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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #35 on: March 06, 2012, 03:40:54 PM »
He was basically saying, "Don't be a douchebag to this girl."
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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #36 on: March 06, 2012, 03:40:59 PM »
It is sort of his responsibility to raise you, which includes keeping you in line.

At nearly 22, yes. At 15, WTF?
Actually, at 15 is the time for that.  Teach you and keep you in control before it becomes a problem.  At 22 you're an adult, he shouldn't have to worry about that stuff. ...or if he does he's probably already lost his influence.

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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #37 on: March 06, 2012, 03:42:39 PM »
I get that 100%. But, when you're 15 and just want some poon, it's WTF. I should say in 15 year old Christian's mind. 22 year old Christian realizes it was a good thing.

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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #38 on: March 06, 2012, 03:45:08 PM »
This is very cute Orbert  :laugh:

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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #39 on: March 06, 2012, 03:57:54 PM »
"cute" is... an interesting choice of words, but thanks, I'll take it.  I love my daughter more than anything, and I will protect her.

But, when you're 15 and just want some poon, it's WTF.

I think that he was just generally telling you "Men do not hurt women" -- period.  This is true whether you're 15, 22, or whatever.  In some ways, your capacity to hurt women at 22 is much greater than what you could've done at 15, so maybe he was just thinking a reminder would be a good idea.

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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #40 on: March 06, 2012, 04:01:26 PM »
It's cute for me to see a dad being protective of his daughter and doing what he thinks he should do to keep her safe, cos it makes me think of my dad doing the same for me   :)

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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #41 on: March 06, 2012, 04:06:39 PM »
Yeah, that's what dads do.  We are the true protectors of the universe.  :police:

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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #42 on: March 06, 2012, 07:51:19 PM »
My daughter has been dating the same guy for over a year.  They are funny together, and he is very, very respectful.

Well done, Orbert.
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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #43 on: March 06, 2012, 07:52:25 PM »
They spent like a grand on new clothes for my birthday for me. She broke up with me like a week before and he called me up and said 'Can Karen and I bring you the clothes? We have the receipts if you don't like them'. Got a couple pair of jeans and like 900 that I blew on pot..

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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #44 on: March 06, 2012, 07:54:16 PM »

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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #45 on: March 06, 2012, 07:58:25 PM »
A classic line from an ex girlfriend's dad at their dinner table one Sunday.

"You know why I like you Joe?  You haven't fucked up yet.  Pass the biscuts."


My response  *Gulp*
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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #46 on: March 06, 2012, 08:01:23 PM »
PASS THE FUCKING BISCUITS JOE
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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #47 on: March 06, 2012, 08:02:25 PM »
I couldn't even speak with that lump in my throat. :lol
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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #48 on: March 06, 2012, 08:04:19 PM »
great read, Orbert.
mine is 17 and has been a blessing beyond words.  I keep waiting for the trouble to begin  :lol
my son, on the other hand, is going to be a handful

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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #49 on: March 06, 2012, 08:11:24 PM »
A classic line from an ex girlfriend's dad at their dinner table one Sunday.

"You know why I like you Joe?  You haven't fucked up yet.  Pass the biscuts."


My response  *Gulp*

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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #50 on: March 06, 2012, 08:19:23 PM »
No, but what the fuck? I'm his son. What if I didn't hurt her but a break up happened?

Sure he didn't just mean physically hurt?
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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #51 on: March 06, 2012, 08:30:40 PM »
No, but what the fuck? I'm his son. What if I didn't hurt her but a break up happened?

Sure he didn't just mean physically hurt?

Oh man, he knows I could never lay a hand on a woman. One time Courtney and I were horseplaying and I accidently smacked her really hard. I felt like shit that entire day :(

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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #52 on: March 06, 2012, 08:40:50 PM »
No, but what the fuck? I'm his son. What if I didn't hurt her but a break up happened?

Sure he didn't just mean physically hurt?

Oh man, he knows I could never lay a hand on a woman. One time Courtney and I were horseplaying and I accidently smacked her really hard. I felt like shit that entire day :(

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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #53 on: March 06, 2012, 10:17:09 PM »
I read an interview with Isaac Hayes a long time ago, and he was talking about what it's like getting older.  This was probably the 80's when I read it, so all those 70's artists were just getting to where they were having kids and stuff.  Isaac had a teenaged daughter, and the interviewer was asking what that was like.  This is Isaac Hayes we're talking about.  Tall, bald, black as night, deep voice, gold chains.  He said that he remembered what it was like being a teenaged boy, and he had no problem scaring the shit out of any guy who wanted to date his daughter.  He said "I know you want to get between her legs," (first and only time I've ever heard it phrased that way; it's always "get into her pants") "but let me tell you.  I have a brother, and he's in prison, for a long time.  Because he's stupid.  They found the body.  I'm smarter than he is.  They will not find your body."

I never forgot that.  So people say I look badass.  My son's friends say I look like someone who could kill you.  I use that.  Hey, you play the cards you're dealt, right?  I could try to reason with the young men who want to get... into my daughter's pants.  Or I could just scare the shit out of them.  Easier, and probably more effective.

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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #54 on: March 06, 2012, 10:38:33 PM »
Although I agree with your actions and I think you handled it well, I think the faux death threat thing is really lame and played out. The kid knows you aren't going to kill him.

I mean, if a father ever said to me "They won't find your body", even if he had intimidated me before, my reaction to that would be "alright whatever lol". I wouldn't take you as seriously.
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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #55 on: March 07, 2012, 05:33:53 AM »
Orbert,

You pretty much need to be a large black man to pull that one off.

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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #56 on: March 07, 2012, 05:57:39 AM »
Orbert is Asian. He can pull it off.

I'm what you will call a "Latino".
The only time I've ever been in a fight in my adult life (and I hope it's the last) was in the summer of 2010 in Chicago.
A group of "white" men decided it was funny to make fun of my cousin's homosexual friends. My cousin, her friends and I left the hot-dog joint and proceeded to the parking lot; we didn't pay attention to them. But... since they were a bunch of fuckers, a guy followed us and pushed me. That's when I acted. Again, I'm a "Latino", and I knew he had crossed the line. I got on my feet, cursed to him in Spanish, intimidated him and kicked the crap out of him.
I wasn't protecting my teenage daughter, I was protecting myself. Talking confidently in Spanish and letting the other guy know you are threatening him works.

Like Orbert said, I played the cards I was dealt with... and I won. He will, most likely, never have to get physical. The kid doesn't know that.

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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #57 on: March 07, 2012, 07:03:02 AM »
God speed and good luck Orbert. I've watched my parents deal with my sister (almost 20 now) and I tell people that when I have a kid it's either going to be a boy or up for adoption :lol
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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #58 on: March 07, 2012, 07:42:31 AM »
Although I agree with your actions and I think you handled it well, I think the faux death threat thing is really lame and played out. The kid knows you aren't going to kill him.

I mean, if a father ever said to me "They won't find your body", even if he had intimidated me before, my reaction to that would be "alright whatever lol". I wouldn't take you as seriously.

That's a good point.  Borrowing from something that may have been intimidating 30 years ago may not be the best approach.  When Isaac described the encounter, I could totally see him selling it, and given the context, the kid most likely took him seriously.  Today, the kid would know I'm not actually going to kill him.

I think it's more the attitude that's important.  I never actually said it, but I kept the thought in my head and I guess I was thinking that the attitude would come through in my eyes or something.  We're talking about a 13-year-old kid, kinda small for his age at that.  I'm sure I got the point across.  It was not all smiles and "Good to meet you, I now trust you completely" and all that.

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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #59 on: March 07, 2012, 12:57:39 PM »
Bob, do you speak Chinese? If not, learn it.


Next time a guy comes by, sit him down and speak NO english to him at all. Give him a random speech about whatever you want, just make sure it's completely in chinese. Speak in a low gravily voice and make sure to sound serious and somewhat angry, when you're done, nod at him and give him a mean stare. That should work.



EDIT: It wouldn't hurt if you were also just holding a sword casually during it all.

I think the sword should be mandatory actually.




But anyways, looks like you're doing a good job of handling a typically touchie situation.  :tup

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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #60 on: March 07, 2012, 01:00:53 PM »
I don't think touchy was the right choice of word, there. :)

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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #61 on: March 07, 2012, 01:04:02 PM »
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« Reply #62 on: March 07, 2012, 01:14:21 PM »
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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #63 on: March 08, 2012, 01:15:24 AM »
Well played, Orbert.  Very nicely handled.  Your daughter is fortunate to have a father like you.


Amen. My daughter is 7 (going on 17), so I soak up these stories like a sponge right now.

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« Reply #64 on: March 08, 2012, 01:29:26 AM »
I'm what you will call a "Latino".

I don't know why, but I totally read that in a Hank Hill voice,
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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #65 on: March 08, 2012, 05:14:06 AM »
I'm what you will call a "Latino".

I don't know why, but I totally read that in a Hank Hill voice,

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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #66 on: March 09, 2012, 01:35:36 AM »
Orbert has wonderfully described what my guy and I are going through with his now 16 year old daughter.  It's nice to know that we're not the only ones.

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« Reply #67 on: March 09, 2012, 01:57:11 AM »
I'm what you will call a "Latino".

I don't know why, but I totally read that in a Hank Hill voice,

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Re: So... it has begun (parenting thing)
« Reply #68 on: March 14, 2012, 03:49:02 PM »
Epilogue

We're Facebook friends, and I see sad little updates and questions from her friends, and answers, and it seems that it's over.  You know how those whirlwind romances are; over and done in two weeks.

What's funny are some of the updates.

The worst part about the afterwards, is seeing the things that remind you of the times you spent together.....

Sweetie, I know you hurt, but come on, you were together two weeks.  Aren't we being just a bit melodramatic?

Okay, I shouldn't make fun.  But it's so... cute.

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« Reply #69 on: March 14, 2012, 06:04:31 PM »
 That is soooooo cute, my heart almost breaks for her.  And making fun is half the joy of parenting, so go ahead. :tup