So the latest on my sad saga...
She came over Sunday evening, I grilled us dinner, we chatted while chilling outside since it was nice for awhile, then watched tv for a few hours, had some sex and called it a night. Pretty much like most of our nights together and we didn't really talk much about us, just kind of reconnected. It was really nice, probably too nice actually.
The next day I just felt so empty though. Like I was teased of what we should have been but she had insisted before the evening we would not be getting back together. I was really struggling emotionally Monday. I just had to start talking to her about it, I asked how she felt about the evening and then lead into saying that my head is spun around too much right now that I am struggling finding happiness in this "limbo" as I am referring to where we were now that she wanted to "reconnect". After telling her all that, I said I want to be together and working on rebuilding the relationship, not just be fuck buddies or whatever the hell this is. She said the conversation was too much for her and ended it, didn't say I love you or anything either. So I stopped and didn't reach out to her until she did yesterday afternoon saying she wanted to come over in the evening to talk about what we had talked about the day before but in person. Makes sense.
I told her how I felt. For one, I feel a bit used. Two, I feel like if she can't commit to a relationship then I can't commit to "limbo". Mentally it's not healthy for me, I really struggled the past couple days just trying to be normal and my emotions are getting the best of me, in every aspect of my life right now. It's not good. I was feeling better before she reached out, I was starting to overcome the sadness, and now I'm thrown into some situation that I can't handle. I need it to end, with or without her. So she left and that's that.
Honestly, today has been a better day for me. I feel kind of relieved in a way. I definitely still want it to work, but I can't accept some situation where I feel like I am 100% in and she is not, especially when I am willing to work on the things I have been bad at, but I can't work on those things without a foundation. But I think at the end of the day, she doesn't want this and is struggling wtih ending it herself. Which is part of the reason why I feel used, she's just using me to make the break up easier it seems. Well, it sucks, and it sucks hard, but I feel a lot better today knowing I did what I needed to do to move on here.
Having said that, I wouldn't be surprised if she reached out next week saying she wants to be together and I'm not sure what to do if she does, but I need to go back to living my life like she is not in it anymore because that's what's best for me.