Church weddings

[AndyDT]

I've never been to a church wedding as an adult until now. What am I supposed to do when I get there and afterwards? Any things to avoid or etiquette to observe?

[lordxizor]

Just dress nice, show up on time, don't do anything to distract from the ceremony or reception and you should be fine.

Why is this in P/R?

[eric42434224]

Judging from all your posts here, I am not sure you will be able to do it......

You should relax and have fun.

[BlobVanDam]

Why is this in P/R?

Because of the username.


I went to a wedding a couple of years ago, and it was just a typical formal social occasion. Just dress well and act normal, and there's really nothing specific to worry about. wtf.

[El Barto]

Sign the registry.  Mingle outside a bit, if that interests you.  Once you go inside the ushers will seat you on one side or the other, depending on whether or not the bride or groom is who you're there for. 

Afterward, there might be an opportunity where people line up to congratulate the newly deceased.  Congratulations to the groom, best wishes for the bride. 

Following that should be a reception.  Typical formal party.  Drink at the bar.  Snack on some hors d'oeuvres.  Sneak out whenever you wish. 

[Chino]

Load up on Jager before the ceremony begins and completely exploit the open bar later on.

[rumborak]

Give the wedding band 50 bucks to play "Mrs. Robinson" closely before the vow.

rumborak

[eric42434224]

When the priest asks if anyone "objects to them being married or forever hold their peace", you must jump up and yell loudly, "I object on the basis that their union is done for their own ego, and not as a way to get closer to god!"

Please make sure someone is videotaping this, then post it here.

Being naked in front of all the non-spouses would get bonus points as well.

Thx.

[Chino]

 

/end thread

[hefdaddy42]

I've never been to a church wedding as an adult until now. What am I supposed to do when I get there and afterwards? Any things to avoid or etiquette to observe?

Oh come on.

[BlobVanDam]

I've never been to a church wedding as an adult until now. What am I supposed to do when I get there and afterwards? Any things to avoid or etiquette to observe?

Oh come on.

HEY HEY, take that kind of talk to P/R. This is out of control!

[Sir GuitarCozmo]

*Brilliance*

This is awesome on so many levels.

[AndyDT]

Sign the registry.  Mingle outside a bit, if that interests you.  Once you go inside the ushers will seat you on one side or the other, depending on whether or not the bride or groom is who you're there for. 

Afterward, there might be an opportunity where people line up to congratulate the newly deceased.  Congratulations to the groom, best wishes for the bride. 

Following that should be a reception.  Typical formal party.  Drink at the bar.  Snack on some hors d'oeuvres.  Sneak out whenever you wish.

Thanks Barto. I had some confusions about the reception and whether it was presumed you would also go along. I was invited to a wedding reception some years ago with my parents but didn't go as it seemed weird having not been to the wedding itself. Also, is everybody still expected to wear suits?

[eric42434224]

Sign the registry.  Mingle outside a bit, if that interests you.  Once you go inside the ushers will seat you on one side or the other, depending on whether or not the bride or groom is who you're there for. 

Afterward, there might be an opportunity where people line up to congratulate the newly deceased.  Congratulations to the groom, best wishes for the bride. 

Following that should be a reception.  Typical formal party.  Drink at the bar.  Snack on some hors d'oeuvres.  Sneak out whenever you wish.

Too bad he wont go...he might actually have some.....fun.

[Sir GuitarCozmo]

Sign the registry.  Mingle outside a bit, if that interests you.  Once you go inside the ushers will seat you on one side or the other, depending on whether or not the bride or groom is who you're there for. 

Afterward, there might be an opportunity where people line up to congratulate the newly deceased.  Congratulations to the groom, best wishes for the bride. 

Following that should be a reception.  Typical formal party.  Drink at the bar.  Snack on some hors d'oeuvres.  Sneak out whenever you wish.

Thanks Barto. I had some confusions about the reception and whether it was presumed you would also go along. I was invited to a wedding reception some years ago with my parents but didn't go as it seemed weird having not been to the wedding itself. Also, is everybody still expected to wear suits?

In all seriousness, yeah, EB laid it all out perfectly.  I generally see guys in slacks and button up shirts.  Maybe a tie.  I personally see no need to wear a suit.

[eric42434224]

Sign the registry.  Mingle outside a bit, if that interests you.  Once you go inside the ushers will seat you on one side or the other, depending on whether or not the bride or groom is who you're there for. 

Afterward, there might be an opportunity where people line up to congratulate the newly deceased.  Congratulations to the groom, best wishes for the bride. 

Following that should be a reception.  Typical formal party.  Drink at the bar.  Snack on some hors d'oeuvres.  Sneak out whenever you wish.

Thanks Barto. I had some confusions about the reception and whether it was presumed you would also go along. I was invited to a wedding reception some years ago with my parents but didn't go as it seemed weird having not been to the wedding itself. Also, is everybody still expected to wear suits?

In all seriousness, yeah, EB laid it all out perfectly.  I generally see guys in slacks and button up shirts.  Maybe a tie.  I personally see no need to wear a suit.

Better to be over dressed than under dressed.  Wear a suit.  Then you can progressively take off items as required.  First the tie, leaving you with a casual suit and dress shirt look.  Then you can always lose the jacket.

But who are we kidding.  Have you EVER taken advice from this forum and actually used it?

If you actually are willing to take advice, take this.  Seriously...take this advice:

This is a wedding....someone elses special day.  It is a day to celebrate love and familty, and the future.  People (guests) are there to enjoy themselves....do not....I repeat...DO NOT bring up ANY subject you have ever posted about here at DTF PR.  No ego, no god, no nazis, no ANDYDT ANYTHING.  Keep conversations light and simple.  Enjoy yourself, and dont ruin others' experience by being ANDYDT.  Just be Andy the Wedding guest and have fun.  Seriously.

[Sir GuitarCozmo]

It could be my burning hatred for dressing up that's coming through. 

[bosk1]

Better to be over dressed than under dressed.  Wear a suit.  Then you can progressively take off items as required.  First the tie, leaving you with a casual suit and dress shirt look.  Then you can always lose the jacket.

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This is a wedding....someone elses special day.  It is a day to celebrate love and familty, and the future.  People (guests) are there to enjoy themselves....

This.  As with most other events that are important to someone else where you are an invited guest, keep in mind that it is about the bride and groom, and nobody else.  As long as a guest--any guest--isn't a distraction from what the bride and groom are trying to accomplish, the rest is just details.  So just dress up, fade into the background and don't be a distraction, and enjoy.

[Vivace]

Suits should be mandatory for any formal event.

[El Barto]

I'm not sure what the etiquette is for attending a reception if you skip the wedding.  My guess is that it's uncool.  I tend to think of the reception as the reward for suffering through the wedding.  Therefore, skipping the hard part and only showing up for the open bar and high-brow food wouldn't be cool.  The opposite is perfectly acceptable.  You can attend the wedding and skip the reception, but that would be foolish.

As for dress, Eric nailed it.  At the reception, things will be slightly more casual, but not much.  You can probably get away with ditching the tie or the jacket, but not both. 

[pogoowner]

In my experience, weddings are getting more and more casual these days. There's little reason to wear a suit. Personally, I would still wear a tie, but even that is becoming less common.

I attended four weddings last year, and I'm in line for at least three this year. A snappy ceremony and a reception with some people I can actually interact with is all I really hope for at this point (besides free alcohol, obviously).

[King Postwhore]

Dress for success but enjoy the moment by hanging out with people you know or catching up with family and friends.  Take it in.  No over analyzing needed here.

[Dr. DTVT]

It could be my burning hatred for dressing up that's coming through. 

I hear ya man.  I wore a Virginia Tech polo and Khakis to the last wedding I went to - but it wasn't at a church it was outdoors.  But then again I had to drive 4 hours each way and I wasn't going to do that in my suit.  I was definately the most casually dressed person there and didn't give a rats ass.

[Odysseus]

I tend to think of the reception as the reward for suffering through the wedding.

Hahaha