How do you go on holidays with friends?

[AndyDT]

Do you go away with friends? If so how do you go about it - do yuo organise or ask or be invited? Is it appropriate to ask if you know some people are going away and you would like to join them? In my view it isn't appropriate unless asked but I'm willing to question that.

[Tripp]

Last time I planned a major trip with friends, I ended up calling one of them a jew and he bitched and didn't talk to me for a year

[SeRoX]

I think it's all about sincerity. Though I've not asked up to the present but if I would I've considered how we are close or not. And I'm mostly organize type. So I do plans and invite my friends.

[alirocker08]

My friends are trying to convince me to go to one of the clubby island type places for some cheap Pre-University partying and debauchery.

They can't understand why I'd rather spend a week in Whitby instead :')

[hefdaddy42]

Do you go away with friends? If so how do you go about it - do yuo organise or ask or be invited? Is it appropriate to ask if you know some people are going away and you would like to join them? In my view it isn't appropriate unless asked but I'm willing to question that.

The way things like this happen is someone has an idea for a trip and they ask other people they know if they are interested.  If you want to do something like this but no one is asking you, then come up with your own idea and ask friends that you think may be interested.

[MetalJunkie]

I called my best friend one morning while he was on his way to work.

Me: "We're going to Branson."
Him: "Okay. When?"
Me: "Fucking NOW."

[ReaperKK]

Usually I get invited but most of my friends prefer me to organize since I'm pretty good at it.

However if I'm traveling I really like to travel alone, when traveling I usually play babysitter to all my friends.

[AcidLameLTE]

If you really want to go away with friends, just suggest the idea to them.

[rogerdil]

Like others have said, if you want to go somewhere you should ask others to join.  If friends have already planned a trip and haven't asked you, I wouldn't ask to join.  And I wouldn't ask any of them to join any future trips on which I take the initiative.

[lordxizor]

If some people already have a trip planned, it's probably not cool to ask if you can tag along. If it's in the early stages, like "hey guys, wouldn't it be cool if we took a road trip this summer?" but there's nothing concrete, then it's fine to ask. If you're interested in trying to plan a trip, just throw out a generic idea to your friends and see if they're interested.

[Nekov]

5 out of my last 6 holidays were with friends. I normally start asking everyone if they have plans ahead of time and start from there. I don't think it would be wrong for you to ask if you can join anyone, I mean, they are your friends aren't you?

[kirksnosehair]

Do you go away with friends?

Rarely

If so how do you go about it - do yuo organise or ask or be invited?

I would never ask any of my friends to invite me along on one of their vacations and I expect the same common respect and courtesy from my friends.

Is it appropriate to ask if you know some people are going away and you would like to join them? In my view it isn't appropriate unless asked but I'm willing to question that.

No, I think it's rude to invite yourself along or put your friends in a position where they feel obligated to say "yes" even though they don't want to.

[lonestar]

I have a solid group of friends who camp a lot, the invites are open ended, so pretty much anyone can come. This, and the mountains, always make for a free and fun time. I don't vacation much otherwise.

[Dr. DTVT]

If so how do you go about it - do yuo organise or ask or be invited?

I would never ask any of my friends to invite me along on one of their vacations and I expect the same common respect and courtesy from my friends.

Is it appropriate to ask if you know some people are going away and you would like to join them? In my view it isn't appropriate unless asked but I'm willing to question that.

No, I think it's rude to invite yourself along or put your friends in a position where they feel obligated to say "yes" even though they don't want to.

All of this.  I just assumed most people knew this.  If they want you to come, they'll invite.  The one surefire way to get invited though is to organize the trip yourself.

[theseoafs]

Yeah, asking somebody if you could tag along for a trip that other people are planning for themselves seems odd to me. If you want to do this with friends, plan it yourself.

[Odysseus]

Yup.  If they want you along they'll ask you.

[senecadawg2]

This is a really silly question

[El Barto]

I asked to tag along with some friends a while back.  There are a couple of things I'd recommend.  Maybe ask to join up for only a portion of their trip.  If they're gone for a week, see about joining up for a weekend.  The other thing is to make as much of your own arrangements as possible.   The goal is to minimize the intrusion on them. 

[glaurung]

If you really want to go away with friends, just suggest the idea to them.

Jokingly? It would never work!

[senecadawg2]

I'd like to start a petition to get AndyDT on the list for the "Ask..." Thread. He has spent enough time asking us questions! It is time to give us a turn and see if he is as good an answerer as he is an asker.

[AcidLameLTE]

If you really want to go away with friends, just suggest the idea to them.

Jokingly? It would never work!

[rumborak]

To my knowledge, the *only* way of inviting yourself to a trip is:

Person X: "Yeah, we're thinking about going to XYZ"
You: "Oh really? Cool, I've heard great things about it."
Person X: "Oh, you want to come along?"

However, them even breaching the subject means they were not all opposed to you joining. If they don't mention it in front of you, you're not invited or desired on the trip.

rumborak

[Super Dude]

I'd like to start a petition to get AndyDT on the list for the "Ask..." Thread. He has spent enough time asking us questions! It is time to give us a turn and see if he is as good an answerer as he is an asker.

I support this suggestion.

[lateralus88]

Last time I planned a major trip with friends, I ended up calling one of them a jew and he bitched and didn't talk to me for a year

Yeah sorry about that.

[Super Dude]

Wow, didn't catch that one first time around.