Taken, mainly, from the on-going discussion about criticizing Mike Portnoy. But I wanted to discuss it here, where we can talk about the underlying issues being brought up there more freely and without fear of going off topic.
The general idea I, and some others, have put forward is that part of being a good person toward others involves letting them know when they are doing something you really disagree with, or feel is wrong. The other opinion being put forward is that people's decisions are their own, and it's not anyone's place to but in.
Personally, I sometimes get pissy when people force me to look in the mirror. But, in the long run, I'm grateful for it and always come to appreciate people who've had the balls to put me in my place and force me to do better. I've tried to do the same with others-- holding people to standards that I myself aspire to.
I'm sure we'll all agree that there's certain times you need to speak up about something your friends are doing-- but when? When is it justified, and when are you just being a dick? Should you get on someone's case about smoking cigarettes? Cheating on their spouse? Drunk driving? What?
Where do you guys draw the line? I'm interested to see what people think.