I like dudes with nice beards but I'm not going to stop and stare because I don't experience any environment as a sexual playground, and that dude's beard/long hair/nice ass in tight jeans is for him, not for me.
/respectively discontinues posting in the thread after offering a different perspective, since everything past this would be beating a dead horse
Sorry to see you go, but the above actually confirms one of the many differences between men and women.
Good and respectful men will not act on what they see in these situations. But they are biologically prone to
RE-act (mentally, emotionally...sometimes physically) to what they see -- and it honestly doesn't take much.
Women for the most part do not react that way -- that's not how
they are built.
It's not something that's right or wrong, really -- just different. And something that women should be aware of if they care about the impression they make. For the most part, older women do know this already.
I will say that it's rarely helpful to regard the opposite sex's reactions to things and say, "well, that's not what I would do/say, etc.". It's rather like how in the Lonely Heart's thread, there is a feeling that female reactions are more encouraging (or less) than they really are simply because that's what they guy means when THEY do it.
The wise person will consider that their particular perspective on the opposite sex may need fine-tuning. Of course, that is a LIFE-LONG task...but could be worth it.