Author Topic: Would you hook up for "casual sex"? (Read 10357 times)

AndyDT · « **on:** October 31, 2011, 07:52:32 AM »

If not (or if so) please explain in spiritual/religious terms.

For me the issue has always been no because it's an ego goal (and hence separate from God) and I'd rather devote the time to develop relationship skills.

Genowyn · « **Reply #1 on:** October 31, 2011, 07:54:04 AM »

I see no moral reason not to, so yes.

Dark Castle · « **Reply #2 on:** October 31, 2011, 08:15:22 AM »

After being in relationships where I commit myself to someone and it's just crashed and burned, I'd be open to mixing in casual sex between relationships. I don't see a reason to think of it a bad thing, and I've basically become Agnostic.

the Catfishman · « **Reply #3 on:** October 31, 2011, 08:24:48 AM »

I've never done it and am in a long term relationship at the moment but in general I see no moral objection to it if both parties agree with it.

Liberation · « **Reply #4 on:** October 31, 2011, 08:34:01 AM »

Most likely no for reasons which have nothing to do with religion or anything, it just wouldn't feel particularly great for me to do the most intimate thing in life with a person I have no significant emotional connection to. I find sex to be something more than just biology and even though it may be more difficult, I would need the emotional element for it to feel complete.

MetalMike06 · « **Reply #5 on:** October 31, 2011, 09:37:25 AM »

Quote from: Liberation on October 31, 2011, 08:34:01 AM

Most likely no for reasons which have nothing to do with religion or anything, it just wouldn't feel particularly great for me to do the most intimate thing in life with a person I have no significant emotional connection to. I find sex to be something more than just biology and even though it may be more difficult, I would need the emotional element for it to feel complete.

My thoughts exactly.

eric42434224 · « **Reply #6 on:** October 31, 2011, 09:48:20 AM »

I dont now as I am married. But when I wasnt in a monogamous relationship, I did. It was consentual, with no expectations other than feeling really, really good. And it felt really, really good. Really, really, really good. As I orgasmed, I pulled out and yelled very loudly, "hahahahaha...take THAT Ego!" Over in the corner, Jesus winked and gave me a thumbs-up.

MasterShakezula · « **Reply #7 on:** October 31, 2011, 09:50:22 AM »

If it's gone about responsibly, I see no reason not to.

zxlkho · « **Reply #8 on:** October 31, 2011, 09:57:06 AM »

Quote from: eric42434224 on October 31, 2011, 09:48:20 AM

I dont now as I am married. But when I wasnt in a monogamous relationship, I did. It was consentual, with no expectations other than feeling really, really good. And it felt really, really good. Really, really, really good. As I orgasmed, I pulled out and yelled very loudly, "hahahahaha...take THAT Ego!" Over in the corner, Jesus winked and gave me a thumbs-up.

eric42434224 · « **Reply #9 on:** October 31, 2011, 12:01:01 PM »

Quote from: AndyDT on October 31, 2011, 07:52:32 AM

If not (or if so) please explain in spiritual/religious terms.

For me the issue has always been no because it's an ego goal (and hence separate from God) and I'd rather devote the time to develop relationship skills.

Why is something you think of as an "ego goal" not something that god wants you to do? Why are they mutually exclusive? Couldnt it be entirely possible that god wants you to enjoy sex regardless if it is within the confines of an emotional relationship?
I have sex with my wife on MANY ocassions where there is absolutley zero "emotional" factors involved. It is outright, pure and simple fuc*ing, done only for the physical pleasure. No deepening of the relationship. No procreation. Hell, sometimes we dont even kiss, no foreplay, I just bend her over the table. Boom...just a lust filled ego bang.
How do you reconcile an obvious "ego" lay within a relationship?

snapple · « **Reply #10 on:** October 31, 2011, 12:01:54 PM »

Quote from: Liberation on October 31, 2011, 08:34:01 AM

Most likely no for reasons which have nothing to do with religion or anything, it just wouldn't feel particularly great for me to do the most intimate thing in life with a person I have no significant emotional connection to. I find sex to be something more than just biology and even though it may be more difficult, I would need the emotional element for it to feel complete.

this + religious reasons.

eric42434224 · « **Reply #11 on:** October 31, 2011, 12:11:02 PM »

I think some people would benefit separating the two acts. They are not the same, and shouldnt be compared as such. There can be "fuc*king", and there can be "making love", with differing degrees of emotion and attachment between the two. In many cases the lack of emotional attachment can enhance the experience of the former, just like deeper emotional attachment can increase the experience of the latter.

kirksnosehair · « **Reply #12 on:** October 31, 2011, 12:29:02 PM »

I haven't done that since being married, but yeah, sure, I'm all for it. As long as both parties are of legal age. Why not?

eric42434224 · « **Reply #13 on:** October 31, 2011, 12:33:52 PM »

I had casual hook-up sex with the one who eventually became my wife. It was the "one night stand that never ended". I have been having casual hook-up sex with the same person for 10 years.

Rathma · « **Reply #14 on:** October 31, 2011, 12:35:41 PM »

If it's a thing just naturally happens I don't see how it's an ego goal.

ClairvoyantCat · « **Reply #15 on:** October 31, 2011, 01:46:27 PM »

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Would you hook up for "casual sex"?

Yes. What time/whose place?

Dark Castle · « **Reply #16 on:** October 31, 2011, 02:05:35 PM »

Quote from: ClairvoyantCat on October 31, 2011, 01:46:27 PM

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Would you hook up for "casual sex"?

Yes. What time/whose place?

Higbie Hall #418, 9:00 pm. Be there or be square.

jcmistat · « **Reply #17 on:** October 31, 2011, 03:01:35 PM »

That would be a hell yes. I'm not religious so that part doesn't effect me. As for as morals I see sex as more of a pleasure act than an emotional act. It varies a lot, depends on who you're with how long you've known them but there's many people who constantly meet up for a long time and just have sex to have sex.

zxlkho · « **Reply #18 on:** October 31, 2011, 04:35:39 PM »

What really blows my mind about this kind of question is how some people (not calling anyone out) answer the question with "well morally I do/don't have a problem with it..." then proceed to proclaim that some kind of objective set of morals actually exist.

On topic, hell yeah I would.

MasterShakezula · « **Reply #19 on:** October 31, 2011, 04:38:13 PM »

I know, right?

I believe it's okay for me to screw around, hence I will do so. If I believed I didn't, than I wouldn't. Other people can go ahead and do whatever they want with their sex lives (or lack thereof), according their own individual beliefs; it's not of my concern.

I can't see how it'd be any more complicated than that.

rumborak · « **Reply #20 on:** October 31, 2011, 10:16:11 PM »

Done it with an ex of mine. Nothing wrong with it, especially if there's been a "drought" on both sides for a while. Makes two people who feel alone not so alone for a while, and there's nothing wrong with that.

rumborak

Fuzzboy · « **Reply #21 on:** November 01, 2011, 01:53:59 AM »

I got no problem with it.

It's the same as going over to your buddy's house to have a few beers and play Xbox, but instead you're putting your penis in a woman.

Volk9 · « **Reply #22 on:** November 01, 2011, 03:04:00 AM »

Quote from: MetalMike06 on October 31, 2011, 09:37:25 AM

Quote from: Liberation on October 31, 2011, 08:34:01 AM
Most likely no for reasons which have nothing to do with religion or anything, it just wouldn't feel particularly great for me to do the most intimate thing in life with a person I have no significant emotional connection to. I find sex to be something more than just biology and even though it may be more difficult, I would need the emotional element for it to feel complete.

My thoughts exactly.

Nick · « **Reply #23 on:** November 01, 2011, 06:28:40 AM »

If I weren't in a relationship, and the opportunity presented itself, sure.

Quote from: Genowyn on October 31, 2011, 07:54:04 AM

I see no moral reason not to, so yes.

Same for me.

AndyDT · « **Reply #24 on:** November 01, 2011, 06:45:06 AM »

Quote from: rumborak on October 31, 2011, 10:16:11 PM

Done it with an ex of mine. Nothing wrong with it, especially if there's been a "drought" on both sides for a while. Makes two people who feel alone not so alone for a while, and there's nothing wrong with that.

rumborak

That's a bit different I think, I'm talking about going from cold. From what you're saying you already had the attachment and had done the relational work earlier on.

rumborak · « **Reply #25 on:** November 01, 2011, 08:19:10 AM »

Well, there was familiarity, but whatever relationship there was a long time ago (we're talking 10 years between the breakup and having casual sex) was nonexistent. The only thing was that I knew I could trust her, but the very lack of relational attachment was in fact what made it possible.

rumborak

Sir GuitarCozmo · « **Reply #26 on:** November 01, 2011, 09:20:19 AM »

If single, yes, I would. I have. Banged a chick on the road in '97. She gave me her number and said "next time you guys are back in town, call me." I knew I was guaranteed laid if we ever came back. We never went back and I never saw her again. Eh. Makes a better story this way, anyway.

obscure · « **Reply #27 on:** November 01, 2011, 09:34:54 AM »

Quote from: ClairvoyantCat on October 31, 2011, 01:46:27 PM

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Would you hook up for "casual sex"?

Yes. What time/whose place?

King Postwhore · « **Reply #28 on:** November 01, 2011, 06:45:57 PM »

If I was single....YES!!

ReaperKK · « **Reply #29 on:** November 02, 2011, 07:23:01 AM »

I've done it before with an ex of mine and I don't see how there would be a problem with consenting adults.

Cyclopssss · « **Reply #30 on:** November 02, 2011, 07:56:58 AM »

I always like to think I would and have come close a couple times, but it never happened.

I'm in a relationship, btw...

Dublagent66 · « **Reply #31 on:** November 02, 2011, 08:19:37 AM »

I've done it before and it's pretty much meaningless. Sex or making love or whatever is so much more meaningful with a special person that I bond with and get along with. Once you've found that, nothing else matters.

eric42434224 · « **Reply #32 on:** November 02, 2011, 08:56:04 AM »

Quote from: Dublagent66 on November 02, 2011, 08:19:37 AM

I've done it before and it's pretty much meaningless. Sex or making love or whatever is so much more meaningful with a special person that I bond with and get along with. Once you've found that, nothing else matters.

It isnt meaningless. It feels awesome and is fun. Thats enough meaning to do LOTS of things.

hefdaddy42 · « **Reply #33 on:** November 02, 2011, 09:48:28 AM »

I wouldn't hook up for casual sex, but I don't see how it is an ego thing.

obscure · « **Reply #34 on:** November 02, 2011, 09:51:59 AM »

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