This will be long
For those who don't know: I'm a social work intern for a hospice right now. I'm graduating from my MSW program in the spring (May/June).
So tonight I went to the office holiday party and my supervisor informed me that one of the three paid social workers just handed in his notice. He's leaving in six weeks to go back to Chicago... so, she said, I will be getting a lot more patients when I return from my vacation (I only have four now, one of them recently died and I'm an intern so they started me off slow... my supervisor, I'm pretty sure, has 20+).
Well, not only does this mean more patients for me, but it also increases the possibility of my being hired when my internship is done (I'm the only intern who does this job). Both my supervisor and the third social worker on staff started as interns in my program. I figured I had no chance since there were three of them already and people have been laid off in the past. However, this changes things a lot. Two social workers cannot adequately handle 70ish patients. Since I have proved myself as pretty competent so far, I doubt they will go looking for another social worker now (I'm free labor)... but come June, there is a strong possibility they could offer me a job.
So, on one hand this is awesome because I like this job a lot and I also like the possibility of not having to search for another one in a few months. However, it brings to the forefront another issue that's been on my mind lately: staying in Denver versus going back east when I graduate.
I love Denver. I could stay here for a long time, even if not permanently. There are things I miss about the east coast, though (the beach, aggressive driving)... and people, mostly. I am totally cool with at least staying and working here a couple more years and then going back to Jersey or somewhere else closer to my family, etc. that isn't so expensive and overpopulated (I've been thinking about Vermont or PA)... BUT I don't know about Tony. He was talking about moving out here a while ago (before he realized he had another year of school), but seems to think he needs to stay in NJ for the music scene, etc. There is a good jazz scene in Denver, but not as big (also not as competitive, though)... and he has stopped talking about moving here, probably because he assumes I will be coming back east. I have not said this, though. I have said I'm not sure wtf I'm doing. He has started talking about checking out music therapy programs there, like one on Long Island a friend of mine is in. I don't think he wants to go straight into grad school, but if he wants to stay east and I want to stay here, this is going to be a problem. I don't want to be in a long-distance relationship anymore
I know obviously nothing can be figured out without talking to him about it. AND there is no guarantee of my internship hiring me, but there is a decent chance... and even if that doesn't work out, I have established many connections here with classmates and professors and whatnot. I know lots of people in NJ, but not many who work for organizations I could live with (i.e. most people who could get me a job work for DYFS and shit
).
Only time will tell. I know it's early and there's no way to know til graduation gets closer, but I can't help thinking about it... and when it comes to Tony, I think it is a conversation that needs to be had sooner rather than later so there are no surprises or misconceptions come May. I'm going to wait until I'm back there next week because I think it's a conversation that needs to be had in person...
So right now I'm just kind of venting and brainstorming a little.
I also don't want to be away from my close friends in NJ
... not to mention (some of) my family. I wish I could just move everyone here... or that the US was a little smaller so Denver wasn't a several-day road trip from where I grew up (but I guess that also adds to the appeal of it
). Blah. It's kind of lose-lose because I will have to sacrifice something regardless (of course I will also gain).
So yeah, just venting. It helps to put it in writing and put it out there.
Any personal experience on this kind of stuff or advice is appreciated... or even just a "yeah, I understand why you're stressing about this" helps, too
I'm not freaking out or anything. It's kind of exciting, the uncertainty. But another part of me just wants to fast-forward and see what happens next.
tl;dr: Jackie may be offered a job in Denver after graduation. Jackie is from NJ. Most of Jackie's family, closest friends and boyfriend are in NJ. Jackie contemplates the possibilities.