Ah, well then it was like that. I was giving you the benefit of the doubt. But no shame.
I've been the "other guy" twice; one told me that she was divorced and was lying (technically they were separated, but only in the sense that he was overseas in the military), the other I knew had a boyfriend but I convinced myself that the guilt was all on her. I'm still not sure how I feel about that. If I was the one being cheated on, I'd have some things to work out with my (soon-to-be-ex-) girlfriend, but I'd still want to kill the guy.