit goin' on. I'm not worried in the least about Jackie's ability to differentiate or snuff out the weirdos though; just makin' a joke out of the kinkiness of the situation.

I do think erring on the side of caution is always a good idea whether you're male or female; obviously more so for the ladies. But I have heard on a few occasions women setting up men to be jacked or ganged up on upon the meet by either their boyfriend or friends; it actually happened to a friend of mine a couple years ago and he ended up in the hospital. Course those things are few and far between, I'm just sayin'. Everyone thinks it's not going to happen to them until it does!

Not to put a damper on anyone's meet up. Pretty sure everyone here is smarter than the VAST majority of the fools on dating sites that get into those situations. "Huh? You wanna meet by the dumpster behind Denny's at 3 AM? SURE SOUNDS FUN!"

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Yeah I did some stupid shit back in the day, but these days I know better. I will definitely make sure somebody knows where I am when I'm meeting up with him, if it gets to that point. Man, it would be nice to just have somebody who I had no attachment to who would just fuck the shit out of me while wearing a priest collar occasionally.
Did I write that out loud?

I'm meeting up with the metal/yoga guy tomorrow at a brewery, will see where that goes!

[Prog Snob]

Yeah I did some stupid shit back in the day, but these days I know better. I will definitely make sure somebody knows where I am when I'm meeting up with him, if it gets to that point. Man, it would be nice to just have somebody who I had no attachment to who would just fuck the shit out of me while wearing a priest collar occasionally.
Did I write that out loud?

So, it's nice to know I'm not alone with the religious garb fantasies. 

[TioJorge]

Yeah I did some stupid shit back in the day, but these days I know better. I will definitely make sure somebody knows where I am when I'm meeting up with him, if it gets to that point. Man, it would be nice to just have somebody who I had no attachment to who would just fuck the shit out of me while wearing a priest collar occasionally.
Did I write that out loud?

I'm meeting up with the metal/yoga guy tomorrow at a brewery, will see where that goes!

Ohhhh I lobe you Jackie. That is so power so energy. 

I mean you didn't write it out LOUD but you wrote it out.

It IS nice.

I'm tired of my friends giving me shit for having fuck buddies. I never got to do this when everyone else was doing it. Now I'm 26 and these nitwits are all having babies and pretending it was on purpose. Psh. Motherfucker I've known you since before your balls dropped. THAT RIGHT THERE IS AN ACCIDENT BABY. Still awesome and beautiful and blah fuckin' blah. STILL an accident. Literally all of my friends have a kid and they were all unplanned. All of them. One actually technically hasn't yet but he's married and actually is trying so he will soon (so all but one). Then they're all "Oh man Jorge you just don't get it bro, you don't get it". Uhhhh fuck you Frank, I get it. JUUUUST because I like randomly hooking up with a woman (who I know; not random women, randomly hooking up) and treating her like a dirty little slut (as a gentleman) and then promptly leaving (or politely having her leave) to go play Pokemon doesn't mean I don't 'get it'. Ya little married shit. I've raised babies to near adulthood. The fact they weren't mine is irrelevant. I get it more than you noob parents.

< Doesn't like to sleep in the same bed with someone. Doesn't like to share food/space/TV rights/music playing time/who gets the most sheets tonight/bathroom/etc. infinitely. Unless just having an existential crisis, doesn't like to cuddle unless it's leading to foreplay. Doesn't like pretending to give a shit about birthdays or valentine's day. Doesn't like to pretend to give a shit over menial drama fights like who put the toilet paper roll on the wrong way or who forgot to feed the dog.

Yes. I am single and I actually do love it. Don't hate me because I'm singleful. Rant done! See, now I'm worked up. So what do I do? I'm gonna call my ladyfriend, have her sit on my face and crotch for an hour and then I'm gonna say "So I'm gonna play some Dragon Quest" and she's gonna say "Thanks for the fun hun, see ya later!" and we'll both be happy. That's how it works, FRANK.

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 , you have the best rants! 

I agree with most of that. I had a couple good fuck buddy arrangements in the past but it's been a while. I feel like maybe I'm ready to start getting back into some of the kinky stuff after a long hiatus, but nobody I'm seeing is heavily into it.

John, it's definitely a thing for me as well, but I won't go into detail

[Prog Snob]

, you have the best rants! 

I agree with most of that. I had a couple good fuck buddy arrangements in the past but it's been a while. I feel like maybe I'm ready to start getting back into some of the kinky stuff after a long hiatus, but nobody I'm seeing is heavily into it.

John, it's definitely a thing for me as well, but I won't go into detail

 

Neither will I. Though I will say Cradle of Filth has a few good t-shirts with depraved nuns on them.   

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I love these details though 

[Stadler]

, you have the best rants! 

I agree with most of that. I had a couple good fuck buddy arrangements in the past but it's been a while. I feel like maybe I'm ready to start getting back into some of the kinky stuff after a long hiatus, but nobody I'm seeing is heavily into it.

John, it's definitely a thing for me as well, but I won't go into detail

 

Neither will I. Though I will say Cradle of Filth has a few good t-shirts with depraved nuns on them.   

Dressed as the Unknown Comic on Halloween one year in college.   After going through about five paper bags (they are hard to drink beer through) I bailed on the costume, and since I had a black shirt and black pants on, I finished the night as a "priest".  I don't remember exactly, but the odds are I did have sex that night with the girl I was seeing, but I don't remember it being a big deal. 

A couple years later, I was at a Halloween party where this really cute girl was dressed as a nun.  I didn't get lucky with her, but she was getting a LOT of attention.  Don't know if it was the costume or her, but she was a star that night. 

[bout to crash]

Dammit, can't find the pic I want but these will do...

[Prog Snob]

I've seen the top one before, not the bottom. It's still pretty fuckin sexy.

[cramx3]

Can't say I'm into the religious/nun look lol but the fantasy/role playing concept is definitely cool

[Prog Snob]

Can't say I'm into the religious/nun look lol but the fantasy/role playing concept is definitely cool

That's fine. More Sister Jackie for me.      

[sylvan]

This discussion is making me uncomfortable...




...down there 


More pics or it didn't happen!