Right?!
I mean, he has legitimate sleep issues so I get that, but I'm saying he can still come down to my place even if he doesn't sleep over. We don't have to sleep together every time we hang out, though it's nice to not worry about driving back home later at night.
So here's a new thing: I think he might be upset with me. Basically our text conversation yesterday evening went like this:
T: I just found out my auntie died. She was the family matriarch
J: Oh no! I'm sorry
... Was she sick?
T: She was 96
J: Well, enough said. That's pretty cool though- most people don't see that age
T: Ya.
(so three hours elapse and I'm starting to think "oh gawd, was I talking too casually about that?)
J: I hope that didn't come off as insensitive, it's just sort of the way I've grown to look at things in my line of work (hospice, for anybody who doesn't know that). Your family doing okay?
T: Nah, it's cool. At first I kinda thought it was until I remembered what you do. I'm hoping to go to her memorial in Florida, but we'll see if I can afford it
J: I hope you can. Do you know when it is? (+insert some talk about the possibility of getting bereavement fare though a lot of airlines don't do that anymore)
(two hours elapse with nothing)
J: Well, I hope you're doing okay
I've not heard from him since, in like 12+ hours. I'm hoping it's just him being sad about things, but I'm wondering if either he was expecting me to say/do something that I didn't, or he's upset about me (gawd forbid) being an optimist. Honestly, the fact that he brought up being able to afford the ticket makes me wonder if he was hoping I would offer to give him money or something. I'm trying not to assume anything, but it's weird to me that he would put it out there and then stop talking to me about it. At this point I don't know what else I can do, so I guess I just wait to see if I hear from him
edit: he eventually wrote back and seems to be okay, but isn't talking to me much. He may be at work so again trying not to read too much into it.