Do you think you have a different criteria for making friends than straight people? I know there are stereotypes of gay people mostly having female friends, and that's mostly what I'm referring to.
That's true, a lot of gays have a lot of female friends or other gay friends. Other mostly have straight friends. I think it depends on your overall life, your background, where you live, where you work, your lifestyle, etc. Personally, I think the more flamboyant ones get along better with females/gays than with straight people.
Also, when you're gay, the thing is... you will have crushes on your hot-looking straight friends. The same way straight guys can have crushes on their hot-looking female friends. I'm NOT saying that every gay guy wants to bang all of his friends. It's just that you have to be careful because it becomes easy to fuck up a relationship with your straight friend.
What types of prejudice have you faced (if any)? Assuming you're open about it, how did family/friends handle it when you told them?
I've been very lucky, I've never faced any prejudice in my entire life. I think that might come from the fact that you wouldn't know I'm gay if I didn't told you, so the people I meet in my everyday life don't assume I'm gay. And the fact that I come from a very open country, where being gay is not really seen as "weird" or abnormal... Most people don't think anything of it, gays just exist. My family and friends took it very well when I came out. Everybody was surprised, but I never heard anyone say anything negative about it. Of course, it's not that easy for most gay people, like I said, I've been very lucky as of now.
Ask away if you have any questions.
Are you a stereotypical flaming flamboyant effeminate gay guy? Or you are a normal guy who is just gay?
I'm just a normal guy. I can safely say that before I came out, nobody suspected me of being gay. You probably wouldn't know if you saw me on the street, unless you had a very good gaydar lol. One negative thing about it is that most of the time, I have to let people know I'm interested in them first, otherwise they probably have no clue I'm gay unless they already know/someone told them.
Related to Hef's question, do you consider yourself leaning towards masculine or feminine? In other words, are you a guy who just digs other guys, or do you feel like a chick who happened to be born with a wang?
Definitely leaning towards masculine. I feel like a real guy inside, dress like a guy, act like a guy... I just happen to prefer other guys more than women. Otherwise I'm 100% normal lol.
Do you find the prospect of getting it on with a lady revolting, or have circumstances given you some leeway in that regard?
One could say I'm maybe 20% straight 80% gay. I've had girlfriends, had sex with ladies, liked it but didn'tt feel super exciting. In the right circumstances, I would do it again. Like, being a bit drunk, and with an exceptionally hot chick haha.
Personally, I don't think sexuality is black or white. i think it's more of a gray spectrum, where everyone falls somewhere in between, some more in the middle, some at one side or the other. The thing I've noticed since I've been "out" is that a lot, and I mean a whole f*cking LOT of people are kinda bi.
Most are not 100% bi so they'd like to be equally in a relationship with a male or a female, but a lot of people are somewhat curious sexually. Again, the fact that you can accept it and come to terms with those feelings depends a lot on where you come from, your upbringing, the people around you, your values, your religion...
Being openly gay and not really flamboyant, I've had a lot of guys talk to me about being curious and things like that... maybe they don't feel threatened when talking to someone who is a bit like them.
I only have one question since I have a good amount of experience with the GLBT community.
Seriously.............what's the deal with Barbara Striesand?
Haha, I don't know seriously. Never really listened to her. I prefer Celine Dion LOL. I know that's very gay, but understand that "prefer" doesn't mean "like" here.