I find that handing out a well-worded disclosure, clearly spelling out your intentions (with caveats approved by my lawyer) at first contact with the opposite sex, is the best way to make sure you dont lead anyone on. I made mine pocket-size and laminated them...with 2 categories of intentions. 1) You are homley so I just want to be friends, and 2) You are good looking and I want to hump you. It is good to see that your church is on the ball, making sure that behavoir doesnt get out of hand, and intentions are clear from the get-go.