I thought DTF could do with an advice thread. We already have the Lonely Hearts Club and the Depressed/Angry thread, but lots of advice needed doesn't fit into these two categories.
For myself, I have a few things that I'd like to get an opinion on. If you follow the LHC or D/A threads, you might remember that recently my girlfriend of 3 and a half years told me she cheated on me and no longer thinks she has the same feelings for me anymore, so we kind of mutually agreed to break up. I am trying to move on, it's been a lot better than I thought it would be, but there's still some obstacles for me. For one, I am a very shy person, and I do have some pretty bad social anxiety issues, and do not meet people or make friends very often/easily, but I know that I am a really nice guy and whenever I do meet new people they usually tend to like me. So what I'm asking is ways to get past this? I want to move on from my ex (we are trying to remain friends because we both want to, she's still my best friend and the only one I can talk to about things), but it's hard when I'm almost unable to meet people. Is this something that maybe going to talk to a counsellor or something can help, what are my options?
My next thing is something I really want to change. I have developed motivation/ambition issues, especially towards my school-work or like going out and meeting new people (so these things are kind of related) among other things. It's really frustrating to want to do well in school and try hard, and then when it comes down to actually doing the work I just procrastinate for days. How have some of you guys handled this? I want to be a better person, and I want to make myself happier, and feeling like I'm accomplishing something would go a long ways!
And everyone, feel free to post your own concerns and troubles. It helps to talk it out with people!