Since I don’t think anyone knows my true identity here, I will share this. I am a ‘sex offender.’ Over 10 years ago when I was in my early 20s, I was talking to a gal online who said she was 18. Turns out she was 15, and since some of our conversations were of a sexual nature, I was convicted of soliciting her for sex. It was a real person, not one of those sting operations. And it apparently didn’t matter that she initiated and perpetuated the lie. I am the adult, so I pay the price. Yes, I should have been smarter.
The jail term was short and painless, the ‘sexual addiction/rehab’ program I was forced to enroll in was long and costly, and yes, the state has me in their database, though I am the lowest level and my name isn’t online for concerned mommies to find. At least as far as I’ve been abel to find out. But I appreciate the state not considering me a huge threat to society, and allowing me to still function as a contributing member of society.
So, as you can imagine, I feel pretty strongly about this issue. The term ‘sex offender’ is pretty broad, and doesn’t generally represent the old stereotype of the creepy guy lurking around the playground with candy in his pocket and a windowless van parked in the shadows. Most of the guys I met were reasonably functional guys who are better served in society than getting gang raped in the prison showers for 20 years. But then they don’t generally approve those guys for rehab anyway. Some criminals are above rehab – but that’s another issue. Most guys realize they committed a crime, are willing to ay the price and get help they might need, and do whatever it takes to stay out of the hole. I think civil commitments are BS, as are these monitors. We are expecting people who have paid their date to society to not even drive through a school zone? Do they have details maps of where they are supposed to avoid? I don’t necessarily know when I am ever 500’ or whatever from a school zone. Seriously, who would?
I’m not coming here in the defence of all sex offenders. Some of them belong locked up forever. But if the courts and the prosecutor feel someone has paid their dues, shouldn’t we let them return to society with some level of freedom attached?
Feel free to ban/refuse to talk to me if you view me as a scumbag. I've made mistakes, and I've paid for them, and am now doing the best I can, GPS-free.