Had one of my potential prospects go down in flames last night, and I'm having trouble deciding if I was the asshole or not (probably was).
I connected pretty good with one girl. Been talking to her for ten days or so, been on two dates, macked it pretty hard, etc.. At one point on one of the dates, we got on the conversation of her dad's boat, a 28 footer he keeps down at a marina. She pulled out her phone to show me a picture on her Instagram and I committed her username to memory.
This allowed me to find her on all of the social media platforms with ease, none of which were locked down in any capacity in the privacy setting department. Now, I don't like to judge, but I am a firm believer in the idea that there are recognizable, repeating, and predictable behavioral trends throughout society based on how one uses social media.
Keep in mind, this girl is 29 and still living at home. Starting with her Instagram account, she was following 2200+ people/pages and was being followed by 900+. She had over 3000 uploads. Whether right or wrong, that is a huge red flag to me. This indicates that at the very least, she's a social media addict/whore, and any girl I've known (outside of business owners) that has had those kind of metrics has been batshit crazy and not the sharpest tool in the drawer.
Now, getting to her Facebook page. Most of you know where I stand politically. I knew from the beginning that this girl was a "country girl" despite living in North Haven CT her entire life. Once I tracked her down on Facebook, her wall was filled with the types of posts that make me roll my eyes and unfollow/unfriend people. One post being a picture of our former governor's face in cross hairs with a caption (written by her, not on the photo itself like a meme) saying "give me tolls and I'll give you something". Another post was a picture of footballs players kneeling with some "I wouldn't just fire you, I'd tar you in the streets and then hang you". Then there was the hundred of photo uploads of "pray for _______", blue lives matters, and the "I' stand" bullshit.
I was pretty upfront with her. I explained that I saw some posts she made on Facebook and I was worried she wouldn't like where I stood on a lot of issues. I went on to basically say "This is where I stand on a lot of hot button issues" and proceeded to list them all. She replied with a "I'm not really into politics (despite her FB page being flooded with the contrary), and we def don't see eye to eye on some of those things. They aren't deal breakers for me, and as long as we agree to never discuss politics, I don't have a problem with it. I guess this is on you". I went on to explain that at this stage of my life, my mind is on financial stability and starting a family. While where we both stand on issues isn't necessarily a deal breaker for me persae, I fear that disagreements on what politics revolves around could make raising children problematic. I told her my last relationship blew apart because there were fundamental conflicting views on life that we brushed under the rug in the beginning stages, and they didn't stay there. I said something like "Because we didn't address those thoughts and feelings early on, I feel like I ended up wasting almost 7 years of my life. I can't afford to do that again".
She got pissed. Gave me a "Wow. I don't know how to reply to that. Just wow. Nite".
Also, and maybe this is me just being petty here, but I took her out twice to the tune of about $160. Some of you know where I'm at right now, having to work two jobs to keep the house while trying to pay down the hydroponic endeavor debt I put myself in. She didn't say thank you either night. Maybe I'm over thinking it, but those are basic manners.
I honestly have no interest in pursuing this further, but I also don't like being a dick.
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