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Being interesting/confident
« on: January 23, 2012, 08:14:40 PM »
It's no secret that some people are more interesting than others.  There's always the guy/gal at the table that gets all the looks, and it's not always because they're great looking.  They have social capital, charisma, or something else.  What is it?  How do you get like that?
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Re: Being interesting
« Reply #1 on: January 23, 2012, 08:18:24 PM »
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Re: Being interesting
« Reply #2 on: January 23, 2012, 08:19:15 PM »
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Re: Being interesting
« Reply #3 on: January 23, 2012, 08:25:41 PM »
I think Andy has an alternate account...or a twin...or maybe a distant cousin.
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Re: Being interesting
« Reply #4 on: January 23, 2012, 08:27:14 PM »
That's probably a slight at Andy at this point, but I really am curious to know what "it" is.
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Re: Being interesting
« Reply #5 on: January 23, 2012, 08:41:12 PM »
It is hard to define.  But a large part of it is a combination of two things: self-confidence and not caring what other people think.
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Re: Being interesting
« Reply #6 on: January 23, 2012, 08:43:19 PM »
And honestly, nobody is as interesting as my Father above me.
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Re: Being interesting
« Reply #7 on: January 23, 2012, 08:45:41 PM »
Quote from: hefdaddy42 on January 23, 2012, 08:41:12 PM
It is hard to define.  But a large part of it is a combination of two things: self-confidence and not caring what other people think.

“People who say they don't care what people think are usually desperate to have people think they don't care what people think”
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Re: Being interesting
« Reply #8 on: January 23, 2012, 08:47:12 PM »
I dunno about the confidence part totally. I've been called interesting by alot of people, and I simply lack much confidence at all :P
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Re: Being interesting
« Reply #9 on: January 23, 2012, 08:47:32 PM »
I would never want to be "that guy." I hate being the center of attention, and I don't want everyone looking at me. I'm much more comfortable just blending in with everyone else.
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Re: Being interesting
« Reply #10 on: January 23, 2012, 08:51:00 PM »
I think it's just a matter of being comfortable with who you are and not trying to forge superiority or that you're a big shot.

Those really loud, cocky, obnoxious guys that make sure you can hear their voice anywhere within a mile are usually pretty easy to see through quickly.
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Re: Being interesting
« Reply #11 on: January 23, 2012, 08:52:50 PM »
Quote from: hefdaddy42 on January 23, 2012, 08:41:12 PM
It is hard to define.  But a large part of it is a combination of two things: self-confidence and not caring what other people think.

Yeah, definitely the above.

It's tough though because it also depends on the right mixture. You want to be self-confident without being cocky; interesting without being a topic hog; casually careless without being apathetic; interested in girls without looking desperate.

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Re: Being interesting
« Reply #12 on: January 23, 2012, 09:06:03 PM »
Quote from: hefdaddy42 on January 23, 2012, 08:41:12 PM
It is hard to define.  But a large part of it is a combination of two things: self-confidence and not caring what other people think.

This (although I would say that self-confidence encompasses not really caring about what others think of you). And also, actually having something interesting to say in the first place, which comes from experience/knowledge. Basically some level of social awareness that allows you to fit the situation.
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Re: Being interesting
« Reply #13 on: January 23, 2012, 09:08:25 PM »
I honestly don't care to talk to anyone about anything except music ("good" music, of course), philosophy, religion, and relationships.  I'd like to care.  But I don't.  People have so much to say about other things and I can't help but to just be silent.
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Re: Being interesting
« Reply #14 on: January 23, 2012, 09:09:32 PM »
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Re: Being interesting
« Reply #15 on: January 23, 2012, 09:20:32 PM »
What?
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Re: Being interesting
« Reply #16 on: January 23, 2012, 09:25:02 PM »
Like everyone else said, be confident.

Also, go out and do stuff. Meet new people, try new things, follow your passions.
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Re: Being interesting
« Reply #17 on: January 23, 2012, 09:30:59 PM »
Quote from: hefdaddy42 on January 23, 2012, 08:41:12 PM
It is hard to define.  But a large part of it is a combination of two things: self-confidence and not caring what other people think.
Confidence is the main word in most of the posts here.  What are some other ways to be confident besides not caring what other people think?
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Re: Being interesting
« Reply #18 on: January 23, 2012, 09:58:38 PM »
Quote from: Ħ on January 23, 2012, 09:08:25 PM
"good" music, of course
Thats your first problem. Get off of your high horse, the music that you listen to does not really define you, if you keep on labeling people for the music they listen to you would miss on a lot of great people.
 So if you want to be the center of attention(Wich is kind of stupid) you should probably stop with the  musical snob(yes i said it) pseudo intellectual philosophy and religion stuff, because no one that is popular talks about that.
My advice to you is to be yourself, because if you want to be the center of attention you would never ever talk about what you like. Talk about the things you like with people that like the same stuff as you, and that way you can actually feel comfortable and confident about yourself.
Just be yourself, thats way better than trying to be that popular guy or that mysterious fella in the corner, because if you keep on trying to change who you are, you are just going to enter on a self loathing cicle, you will always be trying to change and be "better" to fit on that "popular" spot, and that my friend, by the things you have been popsting and asking lately is not what you need.   


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Re: Being interesting/confident
« Reply #19 on: January 23, 2012, 11:17:46 PM »
Be yourself. 

Not everyone can be that popular guy at the head of the board of executives, nor the sullen, well-versed alcoholic in the parlor.  My grandfather was naturally swell at being a social guy and got real high up in the ranks when he was in the corporate world.    I, on the other hand, know very well that I'm not that person.  I'm more oriented towards tasks and following orders, as well as being more comfortable with smaller groups of people.  I'm not a pushover and can project myself when necessary, but I am aware that I'm necessarily executive or leadership material.  I'm perfectly happy with that, because I enjoy knowing where my strengths lie and can then act on them.

Try and figure yourself out and work from there. 
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Re: Being interesting/confident
« Reply #20 on: January 24, 2012, 02:47:59 AM »
I'm thinking of the people who get my attention instantly .... see some common attributes....

They love themselves... they don't have any concerns about impressing people... well this also translates as not caring what other people think so I also tend think it's a significant component... it helps you to be your true-self, relax and shine...

They also love people!....  not for what they listen to or where they work at, how much money they make, who they know......only for who they are basically...

Coming from a 'insanely jealous women world', I have to throw 'not being jealous of others' to the equation....  these cool people don't get intimidated just because there's a better-looking guy in the room or someone with a better job... better educated, richer, celebrity.. whatever... they keep the cool, enjoy being around that better person... and keep shining... the chances are that they receive more attention than that better person too...

...and of course there's personalities... some people are just born to be stars... they radiate energy and shine... they are the extraverts... they enjoy being in the limelight... the more they relish the attention, the more they shine and so on...

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Re: Being interesting/confident
« Reply #21 on: January 24, 2012, 03:09:07 AM »
Quote from: toro on January 23, 2012, 09:58:38 PM
Quote from: Ħ on January 23, 2012, 09:08:25 PM
"good" music, of course
Thats your first problem. Get off of your high horse, the music that you listen to does not really define you, if you keep on labeling people for the music they listen to you would miss on a lot of great people.
 So if you want to be the center of attention(Wich is kind of stupid) you should probably stop with the  musical snob(yes i said it) pseudo intellectual philosophy and religion stuff, because no one that is popular talks about that.
My advice to you is to be yourself, because if you want to be the center of attention you would never ever talk about what you like. Talk about the things you like with people that like the same stuff as you, and that way you can actually feel comfortable and confident about yourself.
Just be yourself, thats way better than trying to be that popular guy or that mysterious fella in the corner, because if you keep on trying to change who you are, you are just going to enter on a self loathing cicle, you will always be trying to change and be "better" to fit on that "popular" spot, and that my friend, by the things you have been popsting and asking lately is not what you need.   



This so much.
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Re: Being interesting
« Reply #22 on: January 24, 2012, 04:54:53 AM »
Quote from: hefdaddy42 on January 23, 2012, 08:41:12 PM
It is hard to define.  But a large part of it is a combination of two things: self-confidence and not caring what other people think.

I always thought it was my giant penis. Damn.
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Re: Being interesting/confident
« Reply #23 on: January 24, 2012, 06:52:02 AM »
Quote from: obscure on January 24, 2012, 02:47:59 AM
I'm thinking of the people who get my attention instantly .... see some common attributes....

They love themselves... they don't have any concerns about impressing people... well this also translates as not caring what other people think so I also tend think it's a significant component... it helps you to be your true-self, relax and shine...

They also love people!....  not for what they listen to or where they work at, how much money they make, who they know......only for who they are basically...

These two points!

I used to be very shy when I was HS but when I graduated I starting opening. To me confidence comes from me feeling comfortable with what I'm doing and who I am, I'm not flawless but I learned comparing myself to others is a losing game.

Also talking to people helps, you don't have to be the center of attention but if you just go up and talk to people you'll find that 99% of them at least have something interesting to say, if you're open to hear what they say.
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Re: Being interesting
« Reply #24 on: January 24, 2012, 07:01:05 AM »
Quote from: toro on January 23, 2012, 09:58:38 PM
Quote from: Ħ on January 23, 2012, 09:08:25 PM
"good" music, of course
Thats your first problem. Get off of your high horse, the music that you listen to does not really define you, if you keep on labeling people for the music they listen to you would miss on a lot of great people.
 So if you want to be the center of attention(Wich is kind of stupid) you should probably stop with the  musical snob(yes i said it) pseudo intellectual philosophy and religion stuff, because no one that is popular talks about that.
My advice to you is to be yourself, because if you want to be the center of attention you would never ever talk about what you like. Talk about the things you like with people that like the same stuff as you, and that way you can actually feel comfortable and confident about yourself.
Just be yourself, thats way better than trying to be that popular guy or that mysterious fella in the corner, because if you keep on trying to change who you are, you are just going to enter on a self loathing cicle, you will always be trying to change and be "better" to fit on that "popular" spot, and that my friend, by the things you have been popsting and asking lately is not what you need.

Well said. :clap:
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Re: Being interesting/confident
« Reply #25 on: January 24, 2012, 07:22:59 AM »
"forging superiority"

good line.
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Re: Being interesting/confident
« Reply #26 on: January 24, 2012, 08:05:31 AM »
Just ignore everyone and sit by yourself in a corner pretending that you're texting someone. Women love that.
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Re: Being interesting/confident
« Reply #27 on: January 24, 2012, 08:06:27 AM »
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Re: Being interesting/confident
« Reply #28 on: January 24, 2012, 08:09:18 AM »
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Re: Being interesting/confident
« Reply #29 on: January 24, 2012, 08:09:44 AM »
GODDAMN IT!! I was coming into the thread to make that same joke, antigoon!!
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« Reply #30 on: January 24, 2012, 08:11:01 AM »
Quote from: antigoon on January 24, 2012, 08:06:27 AM
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I actually thought of this coming into the thread but I must have forgotten about it by the time I got around to making a post :lol
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Re: Being interesting/confident
« Reply #31 on: January 24, 2012, 08:54:51 AM »
Quote from: Dimitrius on January 24, 2012, 08:09:44 AM
same joke, antigoon!!

???

I wasn't aware that Icy's professional advice was a joke.

Actually, I think the joke here is that you think it is a joke.
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Re: Being interesting/confident
« Reply #32 on: January 24, 2012, 08:59:31 AM »
Quote from: Jamesman42 on January 24, 2012, 08:54:51 AM
Quote from: Dimitrius on January 24, 2012, 08:09:44 AM
same joke, antigoon!!

???

I wasn't aware that Icy's professional advice was a joke.

Actually, I think the joke here is that you think it is a joke.
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Re: Being interesting/confident
« Reply #33 on: January 24, 2012, 09:01:17 AM »
I'm not being sarcastic.
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Re: Being interesting
« Reply #34 on: January 24, 2012, 09:50:03 AM »
Quote from: 73109 on January 23, 2012, 08:45:41 PM
Quote from: hefdaddy42 on January 23, 2012, 08:41:12 PM
It is hard to define.  But a large part of it is a combination of two things: self-confidence and not caring what other people think.

“People who say they don't care what people think are usually desperate to have people think they don't care what people think”
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Maybe, but I don't care what he thought either.
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