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Re: Lonely Hearts Club Thread v. The Strong Grip
« Reply #700 on: September 16, 2015, 11:15:43 AM »
I have a date Friday with the college student... going to a vegan restaurant for lunch and coffee :) Actually she may have graduated and hasn't updated her profile, I'm not sure.

There's a discussion point. Are you also vegan? Or is your diet remotely related to that idea? I think I could never seriously date a vegan or vegetarian. It's polar opposite of my diet, which consists of virtually no vegetables. But, I've gone on a few dates with a girl that has a self-admitted 7 year old's palate. Her favorite meal is hot dogs and mac & cheese, and she doesn't eat an extensive and surprising list of items. Knowing that my diet is what it is, I can't hold that against someone. But I think I'm objectively looking at how this would effect our relationship moving forward.

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« Reply #701 on: September 16, 2015, 11:34:28 AM »
I would say I'd struggle to date someone who's diet is opposite of mine vs. someone who's political views are opposite of mine.  One thing I missed about having a girlfriend was always going out to eat sit down dinners.  Now that I am single, I will take a date out but that's not nearly as consistent as when I was with my x and I've also met a few girls who did not enjoy eating out so I'm not crazy about that idea either.

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« Reply #702 on: September 16, 2015, 11:38:47 AM »
I like eating out, but I can't stand the cost. I'm getting cheap with my old age. Victoria and I went out last Friday. Pizza, an appetizer, and beers cost $70 before tip. Fucking craft beer bullshit. I hate it. I HATE IT!!

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« Reply #703 on: September 16, 2015, 11:40:39 AM »

I am aware that there are conservatives marginalized for any number of reasons: disability, race, poverty, sexuality, gender identity... to me this is doubly sad. It's sad because they are marginalized, and even more sad because they have bought into the very dynamic that others them, and very often pass that dynamic down to other marginalized people within their same demographic. They deserve compassion like everyone else. Everyone deserves compassion.

Of course they do.  But there you go again:  there is nothing about "conservative" that inherently marginalizes anyone.  My dad didn't "buy into" anything.  He wasn't "marginalized", because he didn't let himself be marginalized.   Certainly, there are assholes who do marginalize, and some of them are in the conservative ideology, but just as many are in the liberal ideology. 

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But who you date is another story. To me, the political is not a private matter; it is something that affects human beings. I was homeless earlier this year, and it was very difficult for me to find good services where I felt safe that would help me get back on my feet, because I am a trans woman and at the time, I did not pass very well. Private charity did not give a fuck about me. Public charity did not give a fuck about me. People who were straight and not trans had, and continue to have, a much easier time getting back on their feet. While homeless I worked in the Capitol, being paid less than minimum wage under the table by the people who run this country, but was not allowed to wait all night at Union Station before work, even if I bought food or a drink. I was sexually assaulted by a restaurant owner who pretended he was trying to help my situation, inviting me into his home under the pretense that he was going to give me a job and a place to stay. Fairly soon after I started getting things back together, I learned that the Republican Congress had just cut funding for helping homeless LGBT people. Funding that, as far as I could see, was already not nearly enough. This is something very personal to me; it's not Lincoln-Douglas Debate, it's people's lives.

Okay, and with my deepest (and sincere) respect for your circumstances, I can't respond to this without it truly devolving into a political debate, without even the slightest nod to dating.  Suffice to say, identifying the problem is three quarters of the battle of finding a solution, and if you misidentify the problem you'll likely fail to get a good solution.   The Republicans are not your problem. 

I hope you find someone that respects you as a person.  Everything else, in my limited experience, is gravy on the plate, and every person deserves at least that much.  Good luck to you.  Sincerely.   

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Re: Lonely Hearts Club Thread v. The Strong Grip
« Reply #704 on: September 16, 2015, 11:42:24 AM »
I like eating out, but I can't stand the cost. I'm getting cheap with my old age. Victoria and I went out last Friday. Pizza, an appetizer, and beers cost $70 before tip. Fucking craft beer bullshit. I hate it. I HATE IT!!

So true, one of the reasons also why I had less money when I was with my x than I do now.  It just really sucked that I went about 2 months without seeing someone so those two months I never went out for a nice meal one on one with a lady, something I very much enjoy.

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« Reply #705 on: September 16, 2015, 11:43:43 AM »
I like eating out, but I can't stand the cost. I'm getting cheap with my old age. Victoria and I went out last Friday. Pizza, an appetizer, and beers cost $70 before tip. Fucking craft beer bullshit. I hate it. I HATE IT!!

WORD!   We've taken to making the cooking be part of the 'date night'.  I know that sounds old and fuddy-duddy, but there really isn't an option.  We've got four kids between us (three that live with us) and to take five people out more than once a week is starting to sound like "vacation". 

Thankfully, I like to cook, and the kids like to actually sit and have dinner without TVs and tablets (though we can't quite shake the cellphones) so it works. 

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« Reply #706 on: September 16, 2015, 11:46:43 AM »
Cooking dates can be really romantic and awesome too.  I had a few of those this year and everyone ended up in my bed.  I can't really speak about the family and children aspects though, so I can only imagine how much more money and less romantic that would be.

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« Reply #707 on: September 16, 2015, 11:53:52 AM »
my old age. Victoria and I went out last Friday.

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Re: Lonely Hearts Club Thread v. The Strong Grip
« Reply #708 on: September 16, 2015, 11:54:40 AM »
Victoria and I usually cook dinner together 2-4 nights a week depending on our schedule. I'd so much rather do that.

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« Reply #709 on: September 16, 2015, 11:55:57 AM »
I have a date Friday with the college student... going to a vegan restaurant for lunch and coffee :) Actually she may have graduated and hasn't updated her profile, I'm not sure.

There's a discussion point. Are you also vegan?

Yes, and I refuse to date people who eat meat for very similar reasons to what I have already discussed at length. If they are a vegetarian then I will go on a date with them, but they would need to become a vegan if they want a relationship.

Actually, ths is a great way of illustrating my point: meat eaters may not hate animals. They may love animals; they may have pets, they may be part of animal protection groups and their whole life could be devoted to helping animals. In fact, every meat eater even is an animal (except the Venus Flytrap and certain bacteria)! But the practical result of what they do is that they exploit and hurt other animals. This is why I can't date them, regardless of where their heart may be.

This is a very common attitude among vegetarians and vegans, by the way, so I wouldn't worry too much about having to decide whether or not to date one.

Okay, and with my deepest (and sincere) respect for your circumstances, I can't respond to this without it truly devolving into a political debate, without even the slightest nod to dating.  Suffice to say, identifying the problem is three quarters of the battle of finding a solution, and if you misidentify the problem you'll likely fail to get a good solution.   The Republicans are not your problem.

I agree, the Republicans are not my whole problem. They are part of my problem. So are the Democrats. So are the Libertarians. So are the Independents. So are the Greens and the Democratic Socialists, for that matter, and so are the Marxist-Leninists and the Trotskyites, but at least their hearts are in the right place.

I believe that anyone who thinks change is possible within the current system is my problem. This is why I could not date a Democrat, either. As I said very early on in this conversation, I consider the Democrats to be centrists, which is just as bad as being a conservative.

With that said, I believe that you are sincere.
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« Reply #710 on: September 16, 2015, 02:11:01 PM »
You're going to run out of date options soon with you having so many check marks on why you cannot date this person or that person.
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« Reply #711 on: September 16, 2015, 02:14:27 PM »
You're going to run out of date options soon with you having so many check marks on why you cannot date this person or that person.

My screening process is currently

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« Reply #712 on: September 16, 2015, 02:15:43 PM »
You're going to run out of date options soon with you having so many check marks on why you cannot date this person or that person.

My screening process is currently

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You putting so many restrictions on the dating pool like Sub Luna is?
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« Reply #713 on: September 16, 2015, 02:25:44 PM »
You're going to run out of date options soon with you having so many check marks on why you cannot date this person or that person.

My screening process is currently

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You putting so many restrictions on the dating pool like Sub Luna is?

Fine, no restrictions!

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« Reply #714 on: September 16, 2015, 02:28:00 PM »
 :lol

If it floats your boat!

Never close yourself off because of such minor things like politics.  Get to know someone first.  Why people let their preconceptions rule their world is not the way to live.
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Re: Lonely Hearts Club Thread v. The Strong Grip
« Reply #715 on: September 16, 2015, 03:43:02 PM »
You're going to run out of date options soon with you having so many check marks on why you cannot date this person or that person.

My screening process is currently

Alive? [Yes/No]

And I'm debating whether I should reduce it a bit

Awful narrow; you should have an open mind.   I know a girl if you want her number...
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« Reply #716 on: September 16, 2015, 03:58:11 PM »
:lol

If it floats your boat!

Never close yourself off because of such minor things like politics.  Get to know someone first.  Why people let their preconceptions rule their world is not the way to live.

To each their own, but politics is not an issue for me in a relationship.  I actually gravitate towards people who don't necessarily follow my way of thinking. (I was thisclose to dating someone who is a bigwig in state Democratic politics, except I opted to see what happened with the girl I had just met, who turned out to be my wife).   One, that's a great way of disappearing up your own asshole, and two, we're supposed to be a team, so she fills in where I'm maybe lacking and vice versa, and that includes politics.  I suppose there is probably something that might be lumped into "politics" that might be an issue, but even for the big things:  I'm not an evangelist.  I would never opt for an abortion myself, but I am pro-choice.   That's likely never going to be MY decision, it's hers, and if I'm a man of integrity, I have to live with her choice.   Granted, if she just wanted to sit on the couch and live off welfare, I'd have issue, but it wouldn't be a political one, it would be a lifestyle one. 

I believe in the individual; as long as the person is true to themselves, and doing what they're doing for the right reasons, I'm usually good. 

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« Reply #717 on: September 16, 2015, 06:01:53 PM »
Amen.  I wanted a girl who was strong, independent  and her own thinker.  So if her politics is different,  no big deal. 

Almost 21 years later, we are still together.
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« Reply #718 on: September 17, 2015, 12:15:01 AM »
:clap:

I will not limit my dating options to certain political views (and have dated some fairly conservative dudes) but there are certain views that are deal breakers for a "serious" relationship. Like, bigoted ones. We can still fuck though. Same goes for religion- I'm not going to turn somebody down because s/he feels differently than I do, but there's also no way in hell I'm going to have a long-term relationship with a born again Christian who's going to try and "save" me.

As for differences in diet, not a problem. I'm not much of a meat eater but I've dated people who are really into it. No big deal. Vegan? Fine (although I think anybody who chooses not to eat cheese is insane), as long as you're not a pompous ass about it. Anybody trying to impose their own beliefs/way of life onto me is not a match.

Speaking of food:

Cooking dates can be really romantic and awesome too.  I had a few of those this year and everyone ended up in my bed.

How... many of you were there?

Anyway, I just got back from my date a little bit ago and it went well. We... messed around. And then I made him listen to a bunch of Steven Wilson while naked :lol
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« Reply #719 on: September 17, 2015, 06:39:32 AM »
Pictures or it didn't happen Jackie. :lol
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« Reply #720 on: September 17, 2015, 06:43:34 AM »
You're going to run out of date options soon with you having so many check marks on why you cannot date this person or that person.

It hasn't been a problem yet; I have more date options than I have ever had in my life. That's why I'm being so selective. If I had a very small number of prospects, I could not afford to be as selective as I am being now... but right now I honestly just have to whittle down the list. It's very hard to filter the people who message me on dating sites, approach me in public, etc.

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« Reply #721 on: September 17, 2015, 06:51:29 AM »
Well that I get but don't limit yourself.  You might want a strong opinionated partner.  That's all!

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« Reply #722 on: September 17, 2015, 07:14:35 AM »
Alright thanks :)

I'm honestly sick of talking about this. I'm really nervous about this date tomorrow... she seems like such a genuinely normal, nice and proper person.

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« Reply #723 on: September 17, 2015, 08:00:31 AM »
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I will not limit my dating options to certain political views (and have dated some fairly conservative dudes) but there are certain views that are deal breakers for a "serious" relationship. Like, bigoted ones. We can still fuck though. Same goes for religion- I'm not going to turn somebody down because s/he feels differently than I do, but there's also no way in hell I'm going to have a long-term relationship with a born again Christian who's going to try and "save" me.

As for differences in diet, not a problem. I'm not much of a meat eater but I've dated people who are really into it. No big deal. Vegan? Fine (although I think anybody who chooses not to eat cheese is insane), as long as you're not a pompous ass about it. Anybody trying to impose their own beliefs/way of life onto me is not a match.

But isn't your last sentence really the important one?   I can date any religion or political bent, but even if it was just the toilet seat position, once my partner starts to disrespect what got us together in the first place, and starts to decide that she knows better what's for me, we're going to have a problem.    I'm not talking about lame-o "disrespect" you hear on TV all the time, I'm talking about real, honest respect, the kind that is earned, not given, and the kind that if real helps smooth over difficult times.   I'm interested in my partner's views, and my partner is an equal one, but I'm not in a relationship to be converted to ANYTHING, be it Christianity, vegan-ism, or group sex.   Okay, maybe group sex.   Probably group sex.   But besides that. 


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Anyway, I just got back from my date a little bit ago and it went well. We... messed around. And then I made him listen to a bunch of Steven Wilson while naked :lol

I'm having trouble forming the visual on that, and frankly, I'm kind of grateful.   :) 

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« Reply #724 on: September 17, 2015, 08:05:01 AM »
Alright thanks :)

I'm honestly sick of talking about this. I'm really nervous about this date tomorrow... she seems like such a genuinely normal, nice and proper person.

Then just be the same.   Enjoy the moment, and it'll work out if it's meant to work out.   Good luck!!!

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« Reply #725 on: September 17, 2015, 08:08:20 AM »
Cooking dates can be really romantic and awesome too.  I had a few of those this year and everyone ended up in my bed.

How... many of you were there?

Only two, never had a threesome or anything.  The "everyone" meant every one of those types of dates.

Never close yourself off because of such minor things like politics.  Get to know someone first.  Why people let their preconceptions rule their world is not the way to live.

I pretty much agree with this and one of the reasons why I dislike people who's online profiles list all the things they do not want "Dont message me if you...." I get people don't like certain things, but you are really narrowing the pool of potential partners down and may be missing out on great people that you could probably really enjoy being with even with a flaw or something you dont like.  No one is perfect so everyone is going to have something negative against them anyway.

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« Reply #726 on: September 17, 2015, 09:26:07 AM »
Alright thanks :)

I'm honestly sick of talking about this. I'm really nervous about this date tomorrow... she seems like such a genuinely normal, nice and proper person.

Then just be the same.   Enjoy the moment, and it'll work out if it's meant to work out.   Good luck!!!

I'm a lot more normal than I used to think I was, I can be nice and will work on proper. I'm not sure when though. Thanks!

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« Reply #727 on: September 17, 2015, 09:38:00 AM »
We... messed around. And then I made him listen to a bunch of Steven Wilson while naked :lol

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« Reply #728 on: September 17, 2015, 11:53:43 PM »
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Come join us on the green side.

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I will not limit my dating options to certain political views (and have dated some fairly conservative dudes) but there are certain views that are deal breakers for a "serious" relationship. Like, bigoted ones. We can still fuck though. Same goes for religion- I'm not going to turn somebody down because s/he feels differently than I do, but there's also no way in hell I'm going to have a long-term relationship with a born again Christian who's going to try and "save" me.

As for differences in diet, not a problem. I'm not much of a meat eater but I've dated people who are really into it. No big deal. Vegan? Fine (although I think anybody who chooses not to eat cheese is insane), as long as you're not a pompous ass about it. Anybody trying to impose their own beliefs/way of life onto me is not a match.

But isn't your last sentence really the important one?   I can date any religion or political bent, but even if it was just the toilet seat position, once my partner starts to disrespect what got us together in the first place, and starts to decide that she knows better what's for me, we're going to have a problem.    I'm not talking about lame-o "disrespect" you hear on TV all the time, I'm talking about real, honest respect, the kind that is earned, not given, and the kind that if real helps smooth over difficult times.   I'm interested in my partner's views, and my partner is an equal one, but I'm not in a relationship to be converted to ANYTHING, be it Christianity, vegan-ism, or group sex.   Okay, maybe group sex.   Probably group sex.   But besides that. 



 :lol

True that. I was initially nervous about dating a Christian in college and we did argue a bit, but that was even sort of fun. As long as he didn't try to convert me I was okay with it. When things got serious I did start to wonder "Hmm, if we were to settle down, would this be a barrier?" but it never got to that point because I realized at some point I was not into settling down at this juncture.

Anyway, I just got back from my date a little bit ago and it went well. We... messed around. And then I made him listen to a bunch of Steven Wilson while naked :lol

I'm having trouble forming the visual on that, and frankly, I'm kind of grateful.   :)

It was awesome.


Only two, never had a threesome or anything.  The "everyone" meant every one of those types of dates.


I sort of realized that's what you probably meant as I was typing that reply, but I figured it would still be funny  :P

So this guy is sometimes bad about getting back to me via text. Not the end of the world, but it would be nice to know he at least got the message. We sent "thank you for a good time" texts to each other this morning and then I tried to start the conversation about when to meet up next (we're both super busy and if I don't plan shit my week will fill up) but he never replied. *shrug*... it will happen eventually.
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Re: Lonely Hearts Club Thread v. The Strong Grip
« Reply #729 on: September 18, 2015, 06:57:01 AM »
Well you already know he is bad at responding so I guess just give him time.

I wont lie, I am so damn impatient.  I start to get annoyed when I don't get a response, specifically when it's something more important.  Although if you get to know someone and know they don't respond timely then you can kind of accept it.

I wouldn't say I have a dilemna, but I am kind of nervous.  The girl I've been seeing is coming to my BBQ on Saturday.  I invited her because she knew I was having it and I didn't want to make her feel unwanted since I actually do like her and I know she would have fun, but I did not want to have to deal with introducing her specifically to my family, but also to all my friends at once.  My parents even told me previously that if a girl I was seeing was going to be there that they would want to know (my parents are very nosy).  Essentially I just don't really want to deal with any awkwardness that may occur although everything could be completely fine and more than likely will be.  I just don't want to ruin things I guess and I feel like this is an opportunity for that to happen even if that's not my intentions at all.  I think I am just going to have to consume more alcohol.

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Re: Lonely Hearts Club Thread v. The Strong Grip
« Reply #730 on: September 18, 2015, 07:03:11 AM »
I just don't want to ruin things I guess and I feel like this is an opportunity for that to happen even if that's not my intentions at all.  I think I am just going to have to consume more alcohol.

Wow, if that isn't a self-fulfilling prophecy, I couldn't name one.  :)

It'll be awkward if you make it awkward.   Quick introduction, "Mom, Pop, this is Jane" and be done with it.  When in any doubt, say "Ooops, have to check on the grill; don't want to burn the chicken!"   Does she expect to be treated like the girlfriend at this shindig, or is she coming as a new friend with potential?

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Re: Lonely Hearts Club Thread v. The Strong Grip
« Reply #731 on: September 18, 2015, 07:46:01 AM »
I just don't want to ruin things I guess and I feel like this is an opportunity for that to happen even if that's not my intentions at all.  I think I am just going to have to consume more alcohol.

Wow, if that isn't a self-fulfilling prophecy, I couldn't name one.  :)

It'll be awkward if you make it awkward.   Quick introduction, "Mom, Pop, this is Jane" and be done with it.  When in any doubt, say "Ooops, have to check on the grill; don't want to burn the chicken!"   Does she expect to be treated like the girlfriend at this shindig, or is she coming as a new friend with potential?

Yea, totally a self fulfilling prophecy and I need to not make that happen.  I think you just don't understand my mother... it's never so easy as basic introductions.  My mother will ask very detailed and personal questions.  That's just the way she is, which is why I never introduce a female to her until we are in a more comfortable position.  I guess with more people, over 20 have said they are coming, it makes it easier to just blend in and not get stuck talking to my mother.  But none of my friends know her either, she is going to stand out essentially and I definitely have to be running the grill as well as mingle with everyone as the host so I can;t be by her side or anything, she is definitely outgoing so I think she will be fine in that regards... I would just cringe if I was grilling and then saw her speaking to my mom.  The fact that I do not know if she wants to be a girlfriend or not and that we have not had a conversation about "us" makes me wonder if that will play a factor.  I think not though, I already plan on introducing her as my friend, not anything more to avoid my moms questions, but I think she would agree about that anyway. 

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Re: Lonely Hearts Club Thread v. The Strong Grip
« Reply #732 on: September 18, 2015, 08:36:48 AM »
I am not sure when the last time I went on a proper date was. I think it must have been 2013. I sort of had a date in July of this year, but considering we had already planned to spend the weekend together right after the date, it was more like a "Let's make sure we feel safe before having furious sex all weekend" type thing.

The last time I was on a date with a woman was even longer ago. Actually, I do not know if I have ever been on a proper date with a woman. I'm really not the dating or relationship type of person, and not sure why I'm even trying to do this. Most of the times I have had sex, I had just met the guy at a bar, and sometimes we didn't even leave the bar to have sex. Sorry if that's too much information... just saying, I'm clueless about what to do.

And I know this is going to sound like a really cliché joke, but who's supposed to pay? I honestly don't even know.

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Re: Lonely Hearts Club Thread v. The Strong Grip
« Reply #733 on: September 18, 2015, 09:01:25 AM »
Just try to be yourself and have fun, go with the flow.  I think you should offer to pay and split the bill.  I personally like to pay for the woman, but really appreciate when the woman offers to pay.

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Re: Lonely Hearts Club Thread v. The Strong Grip
« Reply #734 on: September 18, 2015, 09:28:36 AM »
I am not sure when the last time I went on a proper date was. I think it must have been 2013. I sort of had a date in July of this year, but considering we had already planned to spend the weekend together right after the date, it was more like a "Let's make sure we feel safe before having furious sex all weekend" type thing.

The last time I was on a date with a woman was even longer ago. Actually, I do not know if I have ever been on a proper date with a woman. I'm really not the dating or relationship type of person, and not sure why I'm even trying to do this. Most of the times I have had sex, I had just met the guy at a bar, and sometimes we didn't even leave the bar to have sex. Sorry if that's too much information... just saying, I'm clueless about what to do.

And I know this is going to sound like a really cliché joke, but who's supposed to pay? I honestly don't even know.

My girlfriend (our two year anniversary is next week) paid on our first date. She excused herself to go to the bathroom and she slipped our waitress her credit card on the way. I didn't expect that. I was happy and gladly excepted as our we had already scheduled date #2 for the following night at a much more expensive place  :lol