Alright married losers, i need some advice.
DISCLAIMER: all of the things I am posting have been discussed with Courtney (my wife-to-be). This is not a typical AndyDT thread. I intend on reading all the responses but, I'm generally a listener when I get advice. I'll try to respond, even if it isn't profound. /disclaimer
So, I'm getting married on May 26th. It's awesome. She's the love of my life blah blah I've probably posted enough about this and her. However, I'm running into some emotional roadblocks. I'll just list them so there is some sort of order.
1.) Leaving my physical home - Until Saturday, this one seemed pretty unreal to me. Leaving my physical home to a new place and just assuming that place can be my "home", even if it's temporary. However, Courtney and myself signed a lease for a cute upstairs flat at the college town we are moving to following the wedding! It was unreal! I have the key, and she signed as Courtney Yaple, which like...man it was awesome. It's hard to explain the emotion I felt. Partly because I was(am) sick at the time. We were going over our budgets and realizing like "holy shit, we can make this all work!" We have a solid $12K saved between the two of us and we could easily get by without jobs for a year at the price we got and what not. So this point is kind of moot, but I wanted to kind of give a starting point and maybe some realization that everything will be okay once I do it.
2.) Leaving my emotional(?) home - I keep a lot of things. No, I am not a hoarder. In my family, we were always taught to appreciate gifts (and things of that nature) because the idea was that someone took the time to think of you to purchase that. You were the one in mind. I have every birthday card from when I was 9 until 22 (I just turned 22 in March). And, I'm realizing I need to part with some of this stuff soon. I never play my bass anymore, and I realize it would be best to sell it. I remember getting it for my 17th birthday and was the happiest person in the world. And this feeling of selling it is just awful. So, the packing up and getting rid of stuff is going to be hard, and I'm not sure how to best deal with it. How much do I bring?
Also, my dogs
I don't want to leave my dogs. Daisy, my golden retriever (well, they're my parent's dogs, but I refer to them as mine) is almost 14 and she has been through a lot in her life. She looks really good for 13 and she's always been kind of "my" dog. I trained her, I've taken her to the vet, she only lets me clip her nails, I'm the only person she doesn't growl at when they come near her while she's eating etc. And the same applies to my 18 month old yellow lab Sophie. They're both my girls and it's going to be hard leaving them. I love them both so much and I feel like I would be abandoning them. I'm actually tearing up at the thought of leaving them. They're really awesome and I love them a lot. And part of the reason why it sucks is because they're probably going to go down to Texas (edit: I'm from Michigan) in August or so when/if my Dad moves down to be with my Mom. I mean, Sophie always lies next to me and she puts her head on my lap if I'm sitting and cuddles up to me and everything. Daisy doesn't like cuddling, but she always KNOWS when I'm having a bad day and she's always there for me. I think this is where I am going to struggle the most. They're the two best dogs in the world.
So, yeah...any help is appreciated