Concert Dilemma v. I Just Don't Understand (my friend)

[yeshaberto]

really glad to hear it worked out shadow

[ZBomber]

Better question is why does your mom have your social security card in her wallet?

Quoting myself because I'm curious to the answer.

[hefdaddy42]

So I told my mom. She said "Sell the tickets and find an apartment." She said I have other stuff to pay for (tires and brakes that will cost about 300 dollars, but she previously told me to use my graduation money on it, plus we agreed I would get them AFTER summer).

She said I might be 18. but I don't have any right to make decisions while I am living under my parent's roof.

She also said I am not allowed to go to the Iron Maiden concert, and to pay back my friends with my OWN money (since they can't use my debit card to get in unless I am there and they are paperless tickets)

Also, I am attempting to apply for even more jobs right now, just to see if that will calm her down. She is gone right now, and is rejecting all my phone calls even though I am attempting to get my social security number from her (as I don't know it off the top of my head and she has it in her wallet). So in other words, she is currently preventing me from applying for a job.
I even text her telling her to text it to me.

I stayed calm and collected and never once raised my voice, and simply said, "I understand that I am living under your roof, and I respect that. But I am also 18, and have a right to make certain decisions that do not affect anything regarding you or this house."

Apparently she wouldn't have wanted me driving anyways. I asked her why not, she said "its too far. 10 lane highways, you aren't experienced enough."

Not very much of this makes sense.

[Shadow2222]

Better question is why does your mom have your social security card in her wallet?

Quoting myself because I'm curious to the answer.

Honestly, I think my mom still feels like I am her "baby" and that I can only do so much on my own (therefore her need to carry around any important items of mine). I love my mom, but I am really trying to show her that I can not only stand on my own two feet, but walk and run too.

[ZBomber]

Better question is why does your mom have your social security card in her wallet?

Quoting myself because I'm curious to the answer.

Honestly, I think my mom still feels like I am her "baby" and that I can only do so much on my own (therefore her need to carry around any important items of mine). I love my mom, but I am really trying to show her that I can not only stand on my own two feet, but walk and run too.

Its not even that, so much. I think its just a really unsafe idea to carry around your SSN in your wallet. Aren't you supposed to keep it in a safe secure place? If she ever lost her wallet, you'd be fucked.

[Shadow2222]

That's true...

ANYWAYS, once again I have a dilemma. Because of the brake issue, even though its not serious, my parents won't let me take my car, and the friend that I was going with (who's been becoming quite conceited lately) says that he won't drive nor let me drive his car (because of insurance purposes), so he says he won't go now.

Unless something changes, I have one extra ticket and no way to get to the concert. Anybody willing to take me that might hopefully be passing through Warren on their way to the concert? Please? Or any advice on how to get my friend to change his mind?

[TAC]

Anybody willing to take me that might hopefully be passing through Warren on their way to the concert? Please?

So now you have to explain how some stranger you met on the internet will be taking you to the show?

[glaurung]

Anybody willing to take me that might hopefully be passing through Warren on their way to the concert? Please?

So now you have to explain how some stranger you met on the internet will be taking you to the show?

 

Yeah, mention that to your mom and hope she lets you just use your car.

[Silver Tears]

I would so go with you but I can't drive. Oh, and I live in Scotland.

I guess you can try working on your parents a bit more to see if they change their minds about letting you take the car. That or tell your friend to stop being a douche and drive the two of you there.

[Shadow2222]

My friend responded, "Nope we made an agreement"
And my parents just kind of laughed when I mentioned a DTF member giving me a ride

[Volk9]

Your not suppose to say "Some guy from the internet". Just say a friend from school or something

[reneranucci]

Anybody willing to take me that might hopefully be passing through Warren on their way to the concert? Please?

So now you have to explain how some stranger you met on the internet will be taking you to the show?

[changing_seasons]

I am strangely intrigued by this thread.

[Super Dude]

I noticed you want a stranger to ride with.

[changing_seasons]

I noticed you want a stranger to ride with.

Sure. I assume he'll split the gas money for the ride from Norway?

[Dark Master Of Sin]

Dude, you may be in extreme luck. I'm going to be spending some time in Michigan, and I may be traveling back down to Ohio around that time...I would be going to the Pickerington area...

[Gadough]

How badly do you want to see Maiden?  You could always just sell the Maiden ticket and go see the DT headlining show instead...

That's what I was thinking. Of course the best outcome would be to go to both, but if you can only go to one you might as well go to the DT headliner.

[hefdaddy42]

That's true...

ANYWAYS, once again I have a dilemma. Because of the brake issue, even though its not serious, my parents won't let me take my car, and the friend that I was going with (who's been becoming quite conceited lately) says that he won't drive nor let me drive his car (because of insurance purposes), so he says he won't go now.

Unless something changes, I have one extra ticket and no way to get to the concert. Anybody willing to take me that might hopefully be passing through Warren on their way to the concert? Please? Or any advice on how to get my friend to change his mind?

Oh, come on.

[TimmyHiggy]

Is public transport not an option?

[ZBomber]

GET INTO MY CAR



LETS GO FOR A DRIVE

[Perpetual Change]

See, this is the issue.  You've just completed massive argument where you had to convince your parents that you could be responsible for your own decisions.  And now you're asking them for a ride, because you thought seeing back-to-back Dream Theater shows was more important than getting your breaks fixed.  Your parents probably already told you this, but you can't just have all the freedom without any of the responsibility.  

Anyway, I'd suggest Public Transportation if it's possible.    

[Shadow2222]

Dude, you may be in extreme luck. I'm going to be spending some time in Michigan, and I may be traveling back down to Ohio around that time...I would be going to the Pickerington area...

That would be great, as Pickerington is close to Columbus, but isn't Warren a little out of the way if you are going straight from Michigan to Pickerington? Are you going to the concert (and in need of that extra ticket)?

And you would definitely have to be willing to talk to my parents for at least an hour about who you are, how you won't molest me/kidnap me, etc.

But I would definitely appreciate it.

[Dr. DTVT]

I don't think public transportation would be a real option, because that would limit it to Greyhound, and taking a trip by bus takes planning, and he would probably have to stay in a motel overnight for the return trip - the money spent on it could just as easily be spent on car maintainance, which would be better in the long term.

Aside from all the other teenage jobs mentioned, look for labor jobs, like mowing lawns or garden maintainance.  You will work your ass off, but it will probably pay a little better than minimum wage, and you get to enjoy the summer weather.  I did that one summer in college, and worked at a country club another summer.

This thread makes me realize how great I had it as a kid.  I went to my first concert my senior year of high school, and drove 3 friends to it as well, and never had any problems with the 'rents.

[Shadow2222]

Yeah, I just checked, and while the times I think would work out perfectly, the bus alone would cost 69 dollars.

[Super Dude]

Yeah, I just checked, and while the times I think would work out perfectly, the bus alone would cost 69 dollars.

lol

[Dark Master Of Sin]

Dude, you may be in extreme luck. I'm going to be spending some time in Michigan, and I may be traveling back down to Ohio around that time...I would be going to the Pickerington area...

That would be great, as Pickerington is close to Columbus, but isn't Warren a little out of the way if you are going straight from Michigan to Pickerington? Are you going to the concert (and in need of that extra ticket)?

And you would definitely have to be willing to talk to my parents for at least an hour about who you are, how you won't molest me/kidnap me, etc.

But I would definitely appreciate it.

I would get a free ticket? I would have done it anyways, but hell, I'll look into this for sure! I'll pm you and what not.

I MUST MAKE THIS CLEAR THOUGH:

I AM MAKING NO PROMISES AS OF NOW.

[Shadow2222]

First let me provide an update. I have a 550 dollar a month job now. Not a ton of money, but enough to pay for the basics.

I THOUGHT that was the reason my mother wouldn't let me go originally, even though she had decided to let me go...

Well, apparently something changed, because she just randomly starts going crazy saying I'm not going to that concert and I better sell the tickets if I don't want to lose the money for them.

Keep in mind, that me and my mom have been on better terms than ever recently. WTF?

I really am so goddamn pissed.

[Volk9]

Has she given you a reason or any indication of why?

[Dr. DTVT]

I answered this question in another thread:

FACT - Women are all bat-shit crazy.

[Shadow2222]

Has she given you a reason or any indication of why?

She apparently doesn't feel safe having me going so far away. I understand her sentiments, but what is she going to do when I possibly move away in the next few years, or decide to go on a trip, etc.

[BRGM]

Flee, run, retreat! ESCAPE from her! or make her come with u, then she can protce u=You are safe 

[Setlist Scotty]

Has she given you a reason or any indication of why?

She apparently doesn't feel safe having me going so far away. I understand her sentiments, but what is she going to do when I possibly move away in the next few years, or decide to go on a trip, etc.

Honestly, since she had previously told you that you could go, I think you have every right to follow thru. When she calls you on it after the shows are over, point out to her that she said you could go, and that for her to change her mind on a whim was unreasonable.

[antigoon]

Menopause.

[Plasmastrike]

Aren't you 18?

What a bitch.

[ZBomber]

Just go dude.