Also, you must have missed this quote here: "The president does oppose same-sex marriage, but he supports equality for gay and lesbian couples, and benefits and other issues, and that has been effectuated in federal agencies under his control,"
You know, it's perfectly possible to oppose something personally but understand that equality is a bigger issue, and act on it federally. He's been far more supportive of the gay community than his predecessor was
Oh, I understand this completely. Personally I'm against it as well. And I know that he's been "more supportive" than Bush, but it still is not enough.
Respect doesn't equal votes. Yes, I'd appreciate that in a president, but he'd get slaughtered by the guy who says "look at everything he's failed to accomplish!" The only thing that matters is being able to convince a weak electorate that what you did do was great and what you didn't do would have been evil. Actions and spin-doctors will kick the shit out of honorable intentions every time.
Of course we're talking about politicians here and everybody expects to pull the convincing argumentative card. And the problem, as we all know, it's if that political discourse will stand through time, and I've noticed that it has finally started to tumble. You may say it's wishful thinking, but if at least ONE politician stands through time advocating the honorable system he will eventually call the attention of others, maybe in new generations, or maybe in hindsight. But as long as just one does it, he will be the guy who made the difference, and that's all that matters.