the best recommendation I can really give you is to not play your drumset, although that is tempting
seriously, hold your sticks and simply beat the air to many different types of songs, of course including DT
Hold the sticks loosely enough so that the base bounces off the palm of your hand each time.
Look at your set and imagine where everything is laid-out in your mind, and when you are air drumming, move your arms accordingly.
Pay attention to how hard the drummer you are listening to is hitting each time, and adjust your arm swings and your wrist snaps accordingly.
I've only actualy played drums a handful of times, and don't own any. I'm mostly a guitarist/singer/songwriter. But one time during a local band's intermission, their friend got up on stage and started playing "Teen SPirit" on guitar. I asked if I could get on drums and help him out. The band was amazed and asked me to sit in for their drummer when he was going out of town for a while. Everyone thought I had been playing for years and was an avid drummer, when in reality I've just looked like a lunatic for many years air-drumming constantly
Of course, when I do get some sticks and some drums to play for a moment, it's BLISTER CITY since I don't know when to quit
And needless to say, playing drums on Rock Band comes a bit more naturally than most other non-drummers.